[Christa87413]

I have a feelin that my bf has AvPD, he doesn't want to get help, nor even accept the fact that there is a problem. I have just been noticing a pattern...

He has a history of not having friends, or even having gf's because he puts up a front, but I can see in his eyes that something is wrong... Example, if I don't approve of something he does he completely withdraws from me, and when I start falling for him all over again, he HAS to come up with a reason to not like me back.. He always gets anxiety attacks when out around people, and if he has to say something, he whispers it. But he has to force himself if he is at, say best buy, and needing to talk to a sales rep. He fears rejection, says that he is socially inadaquit, When he is single, he's always lonely.. His only support system is his sister, brother, and nefews... He has an idealized view of how our relationship SHOULD be, and if its not like that, he wants to just give up. He's very needy and flips on me if I don't talk to him daily.

I'm just needing help, I don't know who else to talk to about this, since he does not want or even think that he needs any help... He tells me "I was in rehab for a year after years of drinking, I don't need any other help other than that.".... Yet I think that he and I should work on our issues at the same time, together and apart.. He tells me that my bi polar is all in my head.

[Travelinglady]

I'm not sure that this relationship is healthy for you. I definitely think you need to see a counselor/therapist--whether he goes or not. You need the support and even some advice. I agree that it sounds like he has something, although I can't say what. I don't know.

If you have diagnosed bipolar and he says it's "all in your head," then that's not helpful to you at all!

[Christa87413]

I question it at times... and I do see someone, but I just started seeing him, so we are still workin on things with me, its not to a point where I can talk about him... idk... I love him to death but there are things that need to be worked on, and he's to freakin stubborn to see it I guess...