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cleo243 · Oct 08, 2019 at 06:47 AM

So sad today.
I've been isolating for years, only my sister as a friend. Today she kicked me to the curb for nothing (she has mental illness also and sometimes goes off about minor things). I really need someone to relate to, and I need help getting out of my isolation. Hoping someone out there can correspond with me. I'm in therapy in testing but today and yesterday so anxious that I'm about to jump out of my skin. Told my sister this and she won't talk to me. Hurts so bad.

Hoping someone can be a 'friend' here while I'm trying to cope through this....

Buffy01 · Dec 26, 2019 at 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I've been hurt so many times by people I trusted. IRL. I won't go into details. I've decided to return to my old "coping" mechanism, of isolation. Don't get close, don't agree to talk to anyone every day, don't share who you really are. Dont care "too much".
This is in Real Life, (3D) I've known people there who have used and hurt me emotionally. I think they think I'm easy to hurt.

I feel like this all the time. People do this to me all the time.

Buffy01 · Dec 26, 2019 at 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by katydid777

Dear, Sweet Fuzzy, I also have been hurt, and am still being hurt, even in my own home. I isolate as much as I can get away with. I tried to get out yesterday. I showered, dressed, fed the dogs, I did everything I needed to do, to be able to get out. When it came down to it, the 3 people that I felt comfortable enough to get out to see, had other plans. It took a lot for me to even want to go somewhere, but it was not meant for me to get out. My point to you is that you are not alone, there are many of us. I can't even get away from the ones that are in MY HOME!!!!!!!! (((((((LOVE, THOUGHTS, BIG HUGS, and PRAYERS)))))))

I understand. I feel like this all the time.

HD7970GHZ · Feb 13, 2020 at 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I've been hurt so many times by people I trusted. IRL. I won't go into details. I've decided to return to my old "coping" mechanism, of isolation. Don't get close, don't agree to talk to anyone every day, don't share who you really are. Dont care "too much".
This is in Real Life, (3D) I've known people there who have used and hurt me emotionally. I think they think I'm easy to hurt.

Hi Fuzzy Bear!

My teddy bears send safe hugs and we want you to know that you are okay just the way you are. You protect yourself and dip your toes into the water when you are ready.

I also avoid humans - they can be really abusive and evil.

Do you have anyone in your life who is safe? Anyone at all?

I am still searching...

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

Fuzzybear · Feb 14, 2020 at 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ

Hi Fuzzy Bear!

My teddy bears send safe hugs and we want you to know that you are okay just the way you are. You protect yourself and dip your toes into the water when you are ready.

I also avoid humans - they can be really abusive and evil.

Do you have anyone in your life who is safe? Anyone at all?

I am still searching...

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

Thank you HD

Hugs from my teddy bears back to you

I do have a couple of safe people in my life (only one irl)

Fuzzybear · Feb 14, 2020 at 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ

Hi Fuzzy Bear!

My teddy bears send safe hugs and we want you to know that you are okay just the way you are. You protect yourself and dip your toes into the water when you are ready.

I also avoid humans - they can be really abusive and evil.

Do you have anyone in your life who is safe? Anyone at all?

I am still searching...

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

I agree humans can be really abusive and evil

I would love to have a dog. I so often read about other peoples dogs (or cats)..
My allergies mean I can't have a pet grr.

I do have some teddy bears though as you know

Fuzzybear · Feb 15, 2020 at 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ

Hi Fuzzy Bear!

My teddy bears send safe hugs and we want you to know that you are okay just the way you are. You protect yourself and dip your toes into the water when you are ready.

I also avoid humans - they can be really abusive and evil.

Do you have anyone in your life who is safe? Anyone at all?

I am still searching...

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

Thanks for saying I am ok just the way I am. I feel like I have ''shared'' tmi… a couple of things have made me feel a bit ''paranoid'' lately

hugs to you

HD7970GHZ · Feb 26, 2020 at 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by lynn09

Yes, those of us who can be easily hurt attract abusers like sharks! Human beings are predators and many people allow their predatory natures to rule them, seeking out those of us they consider to be "prey" on whom to inflict pain and damage. Based on my personal experience in life, there are more people out there who are willing to hurt you than to help you. We have to be very discerning about who we allow into our inner sanctums - who we allow ourselves to trust. Isolation is just protective mode - your safe place - the starting point from which you carefully and cautiously venture out to interact with others. I know all too well how you feel right now - I have had nothing but betrayal after vicious betrayal of my trust since the moment I became ill and disabled 10 years ago. I have also isolated myself as a result - but that's okay - I will learn to be more discerning (even at my ripe old age) before I venture out again. I tend to give people more credit than they deserve and trust them too easily - I'm revamping this philosophy and habit so that I won't appear to others as such easy prey!! This rose is going to grow some thorns! Maybe I should even learn how to growl like you - grrr....grrr...grrrr...ack...cough - I'll have to practice.

Hi Lynn09, I just wanted to say that I relate to what you wrote. It captures the inner experiences of the world as an empath and survivor of repeated traumas. As in, Complex PTSD. Thanks, HD7970ghz

Fuzzybear · Mar 02, 2020 at 07:33 PM

''Considering Fuzzybear's background of abuse, trauma, neglect etc

trying to tease apart mood and personality effects is exceptionally challenging. No ordinary T or pdoc will do for Fuzzy''

(I have found they do not listen

)

(not about anyone on pc)

Bill3 · Mar 26, 2020 at 04:22 PM

HD7970GHZ · Apr 16, 2020 at 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by lynn09

Yes, those of us who can be easily hurt attract abusers like sharks! Human beings are predators and many people allow their predatory natures to rule them, seeking out those of us they consider to be "prey" on whom to inflict pain and damage. Based on my personal experience in life, there are more people out there who are willing to hurt you than to help you. We have to be very discerning about who we allow into our inner sanctums - who we allow ourselves to trust. Isolation is just protective mode - your safe place - the starting point from which you carefully and cautiously venture out to interact with others. I know all too well how you feel right now - I have had nothing but betrayal after vicious betrayal of my trust since the moment I became ill and disabled 10 years ago. I have also isolated myself as a result - but that's okay - I will learn to be more discerning (even at my ripe old age) before I venture out again. I tend to give people more credit than they deserve and trust them too easily - I'm revamping this philosophy and habit so that I won't appear to others as such easy prey!! This rose is going to grow some thorns! Maybe I should even learn how to growl like you - grrr....grrr...grrrr...ack...cough - I'll have to practice.

Well said! I agree 100%. Pretty hard not to become a misanthropist in this crazy dark world. And when we are abused over and over and over and over again - it becomes hard not to become jaded and mirror what these predators and psychopaths dish onto us. The moment we react to their abuses - they are ready to pounce and claim that we are the predator. The real predators are either overt of covert in their psychopathy. The worst are the covert - as they are so good at abusing us and carrying out Darvo smear campaigns to make the true victim (us) appear as the abuser (them).

There are good people out there.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

Fuzzybear · Apr 16, 2020 at 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ

Well said! I agree 100%. Pretty hard not to become a misanthropist in this crazy dark world. And when we are abused over and over and over and over again - it becomes hard not to become jaded and mirror what these predators and psychopaths dish onto us. The moment we react to their abuses - they are ready to pounce and claim that we are the predator. The real predators are either overt of covert in their psychopathy. The worst are the covert - as they are so good at abusing us and carrying out Darvo smear campaigns to make the true victim (us) appear as the abuser (them).

There are good people out there.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

Good post

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