 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
Member
Member Since Feb 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 207
10 193 hugs
given |
Sep 05, 2014 at 08:22 AM
#1
I was diagnosed with this (APD) years ago.
What are the normal symptoms? I know I can Google...but trust "experienced" feedback more. 
|
|
 Reply With Quote
|
 Travelinglady
|
|
Legendary Wise Elder
Member Since Sep 2010
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 48,062
(SuperPoster!)
13 22.9k hugs
given 
|
Sep 05, 2014 at 09:26 PM
#2
Hi, LifeisCruel! Maybe somebody from this forum will respond soon. As you see, one symptom is not getting around folks and not "talking" to them a lot.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since May 2013
Location: Gallifrey
Posts: 4,166
10 882 hugs
given
|
Sep 06, 2014 at 01:48 PM
#3
well.... the normal symptoms are what you find online
Low self-esteem, constant worry about doing the "wrong" thing, constant worry about being rejected/abandoned/judged, avoidance of anything that might possibly trigger anxiety or cause embarrassment, probably an unwillingness to try new things especially if others are around, not liking to be in situations where you stand out, difficulties forming/maintaining meaningful friendships and relationships, etc etc. __________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 11, 2014 at 05:56 PM
#4
Quote:
|
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Aug 2013
Location: Land of sand
Posts: 109
10 20 hugs
given |
Nov 13, 2014 at 07:22 PM
#5
Lol I remember when I first posted here and did not get a reply for (what seemed like) months and went right into hysterical AvPD mode thinking everyone had decided to up sticks and go talk somewhere else as I had been judged and deemed unworthy, completely missing why we are here!
Someone please respond
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 21, 2014 at 01:25 AM
#6
Do you think, Tepee, that Lifeiscruel is still here? :-)))))))
Doc John explains very well in the stick thread which the symtons of AvPD are. Anyway, I would define AvPD with a single word: fear. |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Nov 2011
Location: 1000 miles from nowhere.
Posts: 311
12 3 hugs
given |
Nov 21, 2014 at 04:42 AM
#7
Ashamed.
__________________ Diagnosed: AvPD. It’s never alright. It comes and it goes. It’s always around, even when it don’t show. They say it gets better. well I guess that it might. But even when it’s better, it’s never alright. |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 21, 2014 at 09:37 AM
#8
Disappointed and rejected by others.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 45
9 2 hugs
given |
Nov 24, 2014 at 11:18 AM
#9
I'm wondering if my tendency to focus on negative traits I perceive someone to have is a common AvPD symptom? I have low self esteem, and have assumed I try to find the worst about people to make myself feel more equal to them ~ but maybe it's something others do too?
__________________  From deep within our secret soul do demons dwell and take their toll
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 24, 2014 at 04:47 PM
#10
I see people as better than me. I think this is a trait of AvPD along with the tendency to compare to them.
What you describe sounds to me as a coping mechanism, but I could be wrong because I see myself as worse than you. ;-) |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Aug 2013
Location: Land of sand
Posts: 109
10 20 hugs
given |
Nov 25, 2014 at 07:21 AM
#11
Hey AzulOscuro,
Lifeiscruel could possibly be lurking around not sure when to jump into the thread! It took me forever to post answers and such Calling Lifeiscruel we are here yooooohoooo.......... |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 25, 2014 at 02:57 PM
#12
I guess Lifeiscruel is not here with us, in other way, (s)he would had replied our posts.
Anyway, in my opinión it's an interesting thread because we have the possibility to write about the symtons of AvPD we are moré affected by. From my experience, I realized of the fact that having a low self-steem, that is sense of inadequency, is a great point to consider. In the way, a person with low self-steem can rise the lebel, (s)he will feel how to cope with the disorder is easier. I have now a moré sane self-steem and it makes a difference: the way I live, the way I approch to people, approch to new situations... |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Junior Member
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Kansas
Posts: 18
9 7 hugs
given |
Nov 26, 2014 at 01:42 AM
#13
I feel judged by everyone and try to hide behind anything I can to blend in and not be seen. I'm not worth anyone's time or effort to talk to even though that's all I desperately want :-/ then again that's just how it feels in my head
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Aug 2013
Location: Land of sand
Posts: 109
10 20 hugs
given |
Nov 26, 2014 at 03:24 AM
#14
The biggest issue for me would be the judgement factor I feel people are judging me for my weight, my hair, my voice, my looks, my clothes oh my goodness the list goes on and if anything does happen it's a huge deal for instance I did a big biweekly shop in town cost just over $200au and my card wouldn't work I had a huge panic attack ran out of the shop drove home in tears all the time "knowing" everyone was having really negative thoughts about me and judging my lifestyle (I have dreadlocks) my partner came home to find me in a puddle on the floor........only to find out I put the card in the wrong way! Of course that set off a whole lot of other thought patterns
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
| iwishicould
|
|
Member
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 45
9 2 hugs
given |
Nov 26, 2014 at 09:39 AM
#15
coping mechanism...that just might be it! You're pretty smart, no wonder you're such a good teacher! Love You
__________________ From deep within our secret soul do demons dwell and take their toll
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 26, 2014 at 01:19 PM
#16
Thank you, honey! ;-)
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
9 1,758 hugs
given
|
Nov 26, 2014 at 01:26 PM
#17
Quote:
But, you know that all that is in your mind, right? The real one who judges so severely is yourself. Have you ever projected your own thoughts of inadequency towards yourself in others? I mean, you hear ugly remarks towards you that you think are being pronounced by people when the reality is that you projected on the others what is in your own mind. It sound as a mad thing but it happens. 
|
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
