A Social Gathering of AvPD People

Relic · Dec 16, 2013 at 09:40 PM

Would it last like three minutes and we would all wander off and leave each other?
Or would a situation comedy develop where an observer would see a bunch of people just sitting there, nodding and taking awkward drinks instead of engaging in small talk?

Dec 16, 2013 at 10:17 PM

I'm not sure how this would be. But my hope would be that since everyone has the same anxiety that just maybe everyone would feel comfortable together. Knowing the other person feels the way you do helps I think.

Relic · Dec 16, 2013 at 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

I'm not sure how this would be. But my hope would be that since everyone has the same anxiety that just maybe everyone would feel comfortable together. Knowing the other person feels the way you do helps I think.

I doubt this experiment would ever be tried. Fun speculating, though.

ADDithers · Dec 16, 2013 at 11:02 PM

Great idea. Let's plan it. I will have to cancel though.

Dec 16, 2013 at 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Introvert433

I doubt this experiment would ever be tried. Fun speculating, though.

You're probably right!

Aella · Jan 20, 2014 at 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

I'm not sure how this would be. But my hope would be that since everyone has the same anxiety that just maybe everyone would feel comfortable together. Knowing the other person feels the way you do helps I think.

In my case it would help some, but it would not make the worry completely disappear. xd

Jan 20, 2014 at 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Aella

In my case it would help some, but it would not make the worry completely disappear. xd

Yea this is true! I do worse in bigger groups.

Siftnsand · Jan 30, 2014 at 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Relic

Would it last like three minutes and we would all wander off and leave each other?
Or would a situation comedy develop where an observer would see a bunch of people just sitting there, nodding and taking awkward drinks instead of engaging in small talk?

Ha! Oh, this cracked me up!!

As I often say, if you can't laugh at yourself, someone else is sure to! Anyway, yeah... I can just picture it: a whole group of timidly, awkward people attempting to gingerly feel their way around a room that seems laden with phobia-bombs, actual PEOPLE who will TALK to them, conversations that must be made and (gasp!) possible physical contact!! Egad!!

Ah, we are so much more brave behind our computer screens, yes? I know I am. Comfortable too. But, yes, I would be totally up for a meeting of like-minded individuals such as myself! Just let me know when!

A Red Panda · Jan 31, 2014 at 08:40 AM

I would end up horrified and leave. Not because I had nothing to say. But because I've trained myself for eons to act more confident and social, and I would end up being the most social person there! I'd stand out and then I'd get embarrassed and be convinced I was annoying everyone... so I would leave.

If I was drunk and/or hypomanic, it might take a bit longer before I got to that point.

But it sure wouldn't be because I couldn't think of things to talk about... it would be because no one else would be talking and thus ALL the attention would end up on me!

Auntie2014 · Jan 31, 2014 at 08:50 AM

There Would need to be a lot of corners in the room if anyone else is like me. Let me change that...Lots of doors with big windows. I might need to escape really fast and i don't want to bump into someone.

Fuzzybear · Feb 01, 2014 at 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

I'm not sure how this would be. But my hope would be that since everyone has the same anxiety that just maybe everyone would feel comfortable together. Knowing the other person feels the way you do helps I think.

Aella · Feb 10, 2014 at 03:55 PM

Personally I've gotten where I can force myself to talk often, it's just that later I start hating myself and telling myself about how bad people must think of me. I must have said things wrong, etc.

Feb 12, 2014 at 12:56 PM

This was said about people with Asperger's, but I think it fits here too.

"If 200 of us showed up at a party, we'd split off into 200 different groups."

Hoasis · Feb 14, 2014 at 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Lovebird

This was said about people with Asperger's, but I think it fits here too.

"If 200 of us showed up at a party, we'd split off into 200 different groups."

Certainly not if we could have some alcohol

Koko2 · Feb 16, 2014 at 03:12 PM

I'd hope you wouldn't be expected to go up to a podium and introduce yourself to everyone using a mike.

Feb 16, 2014 at 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Koko2

I'd hope you wouldn't be expected to go up to a podium and introduce yourself to everyone using a mike.

I was already on the fence, but if this is even a remote possibility I definitely won't be attending - regardless of how much complimentary xanax will be handed out at the door.

Koko2 · Feb 17, 2014 at 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by nowheretohide

I was already on the fence, but if this is even a remote possibility I definitely won't be attending - regardless of how much complimentary xanax will be handed out at the door.

Yup. I think any podium action would clear the room at an AvPD gathering.

Hoasis · Feb 17, 2014 at 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Koko2

Yup. I think any podium action would clear the room at an AvPD gathering.

Not really funny for me man, I would get so nervous and afraid my pulse would go through the roof...its just really sad we are this way. So afraid people will dislike us...how lame! Live life and be free!

A Red Panda · Feb 17, 2014 at 04:01 PM

I could do it! As long as I wasn't talking about myself.

bronzeowl · Mar 21, 2014 at 05:58 PM

Is it bad that I laughed really hard at this?

I have always heard that it's good to be able to laugh at yourself.

Either way, I'd likely not show up and then spend about two days wondering what could have been had I shown up.

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Relic Member Member Since Dec 2013 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 44 10	Dec 16, 2013 at 09:40 PM #1 Would it last like three minutes and we would all wander off and leave each other? Or would a situation comedy develop where an observer would see a bunch of people just sitting there, nodding and taking awkward drinks instead of engaging in small talk?
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Anonymous100103 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 16, 2013 at 10:17 PM #2 I'm not sure how this would be. But my hope would be that since everyone has the same anxiety that just maybe everyone would feel comfortable together. Knowing the other person feels the way you do helps I think.
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ADDithers Member Member Since Dec 2010 Location: Los Angeles CA Posts: 135 13	Dec 16, 2013 at 11:02 PM #4 Great idea. Let's plan it. I will have to cancel though.
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Auntie2014 Member Member Since Jan 2014 Location: Florida Posts: 386 10 81 hugs given	Jan 31, 2014 at 08:50 AM #10 There Would need to be a lot of corners in the room if anyone else is like me. Let me change that...Lots of doors with big windows. I might need to escape really fast and i don't want to bump into someone.
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Aella Member Member Since Sep 2013 Location: Indiana Posts: 30 10 30 hugs given	Feb 10, 2014 at 03:55 PM #12 Personally I've gotten where I can force myself to talk often, it's just that later I start hating myself and telling myself about how bad people must think of me. I must have said things wrong, etc.
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anon20140705 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 12, 2014 at 12:56 PM #13 This was said about people with Asperger's, but I think it fits here too. "If 200 of us showed up at a party, we'd split off into 200 different groups."
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Koko2 Veteran Member Member Since Mar 2011 Location: amongst the stars Posts: 572 13 68 hugs given	Feb 16, 2014 at 03:12 PM #15 I'd hope you wouldn't be expected to go up to a podium and introduce yourself to everyone using a mike.
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A Red Panda Grand Magnate Member Since May 2013 Location: Gallifrey Posts: 4,166 10 882 hugs given	Feb 17, 2014 at 04:01 PM #19 I could do it! As long as I wasn't talking about myself. __________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am.
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