Hello, new here.

Hi there all,

I am new here and have sought out these forums because I believe I have AvPD (not diagnosed but I seem to fit the criteria quite well), and things have been very bad recently. You could say I have been having some very dark thoughts.

Some background info, I am a 33 year old male in the UK, married with two kids, 3 and under 1. The kids are great, but the wife is not, we have been growing further and further apart over the years (married 6 years). Recently I have concluded that she will never understand and just has a personality that is bad for a AvPD sufferer (conversely no doubt she finds me a nightmare).

I'm fairly successful in my job but recently I have started a new job (sideways move) and have to work with brilliant, successful people every day, plus I will soon have to go out there and win business for myself and it's truly depressing to know that it is something I just don't have the ability to do, and as a result I will never be as successful and brilliant as these other people (like who I will eventually be expected to be like). This coupled with troubles with the wife has led me to feel that my life is stretching for a huge distance before me with no hope of reprise, hence the dark thoughts.

I am just posting on here to say hello and just to find out how you guys cope with this sort of thing day to day, because it is something that I am really struggling with.

Also, it is reckoned that 1% of the population have AvPD, so in the UK that's over half a million people. Anyone here from the UK?