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I have PDD-NOS, which is an atypical form of Autism. Recently, I've been considering going into transitional housing. I'm 28 and have been living with my dad for 10 years. He just turned 60 on March 2nd. He wants to retire at 62 and has lived in the same townhome since I was three months old. From the time I was four until about 18, I lived with my mother. Moved back in with him when I was 18 once my mom became mentally unstable. My adult life has been very difficult. I tried getting a job and an education through a program called DORS, a vocational rehab agency here in MD, but they weren't much help.
I also get triggers because I'm only a couple blocks away from where I was abused and molested. My dad won't move out with me unless I have a job to help pay rent. If I move into a transitional home, he can find a one bedroom for him and the cat. I'm estranged from most of my family, have very few friends and I feel like my life is at a standstill. The transitional place that did contact me has homes throughout MD and PA. Should I go through with this? I have nothing else to lose at this point. |
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Well... not being familiar with the place that contacted you, or the broader circumstances of your life either, I don't think I could offer an opinion as to what you should do here. (Perhaps the decision has already been made?)
I guess the one observation I could make would be that, since your dad is 60 and you're 28, presumably you're going to have a lot of years to live after he's gone. You'll need to be able to be as independent as possible at that point particularly since you mentioned you're estranged from the rest of your family. So beginning to take some steps toward independence now would seem to make sense to me. Whether or not the transitional housing opportunity that has been offered you is the right step to take now is something I don't think I'm in a position to say. Best wishes... P.S. Welcome to MSF. I hope you're finding being here on the forums to be of benefit. |
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