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Life seems enjoyable as long as I don't feel upset over anything lost or misplaced or something bad happening at the last minute. I feel like I'm treated like I am a bad fixation waiting to happen that would ruin everything. It has made me kind of wish I had turned out different. It makes me feel all around crappy when I have times like that. I had trouble with this over the years and as a result, I was a real target resentment.
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This feels familiar! Most people will feel uncomfortable being around a person who is upset because often they feel helpless, which can also bring up feelings of shame and anger - this is more about them than you, but it’s almost impossible to parse those things out in the moment. It’s difficult knowing how to help the upset person, especially because there’s a risk they will lash out at us; it feels personal even when it isn’t.
On the other hand, as you’ve likely found, this is a time when other people can seem callous (or reveal their lack of empathy, depending) in an attempt to shut the other person down, so they can stop feeling uncomfortable. Not helpful or good in the short or long term for the other person. |
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I try to keep that in mind. I realize that a lot of the problem was because I was trying to do several things at once and not having very good organizational skills.
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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I have a friend who I think would relate to this. Sending hugs
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