[Bluevelvet]

Hi, I haven't been here for a while but since there have been several incidents happenings which I couldn't figure out, I decided to do an online test to figure out what is finally wrong with me. I scored very highly on Asperger's test; some of the questions were"Yes, that's me!"

-loud, disturbing noises( have to cover my ears when a siren goes by)
-inability to understand social expressions(such as when I irritate someone)
-"immature" interests( that's what I read somewhere)
-inability to fit in a group(social interaction).
-need to spend time alone after social interaction.

Anyway, the main one was a feeling of not having a guide to life-sort of a user manual-like "I don't get it'.

These symptoms come out even more when I'm stressed or overwhelmed. There isn't much recognition where I live of what Asperger's is.Autism is recognized but high-functioning Asperger's hasn't been yet...

I don't talk much about it but it seems to calm down when I'm not stressed and have spent significant time alone.

I hope the dx is right because it would explain a lot of things. I was wondering what you guys do on a daily basis to deal with this?By the way, I'm 47..

imo I would go see a dr that deals only with this and get checked.
You may have to go to the nearest city or farther, I was lucky with my son there was a specailist in the largest city close to us. He has PDD
Here is a article i found.
Also as with anything in life i think syptoms are always more out there when stressed
good luck to you I hope this helps
http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...n_a.html?cat=5

[Bluevelvet]

Thanks Muffy very much for the link to the article; it was very helpful. I meditate to the sound of continuous heavy rain which apparently has something called "theta waves".

Yes, the laughing -out -loud at inappropriate moments touches a chord as well as the empathy.when I do try to show empathy, it appears fake to others when it's not. I'm just embarrassed and don't know how to share my feelings. Thank you again...

[amydidit]

Originally Posted by Bluevelvet

Yes, the laughing -out -loud at inappropriate moments touches a chord as well as the empathy.when I do try to show empathy, it appears fake to others when it's not. I'm just embarrassed and don't know how to share my feelings. Thank you again...

I'm new here too and believe strongly that I have Asperger's as well. What you wrote there I could have written word for word. I'm 35 and haven't found many people near me (a couple, but that's it) who understand about Asperger's in adults. It's nice knowing there are others who feel the same.

[Bluevelvet]

have you taken an online test? there is one at wired.com-I've done several at different sites to check and the scores always come out high. So, I'm going to get a formal diagnosis and have called an association here which gave me a list of doctors who specialize in autism and aspergers. The person did say that most doctors are trained for children and adolescents but I am going to give it a go...It will be a relief for me to finally have something explained.

[roadracer]

those tests really dont tell you much, they only tell you that you have some autism traits, but that is normal for most people to have some traits. I have seens on popular autism boards, were the majority of people were nurotypical parents of a child with autism, I have seen were a large majority of them tested high for aspergers even that they didnt have it.
So, I really dont think those tests tell you much, and there are many different conditions that have similar traits, so if you go to a autism specialist looking for a autism diagnoses, you will probably get one, and might be happy with it, but you cant be sure that it is any of the other number of things till you have considerd the other things. I just think that if you had something like some food intolerance (can cause many aspergers like symtoms) that could easly be fixed, but instead you just went with a aspergers dx because you didnt get checked out for anything else...
anyway, hope you get things figured out and you get your relief

[Bluevelvet]

Hi roadracer, believe me I've tried pretty much everything and I appreciate your comment. If I had food intolerance, I'm not sure covering my ears to ease the discomfort when a loud motorbike or siren goes by fits the bill. I wouldn't permit myself to come to an asperger's board.

The traits are there, I've had therapy for a loooong time and severe bouts of depression.it's my therapist who suggested a professional testing for asperger's just recently and I will go to a specialist to see whether or not it applies. It would explain a lot.

Originally Posted by Bluevelvet

Hi roadracer, believe me I've tried pretty much everything and I appreciate your comment. If I had food intolerance, I'm not sure covering my ears to ease the discomfort when a loud motorbike or siren goes by fits the bill. I wouldn't permit myself to come to an asperger's board.

The traits are there, I've had therapy for a loooong time and severe bouts of depression.it's my therapist who suggested a professional testing for asperger's just recently and I will go to a specialist to see whether or not it applies. It would explain a lot.

