Why would any girl want me?

Feb 22, 2013 at 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

We can call it whatever we want, in the end its all in our head that causes these problems. I tried a lot of things(other than doctor) like books, sprituality, drugs, hypnosis etc. Direct action is the only way i think.

Eh I was going to comment but I have nothing. SMH.

Ajtgjm · Feb 24, 2013 at 06:10 AM

Work out, read, learn to dance(or sing or any other art) & be funny, and any girl will want you then. This may take some time but will have positive effects on many levels.

SlowMoMo · Feb 24, 2013 at 10:40 AM

Ok. Let me get this straight...

If I go work out, read, learn an art, and try to be funny, any girl will want to be with me?

That seems very shallow. You have to remember which forum section you are in. In the end of the day I will continue to be Avoidant.

You make it seem like I just have to be a superficial guy and any girl will accept me for who I am....

Feb 24, 2013 at 11:31 AM

I don't know but if it isn't because you are a db or treat her like **** it won't really matter why

Ineptitude · Feb 24, 2013 at 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by SlowMoMo

Ok. Let me get this straight...

If I go work out, read, learn an art, and try to be funny, any girl will want to be with me?

That seems very shallow. You have to remember which forum section you are in. In the end of the day I will continue to be Avoidant.

You make it seem like I just have to be a superficial guy and any girl will accept me for who I am....

Confidence and self acceptance.

Easy to say, difficult to find. I believe with every bit of my being that life is a self fulfilling prophecy, and as superficial as it seems to say fake it until you make it, it rings true. You cannot convince yourself that you are a worthy person without taking actions to treat yourself as such, only mental conditioning and being actionable can make you see yourself in a positive light.

Ajtgjm · Feb 24, 2013 at 02:56 PM

"love me for who i am" thing is not real, dude, because we dont know what the "real me" is. Its just an image of yourself in your mind which can be as fake as any fake thing can be. It takes ages to understand the "real me", let alone someone else to understand the "real you".

SlowMoMo · Feb 24, 2013 at 05:55 PM

That is such ********.

joshuas-mommy · Feb 25, 2013 at 04:18 PM

I think that you should stop focusing on whether or not girls think that you are inferior to other guys. I think that you should feel happy with who you are before you attempt to date anyone. Also, if you find any dude who acts like he is better than you, then what you should do is tell him that he looks like a fag. Ask him if he is looking to get *A*S*S* raped or something. If he wants to stick something up his *A*S*S* then he should looks up the term "butt-plug" on the internet. Maybe he can find some dude who fins him slightly interesting because you don't.

http://youtu.be/vlfkkg2NRIs

Here click that link up there. You can use that as motivational music to encourage you to let those arrogant asses know where they kind find their sexual fixes at.

Fuhgeddaboudit · Feb 25, 2013 at 04:21 PM

I used to say the same. I was always shying myself away from other women. Now I became more confident and opened myself up to women. Be who you are. There will be a woman that likes you for exactly who you are.

Ultra Darkness · Feb 26, 2013 at 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

Work out, read, learn to dance(or sing or any other art) & be funny, and any girl will want you then. This may take some time but will have positive effects on many levels.

You and I are just gonna keep butting heads, aren't we?

Alright, let me give you a girls perspective on this. (Note: This is MY perspective. I'm not trying to speak for the rest of you girls out there.)

Working out.I could not care less about the physical state of a guy. You can work out 24/7 and it won't change my opinion of you.
Reading. Again, you can come out with a dazzling line-up of knowledge, and I won't care. In fact, I might find it annoying.
Art. Regardless of the media hype, not everyone can be an artist. Some people might not want to be an artist.
Learning to be funny. Funny should be effortless. I don't think it's something you can learn.

All I have left to say is: If it's so easy, why don't you do it? Why are you even here?

Ajtgjm · Feb 26, 2013 at 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

You and I are just gonna keep butting heads, aren't we?

Alright, let me give you a girls perspective on this. (Note: This is MY perspective. I'm not trying to speak for the rest of you girls out there.)

Working out.I could not care less about the physical state of a guy. You can work out 24/7 and it won't change my opinion of you.
Reading. Again, you can come out with a dazzling line-up of knowledge, and I won't care. In fact, I might find it annoying.
Art. Regardless of the media hype, not everyone can be an artist. Some people might not want to be an artist.
Learning to be funny. Funny should be effortless. I don't think it's something you can learn.

All I have left to say is: If it's so easy, why don't you do it? Why are you even here?

You mean that a fat, immature, dull and boring boy is the same as a well built, passionate, funny and mature boy to your eyes? You must be kidding me. Seriously girl, what do you look for in a boy?
Being funny for boys is like being beautifull for girls, it should look like it is effortless but it cannot be effortless.
Must agree that doing this is not simple but you should stop pretending that you dont know what to do.
Why am i here? Because i have AvPD.
Why am i single? Because the girl i love died.

