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Are there other reasons for avoiding life besides fear of rejection?
Maybe I am repressing it, but I don't feel any fear of rejection. Or maybe I was rejected so many times that I am numb to it now? Related? : People tell me I am a great person and good looking. I laugh inside when I hear this. I don't see it. I know I love, but I can't feel love. Or very seldom can I feel it. This drives my family nuts I would imagine. Love is a motivator. And it is the glue in relationship. So you can imagine what my life looks like devoid of love feelings. |
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Well, I think that AvPD is sorta characterized by fears of rejection/abandonment.
Why do you think that you avoid life? __________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Personally I believe there can be overlap of schizoid and avoidant traits. Or after being avoidant for a while you can start to become more schizoid as a defense mechanism. Both lead to avoidance of social situations so can outwardly be kind of similar, but an avoidant would have more anxiety while a schizoid would feel more emptiness. They used to be the same diagnosis, schizoid-avoidant personality, in DSM II.
Here's something I read about it recently. Not sure this guy is the final authority on the matter but he seems legit: Avoidants I still have social anxiety but I think I lean more schizoid now. I don't seem to want to be involved in relationships anymore (whereas I used to try to fit in and maintain friendships) and I have gotten more emotionally distant over time (at least outwardly). |
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