((bluevelvet))))))))))))))))))))))))) Im sorry i did not see your post back to me sooner. Your doing the right thing imo to go to a professional.
Let me tell you a secret well i think i have posted it before. When my son was young . I heard everything from...please excuse me on this one. His speech teacher said in kindergarden at a CSE meeting that if he did not have such a full nose. Meaning he needed to blow his nose He would be able to speak ... I had him removed from her class to a different speech teacher.
I heard if his fingers were not so fat he would be able to write
I heard from my Aunt the food intolerance thing. I want you to know I had food testing for allergys done as they all made me feel like I did not know something was differert. He was allergic to nothing. Nothing at all.
He could not speak or write or read because of the PDD. As i know you know ....
Get all the testing you need...find the answers...they will ask you family background., which helps alot...to put the puzzel together.
Please know I believe you ....My son still from time to time has a problem with load noises...truth be known so do I. lol
please know you matter and keep posting

[roadracer]

Originally Posted by Bluevelvet

Hi roadracer, believe me I've tried pretty much everything and I appreciate your comment. If I had food intolerance, I'm not sure covering my ears to ease the discomfort when a loud motorbike or siren goes by fits the bill. I wouldn't permit myself to come to an asperger's board.

The traits are there, I've had therapy for a loooong time and severe bouts of depression.it's my therapist who suggested a professional testing for asperger's just recently and I will go to a specialist to see whether or not it applies. It would explain a lot.

Sorry if I came across wrong, just wanted to say to make sure to cover the other things. Really wasnt saying that food intolerance was your problem, was just saying to check to make sure it is nothing else

anyway, I am autistic and I understand the sensory stuff, I got some pretty severe sensory issues, and it is the worst thing I deal with, so I understand how bad noises and stuff can be. I always carry around ear plugs or my mp3 player in my pocket. I never leave the house without them. It does not always help, but most of the time it at least makes things easier to deal with and I make sure when I go places I have a exit plan, so I know were to go if I am in sensory overload and need some place quiet to calm myself down. I also take medicine that helps some to keep myself calm.

Good luck with your testing

[roadracer]

Originally Posted by muffy

His speech teacher said in kindergarden at a CSE meeting that if he did not have such a full nose. Meaning he needed to blow his nose He would be able to speak ... I had him removed from her class to a different speech teacher.

omg, that lady didnt understand autism at all. Speech never helped me at all, maybe they both learned from the same book

I heard if his fingers were not so fat he would be able to write

for me it was always if I would just hold the pencil correct they couldnt care if I could tie my shoes of button a shirt, if you can hold that pencil just right, you will all a sudden be able to write
funny things I still cant write, maybe my fingers are to fat, lol

Originally Posted by roadracer

omg, that lady didnt understand autism at all. Speech never helped me at all, maybe they both learned from the same book

for me it was always if I would just hold the pencil correct they couldnt care if I could tie my shoes of button a shirt, if you can hold that pencil just right, you will all a sudden be able to write
funny things I still cant write, maybe my fingers are to fat, lol

(((roadracer)))))))))))))))))) lol its funny i expected at least the speech teacher to know things silly me. The next one was great.

yes we also went threw the if he would hold the pencil right too. right down to the thing they put on the pencil so you will hold it right ,,
he still does not ....
Im sorry you went threw alot of the same things ...very true on the shoe tieing thing too. lol
awwwwwww

[Bluevelvet]

Hi ((Muffy and roadracer))), the public misconception of what autism and asperger's are, is devastating. A lot of people even teachers (good and well intentioned as they are) are not aware of the symptoms of dyslexia or dyspraxia, let alone aspergers or autism.

I have another example: my ex was a doctor and we were talking about bone cancer due to a friend being diagnosed.Out of the blue, yours truly said" oh you mean, an osteo(genic) sarcoma?"(medical term for bone cancer) I'm not a doctor but he was shocked into silence as we had never spoken about this, ever.

I seriously don't know where this came from but I read about the "annoying" little professor side to asperger's. I may even be annoying you guys here.

[roadracer]

Originally Posted by Bluevelvet

I seriously don't know where this came from but I read about the "annoying" little professor side to asperger's. I may even be annoying you guys here.

no, believe me, I dont think your annoying anyone here, and dont be afraid that you are going to do something wrong here. I have learned threw trial and error process how to act on message boards, what is aceptable and everything to say. I think your good as long as you dont get people to mad at you. I dont think I have got anyone fired up yet here (and I dont plan to), so I am probably doing good , so as long as you dont offend people your probably doing pretty good.

