[grandma21964]

Well, that's what I need help with. He expects him to remember to turn in his homework for school. I have been working with my grandson for 3 years, which we had not known till now about his multiple diagnosis. He can never remember to turn in his homework. I don't care what I do or how I do it, this little 8 year old cannot remember to turn it in. Getting him to do the work is another story. Love this little guy to pieces but he just cannot do what the other kids can do. My husband jokes with him and pokes fun at him. He thinks this is how you get him to do homework. Well after three years of trying everything nothing works.

Any suggestions from some of you who have Aspergers and multiple diagnosis.

Help!
Grandma

[CantExplain]

I'm hearing that you have a formal diagnosis. Could the person who gave that diagnosis explain it to your husband?

Maybe you can talk to his teacher as far as the school issues are concerned.... for explaining to your husband I think CantExplain's advice is very good.

I agree with talking to a teacher, My daughter has ASD so I know how difficult it is, Also ask your hubby to look online there is a lot of information out there.

[RTerroni]

When I was younger both my Dad and Grandfather had a hard time excepting my diagnosis.

[Rapunzel]

One of the best ways of explaining something to an autistic person is to use Social Stories (TM). You might try it both for explaining turning in homework to your grandson and reminding him to turn it in, as well as maybe to explain autism to your husband.

Social Stories?

I have been to one of Carol Gray's trainings. Writing these stories isn't that hard, but you do have to learn the guidelines and follow them. There are a few important things to know, like not making the child feel picked on by being critical or making fun of him, even unintentionally, in the story. It is a way to use a story to describe a situation and responses in a non-critical way. Maybe the teacher or the school would invest in some training or a book, or you can also find the books in the library or get them from the website.

[Perna]

I have never understand the not "remembering" to turn in homework; doesn't the teacher ask for it or your grandson see others doing it, etc.? I would talk to the teacher, get your grandson a "special" folder in a bright color to hand to the teacher each day or something like that. It is a multi-step process, getting/understanding the assignment, doing it, taking it with one to school and then turning it in at the "right" time. It is not at all intuitive and doesn't make much sense. I can see how after doing it, one can feel one is "done" and not think to do anything else with it; my part is done. . . Maybe some sort of reward system so he gets feedback when he gets home for having turned it in?

Get your husband in the act by making him part of a reward system. They will learn to enjoy/be proud of each other working together? Maybe start with a chart/with stars on it, something like that if your grandson likes doing art. Or get some colorful stickers with sports or whatever else it is your grandson likes? Maybe some he doesn't like versus some he does like so he has to put a sticker he doesn't particularly like on the chart when he forgets but a good one when he remembers.