About facebook, omg - a warning

I just went on Facebook and I have Asperger's. I hate Facebook. I did it for my daughter and to keep more peace in the family. About the only things I will post are pictures with an occasional comment. That is all. I cannot do more than that. Oh, I do caption some pictures. For animals and places, I like to use the scientific names for things and I like being exact about it.

If you befriend someone, ALL of their friends pictures and names are transferred to your Facebook page. You can end up with lots of people you do not know at all. You can delete the ones you don't want. It has not been much fun. It is the opposite of what I need in my life. But it's a challenge to hang onto for my daughter and for me.

I think it is pretty much a huge invasion of privacy. I've been having a real meltdown for other reasons but I did this, anyway. I do not recommend it. Be forewarned. Be careful. Have someone help you if you do it. Don't do it if you can help it. I am not sure I can keep up with it or keep it. Just be very careful if you think you want to do this. It got very complicated for me and was very upsetting. Things have settled down now, though. I think.

Yup, that's one of the many reasons I don't have a FB account. I'm way too private for that. Good luck.

Completely agree. I peeked on it a few times but found it too distressing and will never have an account. I far prefer nature, animals and a few people IRL.

There are privacy settings for who sees your page and your posts. You can set it to friends only and then the friends of friends and the public don't see anything you post. It's pressing lots of buttons to figure out how to customize it and always changing. I hardly ever go on Facebook now, too.

The only thing that it's good for is basically to keep in touch with people. I'll post travel pictures occasionally. That's about all I use it for.

Thanks to all above for your comments! I have deactivated the Facebook account and I need to make a phone call to Facebook to have it deleted permanently. I lasted only 1-2 days. It was an awful experience.

Yes, only a handful of people, animals and nature make sense to me and that is it. I have also found a belief system that I think will get me through.

Between Facebook and the political stuff on TV which has upset me greatly, I've had to find religion!

yeah, i get a lot of people and family telling me that i need to get on and check my facebook. i used to like it because of the games. but now its really hard for me. im never able to go on and go through everything that i have notifications for. and a lot dont even apply to me (such as my friend haveing a friend who has a friend that just changed their profile pic)

sometimes there are support groups on FB, but i end up getting overwhelmed and isolate away.
most of the time i post something on there is to request assistance (such as needing a ride to the vet with on of my cats).

the same overwhelming issue comes up if i try to open my junk/spam mail folder in my email to shift through it and look to see if anything got sent there that was supose to go to my inbox. or when i open my apartments mailbox to find the mailman had left me with an overwhelming amount of ads and menus and junk mail.

Re getting off the awful Facebook, i was wrong, you cannot call them. A phone no. online for doing that belongs to scammers.

You first have to deactivate your Facebook profile. Google how to do that.

To permanently delete Facebook, you have to go onto your profile and then contact the Facebook people. You can still do that after it has been deactivated. I don't know how to do that so you would have to ask around to find out how. I just wanted to say that there is no phone number to contact Facebook about anything, that info was in error.

Thanks. I did that with the privacy settings. Still hated it.

Simply put, Facebook sucks. It's where your brain cells go to die.

It's a waste of time seeing all the 'life events' of people you probably don't even see in person. Not to mention all the friend whoring and "tagging" from other people, such as 'friends of friends' adding you as a friend to increase the amount of "friends" they already have, like it's some popularity contest. You probably don't know who's doing it, and they may never even meet you.

How often do people meet "friends" added on Facebook, or even actually know people on their Facebook personally? Like, if that person you tapped messages to all the time on the messenger was your best buddy that you see a lot, then sure, it's okay for using Facebook for easy contact, getting free fast responses, and things like that, or it can be handy for say, arranging events, and 'get together' parties, or whatever. People enjoy getting a 'like' from time to time, but it's no substitute for in-person socializing. I've deleted tons of accounts over the years due to having an obsessive compulsive disorder, and when I go and sign up a new profile, I find people add me back again, but never really talk to me or acknowledge my comments. It's the same with a lot of message boards nowadays. People go on them, but they only post when they feel like it, thus it ends up boring.

I'm on Facebook again just because I want to locate ways of obtaining bit parts in films, because most other websites operate by upgrading your free membership to get all the features there are, and that can be costly. I've got an IMDb page too, by the way. I'm not going to add the link for it here because it's not worth 'plugging' it anyway.

It's stupid, because unless you're a pro-member of IMDb, you cannot upload a demo reel (not that I have one) and the photos you have will disappear once you are up for a renewal. Everything always has to come with a catch, including dating websites which are just as pointless. It's over $150 for a year to be a pro-member of IMDb. The IMDb forums kind of suck as well.

Facebook is like all popularity cliques online. You just have to say the wrong thing, and everybody deletes you as a "friend" on Facebook or bans you on forums, due to one person causing an argument, and if you ain't as 'popular' as the other person or group, you get the boot. Had this one tart I don't even know do it to me because I asked if someone could get back into a group for zombie film extras, and I too was removed from the secret group, with the lousy explanation that I 'messaged everyone about the film' or something, which I sort of did, but nobody complained to me about it. I'm guessing that was an excuse.

Anyway, I suggest you delete your Facebook and be done with it. Unfortunately, I still kind of need mine to keep tabs on future extras work, but being an extra in a film isn't always that big a deal. Is it?

@PrairieCat I know an easier way to get your Facebook account deleted that doesn't involve calling numbers or emailing the staff. It's actually very easy to do.

Anyway, when you sign in, visit your wall. At the very top of the screen on a laptop, there will be an icon that looks like a padlock. Click that and the pop down menu has a "Help" option. Look for the bit that says something like, if you can't see a solution, visit the Help Center.