I just noticed your 47, for some reason I was thinking you were like just graduated high school or something, sorry.
Wondering, do you think your sensory stuff and everything you have troubles with, do you think they were worse when you were a kid/younger? Do you think thing got better and easier to deal with over the years?
I am 25, and I think that things have gotten somewhat better for me. I mean I still have many things that cause me trouble, but things are a improvment from when I was younger

Originally Posted by Bluevelvet

Hi ((Muffy and roadracer))), the public misconception of what autism and asperger's are, is devastating. A lot of people even teachers (good and well intentioned as they are) are not aware of the symptoms of dyslexia or dyspraxia, let alone aspergers or autism.

I have another example: my ex was a doctor and we were talking about bone cancer due to a friend being diagnosed.Out of the blue, yours truly said" oh you mean, an osteo(genic) sarcoma?"(medical term for bone cancer) I'm not a doctor but he was shocked into silence as we had never spoken about this, ever.

I seriously don't know where this came from but I read about the "annoying" little professor side to asperger's. I may even be annoying you guys here.

((bluevelvet)))))))))))))) very true on teachers. It is hard on them too as they are not trained for all of this ., To see...to be aware. I have dyslexia.
I was a child who fell threw the cracks. Thats why I would not let it happen to my son...or tryed not too...I remember the first time he wrote backwards.,..I thought oh no in my head. I took him to the mirror to see it there. He saw it backwards there........sorry i am rambling lol
they could not even pick up on that with him....lo.l let alone the PDD.

Bluevelvet you picking up on terms is something that happens with Autism. Its amazing. My son has done the same ...His teachers were always amazed what he knew. The things that came just blurting out

I have to say not one of you are annoying I maybe am lolol
roadracer you are right I think things do imporve or they change.
All of you are very amazing ppl and kind too

[modelcarguy]

My son has Aspergers and his biggest problem in school was writing. He could not make a paragraph and the teacher could not understand that. Her constant argument was her grandson has aspergers and he has no problem with writing. Therefore I was lying about my son having a problem with it.
My son excells in math. He enjoyed that class. But he still can not write a letter. Somehow he managed to get a 1410 on his SAT test, the highest score in his school.

[Bluevelvet]

Originally Posted by modelcarguy

My son has Aspergers and his biggest problem in school was writing. He could not make a paragraph and the teacher could not understand that. Her constant argument was her grandson has aspergers and he has no problem with writing. Therefore I was lying about my son having a problem with it.
My son excells in math. He enjoyed that class. But he still can not write a letter. Somehow he managed to get a 1410 on his SAT test, the highest score in his school.

Hi, yes, from what I read and I'll try not to generalize, there is usually a concentration of abilities. I'm terrible with math, numbers;they just freak me out because it's all gibberish to me but I'm okay with technology; go figure. . It's a very complex matter;sorry about the teacher making you feel that way.

[Callista]

Originally Posted by modelcarguy

My son has Aspergers and his biggest problem in school was writing. He could not make a paragraph and the teacher could not understand that. Her constant argument was her grandson has aspergers and he has no problem with writing. Therefore I was lying about my son having a problem with it.
My son excells in math. He enjoyed that class. But he still can not write a letter. Somehow he managed to get a 1410 on his SAT test, the highest score in his school.

Oh, yes, because obviously everybody with the same diagnosis is exactly the same!
(Also, autistic people can't use irony. )

[Bluevelvet]

Originally Posted by roadracer

no, believe me, I dont think your annoying anyone here, and dont be afraid that you are going to do something wrong here. I have learned threw trial and error process how to act on message boards, what is aceptable and everything to say. I think your good as long as you dont get people to mad at you. I dont think I have got anyone fired up yet here (and I dont plan to), so I am probably doing good , so as long as you dont offend people your probably doing pretty good.

I just noticed your 47, for some reason I was thinking you were like just graduated high school or something, sorry.
Wondering, do you think your sensory stuff and everything you have troubles with, do you think they were worse when you were a kid/younger? Do you think thing got better and easier to deal with over the years?
I am 25, and I think that things have gotten somewhat better for me. I mean I still have many things that cause me trouble, but things are a improvment from when I was younger

Sorry for the late reply, roadracer. I would say that the noise thing has always been there. It's when I'm under stress or duress that the symptoms show themselves such as in work and/or social situations. But I do have some news: I have been formally diagnosed as having Asperger's today and am about to start a new therapy. It's a bit of a relief at 47. I wish I had known earlier; it does help to know where my limits are and what to do.