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Default Jan 25, 2021 at 07:57 AM
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“Zoning out is one of the more common warning signs of ADHD in both children and adults. Zoning out in conversations with family, or meetings at work are a reflection of attention issues, which is a leading sign in the diagnosis of ADHD.”

I was reminded that I did/do this. I first did this when I was young, maybe like 6 y/o.

I have not been diagnosed with ADHD. When I bring it up to psy’s, they dismiss me. My one son did get diagnosed, but it’s very mild.

I do fit much of the criteria.

I’ve been an underachiever my whole life...except when I wanted to do something. Then I’ve been a high achiever, but then bored with it, I quit.

So many diagnoses overlap in traits. Hyperactivity is definitely present in my FOO. IMHO, it is undiagnosed ADHD that drives so much of the dysfunction. How can a family get along who many of them have ADHD? There are other traits that mimic (or are) other disorders.

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Default Jan 25, 2021 at 08:01 AM
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If you feel it’s something that should be checked, find a therapist/psychologist that does full ADHD testing.

You don’t have to stick with your current provider if they are dismissing your concerns.
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Default Jan 25, 2021 at 08:07 AM
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I think I’ll make a list of my traits that feel off to me. I can correlate them to the psychological categories they are in and show how they overlap. Then I can pin the t down for answers. All these two I see now say is I have anxiety. In the past, I’ve seen many drs who have given me some varying diagnoses, or not a diagnosis and I have been obsessing about what is the truth.

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Default Jan 25, 2021 at 08:19 AM
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I’m 45 years old, and just got diagnosed a little over a year ago.

Over the years I, like yourself was diagnosed with several different things... from depression and anger issues to anxiety. Was put on medication for OCD, depression... mostly SSRI’s and Depakote at one time.

Through migraine treatment, and working with a therapist (actually online through my health insurance), I kept hearing “you need to get tested for ADHD”; but my primary doc kept saying I just had severe anxiety.

Worried about getting work done, keeping everyone happy, sleep sucked cause everything from the last 44 years kept running through my brain at night. What medications I had been on always seems to make things worse.

After a long talk with my doc, she still said “I think it’s just anxiety but I’ll do a referral”.

Best referral I’ve ever gotten.

I ended up testing very high on the hyperactive side, and then went through a couple different meds before settling on adderall.

The only real complaint I have right now is “shoulda done this sooner”, but we can’t change the past, only drive into the future.

Make a list. Don’t ask for meds, just focus (or try not to get distracted from) what you are feeling and seeing in your daily life.

And if not satisfied, find a primary doc or therapist that will listen.

And depending on insurance, you may not even need a referral, but I went through my doc anyway to keep the relationship.
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Default Jan 25, 2021 at 09:49 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing your experience that we have in common. It gives me hope! I’ve always expected ADHD. I was usually told by teachers ‘if only you would apply yourself’, but then excelled at other things I liked.

I don’t interrupt though which is a trait of ADHD. But, neither does my son who was diagnosed. He’s quiet and respectful, quite shy too. I will pursue this further. I’m so glad you got to the real issue and feel better!

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“If you’d only apply himself”
“Doesn’t pay attention in class”
“Constantly daydreaming”

Was talking to my mom about it before I got diagnosed, found out my brother (younger than me) and one of his kids has ADHD.

“But your brother was always squirming and getting up and running around and causing problems”

Mom, if I did that what would happen?

“You’d get your butt tore up”

Yup. That’s why I didn’t squirm or run around the classroom.

Man, when I was in grade school, I’d get paddled at school, then when I got home by dad, and it was bad enough once I got it from dad AND mom. I think that’s when I tried to control it better then. Mom tearing my butt up? That one stung.
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