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Sep 22, 2013 at 09:39 AM
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i have this problem since child hood and now its worse, i think thats the reason i dont have friends
 in school i dont like forcing my schoolmates to be my friends, i just get thoughts inside my mind like this maybe it will be annoying to jump on them and tell them i want to be your friend, maybe they doesn't want me, maybe i am bad to be friend so i end up lonely. in net i feel more free and speak as i wish and do what i want, but now i get same thoughts but more. what if i said something wrong and couldn't explain what i want, what if the person laughed at what i said my parents recently worsen it much more, they are always busy and doesn't concentrate when i tell them something, and sometimes when i talk about something serious i am thinking about my dad get a joke out of it  and i just hate bothering people or make them angry from me, if i ever i did and know that i really did i might bury myself now i am fearing from people responses that i might never speak with anyone not even here where everyone free to talk about anything 
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Sep 22, 2013 at 09:49 AM
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I get it mamerala. I always think the same sorts of thoughts. Last year it took me from September until June before I finally got up the nerves to spend any time with some of my friends from work. I was able to go "we should do something sometime"... but I kept thinking that I was inconveniencing them, or that they actually didn't like me and didn't want to do anything with me outside of work. It took that many months of knowing some of them, and talking to them about our lives, before I was finally able to go out with them - and thinking on it, each of the plans was initiated by them and not by me. And I had thoughts of "what if I got on their nerves, what if they only invited me out of pity or boredom, what if I did something to upset them and then they never want to do anything with me again."
With two of those people things right now feel ok with me. But the others? I feel awkward and nervous around them now that we're back at work over the summer. I recognize it's ridiculous of me... but the worry is still there. I'm sorry that you're going through this though
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Sep 29, 2013 at 11:08 AM
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