[AzulOscuro]

I heard in a radio program where a guy with Asperger’s syndrome told about his childhood and adolescence went through lots of difficulties because some people as As$holes and they can even accept other people are different to them.

Thanks god, there are many people different to these brainless bullies.

[Yaowen]

I have been bullied before. It was awful.

[zapatoes]

Yes I moved around every few years and experienced mean girls in middle school and high school. It was kind of fun moving around often, except being the new kid every few years was sometimes challenging. Being different is often more interesting than being normal and being normal is overrated. It is difficult not being a neurotypical.

[zapatoes]

If I could be neurotypical life would be much easier or so it seems.

[sarahsweets]

Ive had a “mean girls” experience. Then I found some self assurance and gonads and stopped taking it.

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[AzulOscuro]

It will take me a time to reply to your responses. On one hand, because the thread was addressed to people with Asperger’s syndrome but on another hand I want to talk with each one of you about your experience. Because I’m very concerned about this topic in general. But I need to think deeply what to ask you because I know (not for my own experience since I was the one who bullied myself) but I guess your situation had to be a nightmare and my understanding is that it’s a very touchy topic for you all.

I’m sorry so much, so much that you all had to go through this.

[Mountaindewed]

Yeah I am autistic and was bullied from preschool into the work place. It didn't help that I have a speech issue where I can not pronounce my R's or my S's. Things did get a lot better after I was done with high school and I only dealt with a few rude people as an adult. No clue what it will be like when I return to work. Especially now.

[The_little_didgee]

I'm a person with ASD and a speech impediment who has also endured bullying in school. It got so bad that I had to switch schools.

My literal nature, "odd" interests and problems with face recognition (prosopagnosia) did not help me make friends at all. It all made me stand out and not in a good way.

In my experience the worst bullies were female. Lady drama is what I call it. I have avoided workplaces where most of the employees were ladies for this one reason. -- I have never been bullied at work.

Bullying has left an indelible mark on me. There is nothing harmless about it.

[zapatoes]

Well, have something similar to what used to be called Asperger’s and now called high functioning autism, have NVLD, non verbal learning disorder. So yes not always understanding non verbal communication makes me different than neurotypicals.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

Yeah I am autistic and was bullied from preschool into the work place. It didn't help that I have a speech issue where I can not pronounce my R's or my S's. Things did get a lot better after I was done with high school and I only dealt with a few rude people as an adult. No clue what it will be like when I return to work. Especially now.

Such a long time being bullied. That makes me recall how stupid some people can be.
I wish when you return to work find normal and not brainless people.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by The_little_didgee

I'm a person with ASD and a speech impediment who has also endured bullying in school. It got so bad that I had to switch schools.

My literal nature, "odd" interests and problems with face recognition (prosopagnosia) did not help me make friends at all. It all made me stand out and not in a good way.

In my experience the worst bullies were female. Lady drama is what I call it. I have avoided workplaces where most of the employees were ladies for this one reason. -- I have never been bullied at work.

Bullying has left an indelible mark on me. There is nothing harmless about it.

I understand how hard had to be being treat as if you were inferior. Only for having some different characteristics as we all really have. Because this is the true. We are all different some way or another.

Females tend to be very judgemental with other females, due to rivalry.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by zapatoes

Well, have something similar to what used to be called Asperger’s and now called high functioning autism, have NVLD, non verbal learning disorder. So yes not always understanding non verbal communication makes me different than neurotypicals.

I understand you. I also have some difficulties reading non verbal communication, but I haven’t been diagnosed. Maybe it’s not so much as to be diagnosed with it as in your case.
Oh my god! Having to move to one place to another, it had to be very difficult thus.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Ive had a “mean girls” experience. Then I found some self assurance and gonads and stopped taking it.

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Well for you! 👍
Sometimes, it has to be like that but you need to find the strength and strong enough to face to the consequences. Thanks god, you got rid of it victoriously.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by zapatoes

If I could be neurotypical life would be much easier or so it seems.

Yes, being normal. This has been all I’m being expiring for so long. Now, I don’t care.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

I have been bullied before. It was awful.

Why? Maybe because you are smart and intelligence. That kinds of things rose envy. Or maybe because you were shy. This is another extended reason in the world today.

[Discombobulated]

I don’t have a diagnosis, but I score high on AQ test and I do have traits consistent with some aspects of autism.

