[Needsmet]

Good Day everyone,

I did an introduction at the front door at the forum as well. But I thought this would also be a good place for one.

I am an Avoidant. I am also a Pastor, which really amazes people. When I was diagnosed, back in the Air Force, I was told that I would never have a girl friend, much less be married.

Well, Im here to tell you that they were wrong!

Don't let anyone tell you that you wont be able to do something because of this. Thats poppycock!

I am happily married and have a wonderful daughter.

I dont say that I am healed, but that I am in the process of being healed. Well, that is probably enough for now.

[coexisting]

Hello. I was so glad to see a few of your posts on here. I am glad to hear you are a pastor as well. My husband is in the Air Force currently, AD, and we have a daughter and have been married 3 years. I believe he has AvPD based on a recent personality test he has taken as well as him meeting all of the criteria. I am asking for you to please pray for him as only you know how, being a believer in Christ who struggles with similar issues as him. It sounds like you and your wife have worked on your marriage. I cannot get my husband to take responsibility for his stuff and get help. He doesn't have any real friends and does
not have people in his life to hold him accountable. We had an issue with him and porn and after much conflict and seeing a few pastoral counselors, he reluctantly joined Celebrate Recovery and completed the step study. However, he treated it kind of casually and in my opinion was not fully engaged, as he did not form any accountability relationships there. He struggles with rejection and fatherlessness. He grew up with his father but he was emotionally absent. He has experienced a lot of rejection from men in his life who should have affirmed him. The Father wants him to come into sonship, but he struggles with identifying himself as a son and approaching the Father in that way. Communication with him is superficial and infrequent. His perspective on some things is so out there. He often treats me like an enemy trying to hurt him when I try to communicate my feelings and offer suggestions on how to relate to me. He really does not know how to relate to me and others past superficial chatter or heady discussion about the bible. Currently we are talking on a very superficial level and basically coexisting.

Thanks for listening, and praying and any words the Lord may lay upon your heart. I have received many in the past three years concerning my marriage and I hold onto them when it gets rough.

Originally Posted by Needsmet

Good Day everyone,

I did an introduction at the front door at the forum as well. But I thought this would also be a good place for one.

I am an Avoidant. I am also a Pastor, which really amazes people. When I was diagnosed, back in the Air Force, I was told that I would never have a girl friend, much less be married.

Well, Im here to tell you that they were wrong!

Don't let anyone tell you that you wont be able to do something because of this. Thats poppycock!

I am happily married and have a wonderful daughter.

I dont say that I am healed, but that I am in the process of being healed. Well, that is probably enough for now.