Feb 27, 2013 at 12:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

You and I are just gonna keep butting heads, aren't we?

Alright, let me give you a girls perspective on this. (Note: This is MY perspective. I'm not trying to speak for the rest of you girls out there.)

Working out.I could not care less about the physical state of a guy. You can work out 24/7 and it won't change my opinion of you.
Reading. Again, you can come out with a dazzling line-up of knowledge, and I won't care. In fact, I might find it annoying.
Art. Regardless of the media hype, not everyone can be an artist. Some people might not want to be an artist.
Learning to be funny. Funny should be effortless. I don't think it's something you can learn.

All I have left to say is: If it's so easy, why don't you do it? Why are you even here?

Very good points

Ultra Darkness · Feb 27, 2013 at 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

You mean that a fat, immature, dull and boring boy is the same as a well built, passionate, funny and mature boy to your eyes? You must be kidding me. Seriously girl, what do you look for in a boy?

I didn't say that. My point was that none of those things matter to me if it's fake. I don't know what I look for in a boy, however, because I've never even had a conversation with one I wasn't related to.

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Being funny for boys is like being beautifull for girls, it should look like it is effortless but it cannot be effortless.

It's easy for me to be funny. When I want to be.

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Must agree that doing this is not simple but you should stop pretending that you dont know what to do.

Just what do you mean by that?

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Why am i here? Because i have AvPD.
Why am i single? Because the girl i love died.

...I'd say sorry, but 1) That doesn't mean much from a stranger, and 2) I don't know why people always say that.

Ajtgjm · Feb 27, 2013 at 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

I've never even had a conversation with one I wasn't related to.

Ok, that explains a lot.

Ultra Darkness · Feb 27, 2013 at 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

Ok, that explains a lot.

And just what does it explain?

Ajtgjm · Feb 27, 2013 at 04:31 PM

That you are a child, maybe 16 yr or less

Ultra Darkness · Feb 27, 2013 at 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

That you are a child, maybe 16 yr or less

I'm 18. What does my age have to do with anything?

Ajtgjm · Feb 27, 2013 at 04:53 PM

You will understand after 2-3 years.
Lets not hijack the thread, we are not helping

Feb 27, 2013 at 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

You will understand after 2-3 years.
Lets not hijack the thread, we are not helping

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Ultra Darkness · Feb 27, 2013 at 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajtgjm

You will understand after 2-3 years.
Lets not hijack the thread, we are not helping

Yeah, ok. Sorry. And I'm sorry if all this made anyone uncomfortable.

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Ajtgjm Member Member Since Dec 2012 Posts: 29 11 4 hugs given	Feb 24, 2013 at 06:10 AM #22 Work out, read, learn to dance(or sing or any other art) & be funny, and any girl will want you then. This may take some time but will have positive effects on many levels. __________________ Is anybody out there? Feels like I am talking to myself.
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Anonymous37781 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 24, 2013 at 11:31 AM #24 I don't know but if it isn't because you are a db or treat her like **** it won't really matter why
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Ajtgjm Member Member Since Dec 2012 Posts: 29 11 4 hugs given	Feb 24, 2013 at 02:56 PM #26 "love me for who i am" thing is not real, dude, because we dont know what the "real me" is. Its just an image of yourself in your mind which can be as fake as any fake thing can be. It takes ages to understand the "real me", let alone someone else to understand the "real you". __________________ Is anybody out there? Feels like I am talking to myself.
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SlowMoMo Grand Member Member Since Jun 2012 Posts: 500 11	Feb 24, 2013 at 05:55 PM #27 That is such ********. __________________ “There are two kinds of people in this world—the crazy people, and the people that drive people crazy. You just have to decide which one you want to be….”
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Fuhgeddaboudit Junior Member Member Since Feb 2013 Posts: 19 11	Feb 25, 2013 at 04:21 PM #29 I used to say the same. I was always shying myself away from other women. Now I became more confident and opened myself up to women. Be who you are. There will be a woman that likes you for exactly who you are.
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Ajtgjm Member Member Since Dec 2012 Posts: 29 11 4 hugs given	Feb 27, 2013 at 04:31 PM #36 That you are a child, maybe 16 yr or less __________________ Is anybody out there? Feels like I am talking to myself.
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Ajtgjm Member Member Since Dec 2012 Posts: 29 11 4 hugs given	Feb 27, 2013 at 04:53 PM #38 You will understand after 2-3 years. Lets not hijack the thread, we are not helping __________________ Is anybody out there? Feels like I am talking to myself.
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