[HTCool]

Hello everyone,

I am a 19 year old male diagnosed with ADHD, and I have a problem with lying. Since I was younger I would lie about both large things and the smallest things all because I just didn't think about what was going to come out of my mouth before I said it. I would just blurt out lies for no real reason at all. As I'm older now, I still live with my parents, and I havent told a lie in nearly 5 months since I have found the right dosage of the proper medication. The problem I am having is that these lies keep coming back to haunt me. Things I had forgotten I lied about, come back, and it devastates my family every time. And at this point I just dont remember what I was lying about in the past, I cannot recall them, I think I just put them out of my mind. I always had this deep fear of disappointing my parents, and it caused me to eventually have more problems, the fear and stress of covering up things at school was making me depressed, and it took a long time to get my parents trust back. So now here I am with my parents unable to trust me again because of something that happened 5 months ago, and I didnt even remember I told it. I feel like an honest person now, but I am completely unsure of how to deal with my family, and put this behind me. This stress is starting to make me depressed again, and they think I am lying about being depressed to get out of being in trouble. I don't know if my lying was associated with the ADHD or something else, but I desperately need to get this under control.

[SophiaG]

Well...eventually the effects of you lying have to fade away. You've stopped lying...it'll just take some time for the effects to die down. Be Patient.

[SilverNeurotic]

Keep being truthful, it might take awhile but eventually you'll start earning people's (and your parents) trust again.

[Gabi925]

Originally Posted by HTCool

Hello everyone,

I am a 19 year old male diagnosed with ADHD, and I have a problem with lying. Since I was younger I would lie about both large things and the smallest things all because I just didn't think about what was going to come out of my mouth before I said it."

I never thought that ADHD could be the problem of lying. But thanks for sharing; I have a child with ADHD who has started lying and I started losing trust.

Probably it will take almost as much time as you have lied to regain your parents trust completely. But I think it is going to be better each month and they will respect you for that. If you think it is worthy to have your parents' trust, if you love them; than I am sure you can do it! How could someone protect and help you if you lie to that one?

[jthewright1]

I have a 7 yr old son who has been dx with ADHD this past week and he lies all of the time and tells BIG long drawn out stories on everything. I hope he out grows this.

[TheirKimberly]

I have a ten year old. He was diagnosed bipolar/mood disorder/adhd/etc...and on lithium and risperdal. He's off the meds so we can reevaluate his behavior but I'm pretty sure it's a case of ADHD. He lies all the time about big things and little things. It's been worse since being off the meds. It's very frustrating to deal with and at this point very hard to believe anything he says.

Keep telling the truth. You'll earn their trust back.

[jennaorgana]

when i was younger and when i suffered the worst from ADHD i was basically a pathological liar. i have grown out of this, but i find myself slipping up every once and a while

[eskielover]

I am so glad that you have the right amoung of meds & that you realize that you lied. I hope that you can recognize if lies do come out in the future that you will be able to catch it & make sure you correct what you said as soon as you realize it was wrong. When people /parents finally start to see that everything you say is right & that they can trust what you say to be true, they will start to be able to trust what you say.

The sad thing is that when lies stop, it doesn't immediatally = trust on the other peoples part. Trust takes time to build back up once it has been lost. Then there is always the problem is that once people have been lied to by anyone, they tend ask for proof by everyone....one lying person in a life causes a general mistrust of everyone for ever, but it does lessen with time once they realize they haven't been lied to

This comes from personal experience unfortunatey. My husband of 33 years was finally Dx'ed with adult ADD at the age of 54. All our married life, he would not only directly lie about things, but would lie by not saying anything (lying by omission). The lies he would tell were also many times because he thought that what he was saying was true.....just because he didn't bother making sure he knew the answer to the question. He woud say what he thought was the right answer, but it wouldn't be.......many times things like this cost me a lot of money as they were huge mistakes like on my phone contract or on paying bills. He would say he did something that he didn't do because he thought he did it.

The problem was that he didn't want to change & didn't feel there was a need. That was right at the time I decided to finally walk out of the marriage after 33 years of this....I finally had my way out & I wasn't about to make any consessions at that point or continue to tolerate anything. I know I will never trust him ever again......but then he doesn't care & doesn't want to do anything about building any trust. You are wanting to make the change & fix the problem. When the other people know this & see that there is a positive action on your part, you will be able to build the trust back & they will be willing to work on trusting again.

Be patient....as they have been patient with you when they have found out about the past lies.

Time will help as long as they keep seeing the effort on your part.

Best wishes in your future,
eskielover (Debbie)

[hawthoerne]

i had the same issue, and now that i don't lie, my parents are slowly coming to trust me

[knorman]

Originally Posted by HTCool

Hello everyone,

I am a 19 year old male diagnosed with ADHD, and I have a problem with lying. Since I was younger I would lie about both large things and the smallest things all because I just didn't think about what was going to come out of my mouth before I said it. I would just blurt out lies for no real reason at all. As I'm older now, I still live with my parents, and I havent told a lie in nearly 5 months since I have found the right dosage of the proper medication. The problem I am having is that these lies keep coming back to haunt me. Things I had forgotten I lied about, come back, and it devastates my family every time. And at this point I just dont remember what I was lying about in the past, I cannot recall them, I think I just put them out of my mind. I always had this deep fear of disappointing my parents, and it caused me to eventually have more problems, the fear and stress of covering up things at school was making me depressed, and it took a long time to get my parents trust back. So now here I am with my parents unable to trust me again because of something that happened 5 months ago, and I didnt even remember I told it. I feel like an honest person now, but I am completely unsure of how to deal with my family, and put this behind me. This stress is starting to make me depressed again, and they think I am lying about being depressed to get out of being in trouble. I don't know if my lying was associated with the ADHD or something else, but I desperately need to get this under control.

First of you you need to be proud about not telling a lie for 5 months. that is good work. I too had a problem with getting into situations and lieing or stealing to get out of them. I did this. I sat down in the park on a blanket and stack of paper and a pen. I thought about everyone i hurt, lied to, stole from, harmed. i wrote it all down . and i made ammens to those people. It was a sorry here, and $20 bucks there but slowly i made it throught the list and as i did it got better and better. If you go to them first then they wont come to you and you can get healing from your add, oh and get on some medication. I just starting taking one today, its really my first day its called dextroamphetamine and i dont know much about it ill keep you posted tho if ya like