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snarkydaddy · Dec 16, 2016 at 05:19 PM

I received a call today about the test results from cognitive testing. the call was about that & when I can come in for further testing & to develop a plan.

I found out something i really did not want to know about, my IQ which I had received from similar testing when I was a boy. It makes me feel more isolated then before. When I was a kid I tested out with 145...now it is 158. This scares the hell out of me. I can not express how this confirmation just makes me feel more alienated. It was also confirmed I have high functioning Aspergers.

I knew I was different or more to the point could not relate to others very well, and it has often been a struggle: from being made fun of by both adults and my fellow classmates. Told I was weird, strange or eccentric...I am sure you have heard these things to...ugh

And this further exacerbates my personal life with my primary relationship which is already more complicated then I can handle somedays. I really need that support...

I hope whatever plan my psycologist comes up with helps me cope with this.

Christina86 · Dec 16, 2016 at 07:51 PM

Well, congratulations on the IQ score. I know that's extremely high!

I'm sorry that it causes you issues though. But I'm glad you have a psychologist to figure things out with.

leejosepho · Dec 16, 2016 at 08:01 PM

Mine when I was young was just a little below yours, and I do understand how a high number can exacerbate a sense of oddness...and yet I do believe our ability to be self-aware can help in the social department. My best to you and your psychologist...

snarkydaddy · Jan 05, 2017 at 07:25 PM

As I was reminded today that HFA is no longer called HFA. High Functioning Asperger vs High Functioning Autism. I see there is still a debate going on about this still after the 2013 change. So I will just need to remember when communicating not to call it Aspergers.

CobolCapsule · Jan 05, 2017 at 09:40 PM

High functioning and aspergers aren't used to describe the disorder anymore. ASD or autistic spectrum disorder is what you hear these days.

leejosepho · Jan 06, 2017 at 08:24 AM

I have never talked with a professional willing and able to offer an adult diagnosis, but I still use AS/HFA and/or Asperger Syndrome to describe what I believe true about myself where there is absolutely nothing to be gained by my using ASD-NOS.

CobolCapsule · Jan 06, 2017 at 11:46 AM

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I have never talked with a professional willing and able to offer an adult diagnosis, but I still use AS/HFA and/or Asperger Syndrome to describe what I believe true about myself where there is absolutely nothing to be gained by my using ASD-NOS.

I am merely referring to the clinical description used by most doctors anymore.

I personally don't put a label on myself. I just know i am very high on the spectrum, but i don't like to separate myself from the rest of society by using any label.

snarkydaddy · Jan 06, 2017 at 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by leejosepho

I have never talked with a professional willing and able to offer an adult diagnosis, but I still use AS/HFA and/or Asperger Syndrome to describe what I believe true about myself where there is absolutely nothing to be gained by my using ASD-NOS.

It took me quite a while for me to personally get to that point. As a kid I was given a dx of dyslexia but that never quite fit, but I accepted it and it was diagnosed using almost the identical type of testing that was recently used. So it is the opinion of the mental help professionals involved that I never had dyselxia.

I had to be very persistent to get this dx. For me it gives me context and the cbt is a very much helping me understand some social or societal things I have difficulty with in addition to being clueless.

snarkydaddy · Jan 06, 2017 at 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CobolCapsule

I am merely referring to the clinical description used by most doctors anymore.

I personally don't put a label on myself. I just know i am very high on the spectrum, but i don't like to separate myself from the rest of society by using any label.

I tried to convince myself for a very long time that I could fit in and identity with what was important to others. But it always made me very unhappy or turned and disaster.

It has been quite a struggle. But now I have context for this... it was not something I really considered, that my intelligence and the way i process information would be a barrier. But that is the truth of it.

BadWolfC · Jan 07, 2017 at 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by CobolCapsule

I personally don't put a label on myself. I just know i am very high on the spectrum, but i don't like to separate myself from the rest of society by using any label.

Quite the opposite for me. I have always been noticeably different than the rest of society, and rather than avoid it I've learned to embrace it. It's quite freeing, for me anyway.

BadWolfC · Jan 07, 2017 at 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by snarkydaddy

I tried to convince myself for a very long time that I could fit in and identity with what was important to others. But it always made me very unhappy or turned and disaster.

It has been quite a struggle. But now I have context for this... it was not something I really considered, that my intelligence and the way i process information would be a barrier. But that is the truth of it.

I'm curious (because I'm very similar), in what way did trying to identify with others make you unhappy? I've known for years that my intelligence is part of the reason I struggle to relate to people, though I have no idea what my IQ is.

snarkydaddy · Mar 04, 2017 at 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by BadWolfC

Quite the opposite for me. I have always been noticeably different than the rest of society, and rather than avoid it I've learned to embrace it. It's quite freeing, for me anyway.

I know this is true about me, not really something I like or embrassed. But it is the truth that I do think differently and look at things with a minority view. I have gotten use to it.

After I have moved I will be taking group CBT to address some of my differences. Having confirmed through the all the test I took that in fact I am different helps explain contextually choices I have made.

