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Location: MA
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Oct 07, 2010 at 02:43 AM
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I have some online chat buddies who want to take a trip to a city near me (I don't fly) next summer. I keep saying "yeah, it would be great". But this avoidance thing is gonna mess things up, I just know it. I don't want them to see how I look (overweight), how I act (unsocial), fail to find fun things to do, find out I have no "flesh and blood friends". It goes on and on and on. I am a different person online. I thought thats what it was all about. Being anonymous. Some of them know about my depression, some don't. I don't know what to do. I am worried about it and its a year away! Thanks for listening.
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Location: USA
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Oct 15, 2010 at 05:35 PM
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I just wanted to say that I so understand how scary and anxious I would be too!! I also have been pressured for sometime with an on-line friend about a visit! OMG so far it has been put off. But I cannot tell you the anxiety that goes through me because like you I can do okay via the internet, but in real life to go out and hang out would freak me out totally...Being's that it's a year away is there maybe some family event that you might have planned? Or could you tell them that as much as you would welcome the visit that you cannot be sure that you could schedule something like that yet? At least to help you not be so anxious about it? Sorry I just know how badly this must and can feel...I hope things work out for you soon
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Poohbah
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Oct 19, 2010 at 01:33 AM
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I totally understand, by the way. I am avoidant. I had to tell someone I met online that they cannot come to visit. I said I am just not good at having house guests. And it would not work out well. They did not take it well. But we are more close than we ever were. I come with limitations. Could you explain some of it to them? Or would that reveal tmi?? Most importantly, there is time. it is a year away. Please try not to worry too much now.
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