[Wolfgang34]

Numerous times, I get a little ticked if people keep asking me questions to keep a conversation going. Usually, I just give a simple yes, no or I don't know response, so I don't have to talk anymore. If successful, we just end up in a awkward period of silence and they take off to talk to more "exciting" people.

Ironically, I'm get saddened if no one talks to me.

It's not like I don't want conversations, it's because I'm to lazy to keep it going (thus the simple Y/N answers) and I don't know what to say to keep it going (I have no "life" to keep stories interesting.)

Suggestions?


Thanks.

This is a kind of old post so I don't know if you're still reading ... but what about asking questions back? I agree that it gets tiring to keep responding to questions; it's like you're being grilled by an investigator or something. But if you ask questions back, it takes some of the pressure off you. And it might make the conversation more interesting, too.

[Wolfgang34]

Fine enough. What questions should I ask?

[noname1234]

Asking in-depth questions related to the other person's story is a great way to keep a conversation going. Really listen to what the other person is saying and ask the relevant questions, as if you're interviewing them. It might take some practice, but it works wonders. People absolutely LOVE it when someone else is really listening to them intently, it will easily create a sense of connection.

There's an article inspired me to start doing this a few years ago, and it has really helped me in social situations (even with the ladies, which I'd not expected). If you want to take a look, google for "How to Always Have Something Better to Talk About Than the Weather" and read the article on Raptitude. I can't post links yet.