I think now I would like to explore why I have limited attachment.

PrairieCat · Mar 05, 2017 at 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by cobolcapsule

high functioning and aspergers aren't used to describe the disorder anymore. Asd or autistic spectrum disorder is what you hear these days.

but we will all still call is asperger's for a long time to come.

snarkydaddy · Mar 06, 2017 at 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by PrairieCat

but we will all still call is asperger's for a long time to come.

that is true... even my psychologist & therapist use it interchangeably... In this case LVL1 Autism and Aspergers is the same thing.

leomama · Dec 09, 2018 at 07:41 PM

Hi Snarky, how is it going? Give us an update. Love you.

leomama · Dec 10, 2018 at 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by snarkydaddy

I know this is true about me, not really something I like or embrassed. But it is the truth that I do think differently and look at things with a minority view. I have gotten use to it.

After I have moved I will be taking group CBT to address some of my differences. Having confirmed through the all the test I took that in fact I am different helps explain contextually choices I have made.

I think now I would like to explore why I have limited attachment.

Did you ever find an answer?

leomama · Dec 10, 2018 at 06:52 AM

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Originally Posted by snarkydaddy

I tried to convince myself for a very long time that I could fit in and identity with what was important to others. But it always made me very unhappy or turned and disaster.

It has been quite a struggle. But now I have context for this... it was not something I really considered, that my intelligence and the way i process information would be a barrier. But that is the truth of it.

I’m def finding that my intelligence can be a challenge ...

leomama · Dec 10, 2018 at 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by snarkydaddy

I received a call today about the test results from cognitive testing. the call was about that & when I can come in for further testing & to develop a plan.

I found out something i really did not want to know about, my IQ which I had received from similar testing when I was a boy. It makes me feel more isolated then before. When I was a kid I tested out with 145...now it is 158. This scares the hell out of me. I can not express how this confirmation just makes me feel more alienated. It was also confirmed I have high functioning Aspergers.

I knew I was different or more to the point could not relate to others very well, and it has often been a struggle: from being made fun of by both adults and my fellow classmates. Told I was weird, strange or eccentric...I am sure you have heard these things to...ugh

And this further exacerbates my personal life with my primary relationship which is already more complicated then I can handle somedays. I really need that support...

I hope whatever plan my psycologist comes up with helps me cope with this.

I imagine a relationship between two highly intelligent individuals would be challenging but what’s the alternative? I mean I suppose a genius man does not need an intellectual equal if she loves him . I’m trying to imagine that scenario. Perhaps a genius would find a simple woman a comfort. I myself tried that way and it was destructive. This is such a complex topic. I would love it if you would come back and participate.

MickeyCheeky · Dec 10, 2018 at 12:26 PM

I'm so sorry everyone is struggling

Sending many hugs to everyone

Dec 12, 2018 at 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by leomama

I imagine a relationship between two highly intelligent individuals would be challenging but what’s the alternative? I mean I suppose a genius man does not need an intellectual equal if she loves him . I’m trying to imagine that scenario. Perhaps a genius would find a simple woman a comfort. I myself tried that way and it was destructive. This is such a complex topic. I would love it if you would come back and participate.

Intelligence has nothing to do with relationships. Similar to how a disability has nothing to do with driving as long as you're able to drive and do it skillfully. I've been on both extremes of intelligence, I used to be very smart but now I am only somewhat smart academically and much dumb when it comes to socializing. It's related with my dysthymia.

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Christina86 Legendary Member Since Feb 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 19,686 (SuperPoster!) 18 2,039 hugs given	Dec 16, 2016 at 07:51 PM #2 Well, congratulations on the IQ score. I know that's extremely high! I'm sorry that it causes you issues though. But I'm glad you have a psychologist to figure things out with. __________________
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snarkydaddy Grand Member Member Since Feb 2014 Location: USA Posts: 982 10 7 hugs given	Jan 05, 2017 at 07:25 PM #4 As I was reminded today that HFA is no longer called HFA. High Functioning Asperger vs High Functioning Autism. I see there is still a debate going on about this still after the 2013 change. So I will just need to remember when communicating not to call it Aspergers.
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CobolCapsule Member Member Since May 2016 Location: Dallas Posts: 289 8	Jan 05, 2017 at 09:40 PM #5 High functioning and aspergers aren't used to describe the disorder anymore. ASD or autistic spectrum disorder is what you hear these days. __________________ ASD, GAD, ADHD, OCD. BP W/ mixed features Wellbutrin Paroxetine Risperidone Methylphenidate PRN
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leomama Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2014 Location: USA Posts: 4,703 10 172 hugs given	Dec 09, 2018 at 07:41 PM #15 Hi Snarky, how is it going? Give us an update. Love you.
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MickeyCheeky Legendary Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Italy Posts: 11,817 (SuperPoster!) 8 38.4k hugs given	Dec 10, 2018 at 12:26 PM #19 I'm so sorry everyone is struggling Sending many hugs to everyone
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