You will see a page with an owl at the top. To the left, there will be a Manage Your Account link. Click on it. Go to the section called Deactivating & Deleting Accounts. Look for where it has the 'how do I delete my account?' part.

In a paragraph that explains how to do this, there will be a 'let us know' link, usually highlighted in blue. Click that. It will let you enter a password and security grid to begin the process of deleting your account. It will say it can take up to 14 days. You'll then automatically log out. If you don't want the account removed after all, you can log back in within that 14 days, but if you choose to delete it again, it may delay your profile being removed.

I had a personal FB account for many years on which I wasted much time, kept in touch with friends, learned much and shared information which I found interesting. I deleted that account as a liability and now only maintain a FB page for my business, which has been remarkably effective in promoting sales, so I would be a hypocrite to trash Facebook, but I wouldn't maintain a personal account. LinkedIn is a sufficient venue to establish your experience and credentials and make sure your name shows up in a Google search if someone is vetting you for a transaction, but a personal Facebook account is an open invitation for me to act like a wacko, as I've already demonstrated on this forum.

Bebo was just as bad as Facebook. People were slowing your connection down with 'stickers' that took an eternity to load up. Well, Bebo had a better layout, at least. Love is rare. You can only give one a day.

Really?

No, not a big deal but I did it once. Stayed up all night and made $40. Lost my best ring in the outdoor toilet, too! It was called "The Cowboy Way" with Keifer Sutherland and one other guy, Woody Harrellson. It was fun.
Peter, if you love doing this, keep doing it. Be an extra. It can lead to more jobs eventually. What about the Actor's Union or is that it???? Imdb? I thought Imdb was just for lists & info on films. There are lots of peoplle where I live who do it, they are extras in films, mainly they get into character acting and boy, oh boy, are they characters! I am interested in this. PM me if you'd like. Best Regards.

I must say, there are a lot of celebrities that act like total douche bags to people. I'm friends with a woman on Facebook who has been an extra in so many movies. She has more than 100 uncredited or background parts in many well known films.

She said Sylvester Stallone called her a 'B' word when they were filming the ending to Cobra. She can be seen as a reporter for a second, and he was rude to her because she was asked to step aside. It's a shame that people get treated like that by the stars, but celebs are just people too. Fame has a dark side we rarely see.

After joining Facebook and Twitter, I no longer care about some singers anymore. Some of what they post is offensive.

i like facebook.
i love it because of the autism support groups im on,ive helped to educate a lot of parents on autism issues and ive made a lot of good friends who i have met or will meet up with at some point.
ive gained good support off people there and some of the groups are hard to get trolls or fakes on because of registration requirements and having secret status.

i also like keeping in contact with my family and support staff who i had years gone by and i meet up with them still, i like to see photos of their pets and kids, i have two nieces i like to see to but their mum is very private and doesnt put much about them on.
the only problem ive got is any arguement on fb is made public, i had a massive argument-one sided with my sister,and ive cut all ties with her as her behavior towards me was disgusting,but everyone saw her treatment of me,and i coud hardly delete it as it had been seen already.
she bullied all of my autistic mates because they defended me, and then when i unfriended her she ranted about my so called behavior,called me swear words,said my behavior was another swear word and said she wants time away i only think about myself and think the world revolves around me,she clearly was projecting her behavior onto me,and is very resentful about the fact i have disabilities and get more 'attention'.
i wish she had done this face to face,as she woudnt have been as nasty, people hide behind facebook and behave how they want,its not just my sister who does it.

I'm no longer interested in Facebook, or Twitter. It's just nothing but hassle. I've been stabbed in the back by a woman I stuck my neck out for who was working on a film I was in, who made me look a fool. All I actually did was ask an ex production assistant a question, as some sort of favor to this other person. And I didn't flame anybody.

I also had some mistress emailing another mistress at a BDSM venue, saying I'm a stalker. That's not even my kind of scene at all; I just went there a few times because I got talking to some Hispanic woman who was there temporarily as a sex worker and a sub. Next thing I know, this person who saw me reviewing stuff on another forum contacted them. Yap. Yap. Yap. Yap. Yap. You know? A freaking whistle-blower.

Also had this tart on the Meetup site deny me access to this horror films group because I said I was suffering from anxiety, and did an unfair stint in jail. Oh dear! We can't have people like that in our presence, because we're all angels. Not!

Ain't that something? This Kate person and the other person I know on Facebook had a fight. I've never met them. So one day, I asked she let this other extra back into a Facebook group, where guests could not see the posts. Then all these people that knew this Kate, well...they all badmouthed me on a secret thread. But I only knew about it because I was informed in a PM about it.

A, that's unprofessional, and B, I didn't do half the things they said I did. Just a bunch of twats wanting to be famous. Had the make-up person saying I called her 'private number' (all BS - it's available on her site) and all I actually did was ask when the filming date was. That's really "harassing" someone. Bunch of manners free and clique a-holes.

The woman I stood up for also went and stabbed me in the back too. I just happened to be on someone's page and saw her talking about me. Gee, it's not that much of a shock, considering I've seen it all before. Bought the shirt.

It's nice too how people can make their Twitter feed private so you can't see all the reputation-soiling going on. I'm referring to you, @Nico_Croft. She's some actress from Glasgow who blocked me because I gave an OPINION over something. Before that, she was fine with me.

Yeah. Another snake in the grass. She tweeted to @CustodianShort, and I saw one day they blocked him. Since she follows that account, it didn't take me long to realize the cow blabbed.

I just wanted to be an extra in some short films made by these no name people, and this is all the thanks I get for bothering. When you tell them you have anxiety too, they don't care. All they care about is getting money from the public and you get a measly thank you, which is no big deal. That's it.

Highly unprofessional.