Yes I was bullied in high school, and I think that will stay with me always although in some ways it gave me a deeper understanding of others suffering/injustices.

My own thoughts are that AS people are often naive about others intentions, and that can make them a target. Yes absolutely it’s been my experience that girls were so much more adept at cruelty, and you’re probably right Azul about competitiveness. I think at least one of my bullies came from an abusive home too. The saddest thing was I just wanted her to like me - and she would use that sometimes by pretending she was my friend only to switch. Even now I remember the pain of just wanting to be liked/fit in, but I never did fit in the mainstream and even now only have a small group of friends.

Can I ask do you ask this question for a reason? I think you wrote your nephew is AS? Is he doing okay?

[RoxanneToto]

I was diagnosed with autism at 17, but it was a misdiagnosis - I have C-PTSD, which has overlapping key symptoms with autism (I displayed all of them). That said, I experienced a lot of bullying in all the schools I went to, and suspect I’m not neurotypical anyway.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by Discombobulated

I don’t have a diagnosis, but I score high on AQ test and I do have traits consistent with some aspects of autism.

Yes I was bullied in high school, and I think that will stay with me always although in some ways it gave me a deeper understanding of others suffering/injustices.

My own thoughts are that AS people are often naive about others intentions, and that can make them a target. Yes absolutely it’s been my experience that girls were so much more adept at cruelty, and you’re probably right Azul about competitiveness. I think at least one of my bullies came from an abusive home too. The saddest thing was I just wanted her to like me - and she would use that sometimes by pretending she was my friend only to switch. Even now I remember the pain of just wanting to be liked/fit in, but I never did fit in the mainstream and even now only have a small group of friends.

Can I ask do you ask this question for a reason? I think you wrote your nephew is AS? Is he doing okay?

The thread came from a sad event that happened here in Spain a few months ago. A young guy, Samuel, a brilliant guy, a creative guy, a rapper, was stabbed under a tunnel by a Latin gang. Samuel died because of the stab wounds.
The thing is that he had Asperger’s syndrome and it seems “the reason” for his homicide was a misunderstanding between him and a member of this gang. A misunderstanding that had to do with his condition. You know, these people have no filters, they find hard to socially understand others.

I knew of this event through TV and a podcast where topics like these, are deeply analysed and the son of the person who hosts this podcast happens to be a person with the syndrome. He talked about the terrible experiences he suffered at school and secondary education about bullying.

As I’m a teacher I was always concerned about bullying in general, and in this case, as my nephew was diagnosed with AS, I was wondering how much society knows about this syndrome and how much it can be target of bullying.

Of course, I wonder up to which point my nephew feels apart from others in school and if he is treat in a different way.
I know how sensitive he is and I see he sometimes feels excluded even when he’s with us. I can see it in his face. I rapidly approach to him and play or tell him something to show how much I love him and distract him by asking him to help me or bringing up a topic I know he’s interested in.

I know how cruel people can be, especially the ignorant ones and those who lack of empathy.

It seems my nephew is going pretty well so far. He turned 11 some days ago. He’s lucky because he has loving parents and family.

You never told me about your traits of autism. Is it the same as me, lack of social skills because of social anxiety or lack of self-confidence?
I’m very sorry that you were bullied. There’s no reason for a kid suffering because others mess with him/her or ignore him/her.

I have seen so much in the school I’ve worked in.
Any stupid reason such as, race, shyness, physical appearance, sex orientation, place of origin, etc. whatever may spark hate and bullying from others.
I have had kids called terrorists only because they were muslins.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by RoxanneToto

I was diagnosed with autism at 17, but it was a misdiagnosis - I have C-PTSD, which has overlapping key symptoms with autism (I displayed all of them). That said, I experienced a lot of bullying in all the schools I went to, and suspect I’m not neurotypical anyway.

I know what PTSD is but What does C-PTSD stand for?
Btw, and over all, I’m very sorry you were bullied. Bullies stink.

[Discombobulated]

The world needs more teachers like you Azul, it’s good you are so aware of bullying with your students. The one teacher I told about the bullying didn’t act on it and I never told anyone else about it. But this was the old days (1980s).

Yeah with me it’s mainly social deficits! I can be literal, and if I’m interested in something I find out everything about it. I’ve had a lifetime of working to fit in, but didn’t realise not everyone has to do that, I’m pretty good at observing and taking notes however.

I’m sure your nephew will do well with good family support, and that he’ll have many strengths also.