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So I'm 19 and I've never had a girlfriend or anyone interested in me. All the girls that I showed interest in rejected me, but I understand..
Why would any girl want to waste her time with me if she can easily get someone stronger, taller, funnier, richer, hotter and more emotionally stable than me? It just doesn't make any logical sense! I have been kissed by maybe 3 girls but they were all very drunk. I also don't know what it feels like to cuddle with a girl or being loved by one. But it's okay, girls deserve much better than me. |
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. Well, almost, but I'm a girl, so there you go. Anyway, I can't remember the last time I even spoke to a guy my age. No kisses, no dates. It's no wonder I'm lonely. So yeah, I understand.
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I know how you feel too. Neither guys NOR girls would want anything to do with me. Not even friends, because I tend to get a crush on anyone who's nice to me/pays any attention to me at all. And no one would want THAT.
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Another big reason why I don't think any girl would want me is because I have more than 50 quite visible cutting scars all over my arms Last edited by M420; Jan 12, 2013 at 06:18 AM.. |
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I have scars too, over most of my body...most of the worst ones (visually) are burns. Even when I only had a few cutting scars a dermatologist nurse freaked out when she saw me and they see some pretty bad looking skin...now looking at me would probably induce vomiting, so I guess I'll have to pay someone someday if I don't want to die a virgin.
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"Why would any girl want me" - it doesn't work like that; you have to enjoy yourself and be living your own life, doing your own thing, and that self shining out of you attracts others to you naturally. Work on your self esteem and all the rest you want will follow.
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I used to feel this way and sometimes I still do. I do understand low self esteem. I find making a list of positive qualities about myself and frequently reading it helps. It can be seemingly silly qualities like "I make a good cup of coffee." I do believe there is someone for everyone. You're young. Give it time.
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If it were so simple we wouldn't have low self-esteem in the first place. I doubt anyone is born with low self-esteem, we gain it by being bullied or left out by our peers, among many other reasons.
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I was way beyond 19 y/o before I had a boy friend and even then it wasn't serious. I was almost 25 y/o before I had another boy friend. You aren't unusual despite being unhappy about the situation. Maybe just do casual stuff with people and let it happen when it happens.
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Me too... 23 yr old and never had a girl friend. In my case,i am tall, handsome, smart and all...i constantly try to improve myself but...i guess we know how we think therefore it becomes extremely difficult for us to have and maintain a relationship like normal people do....accept it and deal with it, keep your karma right, keep doing things you are supposed to do and everything else will take care of itself. No matter how difficult it may be, there is no other option for getting out of this state and you know that.
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This part here...
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I remember being told you have to love yourself before others can love you, but that is way easier said than done. Even when people seem intersted/into you, you can be so filled with self doubt that you miss it, or you don't believe it is real. You need to work towards feeling good about yourself as a person, not measure your worth based on who likes/fancies you. Are you doing anything to help with your self esteem?
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Dang I think most of us here would love it it were all to do with just plain "attitude" and positive thinking. Rather simplistic analysis don't you think?
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Everyone has to start somewhere in fixing things in life, so if its by logically looking at your pluses even if in reality you don't really believe them, then its a first step, the next would maybe be to seek help in how to manage, or try and change how you think, again easier said than done, but if it works for you (I know it doesnt for everyone) maybe cognative behavioural therapy would help, its a lot of hard work, but the difference it can make to your life could be great. Have you saught help from a Doctor at all?
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i dont know man, i belive if we keep doing what we are supposed to do(or what we think we are supposed to do), we could be happy and satisfied to some extent in the inside.
Life is like Sims game, we have to keep clicking(doing) insted of worrying what will happen if we do things wrong, slowly but surely things fall in place someday. There is probably no alternative to this. __________________ Is anybody out there? Feels like I am talking to myself. |
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We can call it whatever we want, in the end its all in our head that causes these problems. I tried a lot of things(other than doctor) like books, sprituality, drugs, hypnosis etc. Direct action is the only way i think.
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Second, I've never played Sims. Third, what if doing what we're "supposed" to do, is part of the problem? We might want to take this discussion elsewhere... __________________ If we believe we can't lose Even mountains will move It's my faith, it's my life This is our battle cry! -Skillet |
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