The secret of making life with AVPD?

Hey, my first post here, glad to have found someone to share difficult things with! I am now in the beginning of my 30's, have had countless jobs, always quit after a few months because the social situation gets difficult, never really had a gtrue friend since I was 14-15, never had a serious relationshsip but ok enough about my problems..mu question is, how do you guys get it through life? Job, for me is the toughest part, having to communicate being social 8-9 hours everyday, GOD DAMN I mostly just want to keep my mouth shut and work, but this doesnt go well with the others...and other social situation akward but I guess you know what I mean how do you guys make it through life, job, friends, relationship etc?

Honestly, alcohol. I don't know what to do for this. Like I really don't. Because AvPD is really just a part of who I am and I don't know how to change that.

So you use alcohol in every difficult situation? Work, social gatherings, family etc? I use some valium and alcohol just to get through work, and also valium in most social situations...and of course I avoid them god damn lunch breaks as much as I can lol

I don't work, but I probably would drink a little bit if I was really anxious. But I am underage, so if there was a chance of them finding out I was drinking then I wouldn't. I'd try medication instead. But in social gatherings, yes, almost always. Even family social gatherings.

i find things to make a few bucks here and there but it's not enough. this disorder has effected every part of my life and daily functions. I'm in a crisis at the moment. I'm losing everything along with my mind. but I'm powerless.

I work full time atm and I tend to get through the day by constantly working (or pretending to) and only talking to people when I need to. I'm lucky in my current job in that I've made a friend who talks to me which makes things easier. I'm usually OK if people talk to me, I just find it near impossible to start a conversation with someone else most of the time.

Alcohol makes the social anxiety go away but then I often become manic and feel terrible when the effects wear off so I've never really considered using that in work.

It's a struggle and I've had jobs where I didn't speak to anyone. In one job, on my final day, nobody spoke to me because I hadn't really got to know anyone. I'd been there almost two years and nobody even said goodbye. Sometimes I wonder who has the problem as even with my social anxiety, I still manage to go up to someone who's leaving on their final day and say goodbye to them. People can be cruel and unfortunately, with AvPD, a high turnover of jobs / unemployment seems to be the norm. I've left some jobs after a few days / weeks as simply couldn't bear being around the people -looking back I don't regret it as I'd hate to still be stuck in those environments now.

One thing I've only recently considered and which may be something for anybody here who isn't working or has lots of free time on their hands is voluntary work. You tend to meet a different sort of person there and it's a good way to try out social gatherings. I went to a meeting this week to hear a talk about volunteering and the people were way more friendly than any job I've ever worked in. It tends to attract caring people and people who have issues of their own.

I work to avoid conversation. I ussually can do about twice the amount of work others do, so I make them look bad, rusulting in rejection and pressure to slow down because they want more help.