Do you admit to people that you have AvPD?

No, I've never admitted to people that I have AvPD, I still have to visit a psychologist to check if I really have AvPD, I match the description and can relate to others, though.
I'm too scared that if I would tell people that I struggle with AvPD that they wouldn't accept me anymore, not that I really get accepted anyways (exept for here, this place is great!).

And also, for the same reason as whisperfades I don't really go to the chat rooms, I don't know what I have to expect from the others, if they will lead the conversation, what I'll have to say. I even prepare my own dialogues the day beforehand I go to my school so I don't have to make it up! And it's the same for the posts really, either I don't post them or work on them for hours, even if they were just short, like this one

I am very new to dealing with this whole thing, but probably will not tell anyone either. I'm already considered strange enough-don't need to give anyone proof that I am.

Finding some release and relief in all those who posted in this thread. Thanks. I myself have felt so much shame and been told to "just get out there" but when getting out there I tended to hide out in ways that were barely functional: worked on night shifts for many years. Have throughout life gotten way more homebound these days. I feel absurd for this part of my mature years.

Thanks all,
Jade

I think (and understandably so) its very difficult for "normal" people that are not so sensitive to udnerstand our situation, so there is no way I would say that I have APD to anyone, because they would probably laugh behind my back.

You pose a very interesting question. I think coming out of the closet (AVpd) should probably be a personal journey that would depend on a few criteria and your own personal experiences.

For example, I would not recommend an Avoidant to admit something like this in a job setting. I dont think most bosses would look too favorable on telling them that you really dont like people.

Especially if your job is Customer Service.

Its might also not be a good thing to admit this in most social circles. I think it would depend on the level of the friendship.

Some spouses cant even handle such an admission. Much less a less safe friendship. But then again, some friends would be able to handle this.

I think admitting that you are an Avoidant would be something that would require lots of thought and prayer.

Even for me, this has been something that I have thought and prayed about for many many years.

I dont have any real friendships, so there is not much to worry about there. For me, I would tell them at some point. Not in the beginning, but eventually I would.

For me personally, I have come out of the closet with this. But it can be costly. Most people wont know how to deal with it. Luckily my wife has learned to deal with it very well, with a lot of help from God.

So to answer your question, I think that is a personal decision that you will have to make and may be different for others.

Yes. I've told my wife. And most of my friends. I figure if they can't handle knowing that about me, then we weren't as good of friends as I thought. Then again, I have a lot of practice admitting things, considering I also have DID, and that's even more stigmatized/misunderstood.

So yes, I admit to people that I have avoidant personality disorder. Most people, I think, just don't know what it is, and that's easy enough to remedy.

What is DID??