[Anonymous37919]

There is an autism dating site which is currently allowing free messages to be sent. I sent random messages to a lot of females, only to get a response back saying I don't match either of their filtering settings, yet these filtering requirements are not even displayed. Just seems like a scam site. I'm currently a free member, although I recall paying once ages ago, and I just had the same thing.

Here is the URL.

http://www.autisticdating.co.uk/

[CANDC]

Thanks for sharing your experience. Dating sites can be a risky way to meet people. You never know who might be there.

Meeting people at Psych Central may be less exciting but is a very safe alternative for people looking to make friends.

[Anonymous37919]

Unfortunately, we need friends on our doorstep. There's nothing wrong with having electronic / cyber-pseudo friends too, but it just ain't quite the same as 'in real life' banter. You know?

Getting a girlfriend by other means outwith the Internet just seems IMPOSSIBLE to achieve.

[Perna]

I would go through an autism site, see if anyone there has experience with dating sites, etc.: Dating Agencies for Asperger People | National Autistic Society

[Anonymous37919]

It is sad and unfortunate, but I may have to stop entertaining the thought I will get a bird. There are not even that many autism themed sites anyway. And I know I will never even make friends off the likes of Plenty of Fish, let alone find a partner. No danger.

I also feel really low today.

[Perna]

I've always met people through school or work or hobbies/volunteering. If I were younger and not married I don't know that I would use an online dating site instead. I was in a women's group and a member was doing a lot of online dating and we were "coaching" her and asking questions and figuring things out and while I found it interesting, it was too cold for me.

You don't have a local autism chapter of some group or support group or anything? Don't get discouraged; it's very hard, meeting people that we become good friends with or date! I did not meet my husband until I was 34 and didn't marry until I was almost 39.

[Anonymous37919]

I have every reason to feel discouraged. For you see, I was being supported in a flat and I really enjoyed living there. My infatuation for two people lead to me no longer being allowed there and what I did in response to some fallen out between us has lead to the situation being irreversible. One incident occurred after the other, all because I let my anger take over when I felt nobody was paying attention to me. Now I cannot go back there, and it hurts.

Sure, it was not the greatest of flats in itself, but I had been there for over 3 years. I was fond of the location, the staff and my support. I'm now not even allowed support via them. All my things are still there, but that can be sorted out.

Women just would not want me. Seriously, I look like a stick insect in real life, with glasses and I just don't have man appeal. Sure, people can be attracted to a person of the opposite sex for different reasons, but physical looks (while in my opinion are overrated) do often factor into how the ladies pick their men.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just stung.

[Alleychan123]

Oh I know that site! My friend has it! I personally don't pick my partner by looks. I mean i don't want to date this completely revolting looking person but I mainly look towards the personality. If someone is kind, caring, and generally a good person that I can count on then I'm good. I'm actually crushing on this girl (even though I am a girl) that isn't the prettiest nut her personality is so amazing! I'm sure there's someone out there for you! There's someone out there for everyone!

[Anonymous37919]

Like I said, I contacted people on it and I just got this strange message about their requirements not being a match. But oh well. I've not even got the foggiest idea of what to say to anyone on such websites anyway. It isn't like I have an amazing life or anything.

I already told you about Tagged. Badoo, Facebook, and Twitter is just as bad. Unless you are chatting to sensible people, I find it just is a waste of time.