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Grand Magnate
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Guys! When are you moré comfortable with in face to face interactions or in groups?
I think the answer is obvious, that is, face to face meetings; anyway, each person is a world, so avoidants are. As well, I'd like to ask you if you feel moré anxiety in the first contact with a person or in the following. I used to give a good first impression because I feel moré comfortable. In some way, I feel as if I never will be able to give a good impression because when the other person knows me better he or she is not going to like my real me. To finish with the topic about interations, I'd like to ask you if you are following some kind of course or reading a book about social skills? |
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I personally feel more comfrotable in a group, that way I can "hide" when I want to and let the others talk when I dont feel like it. If its face to face and I dont feel like talking to people or cant get the conversation going its really painful! When it comes to first meeting I never have a problem with this, can also give good and VERY false first impressions. But tying bonds with people and actually becoming a friend is impossible for me, so I like to meet people on a short basis, talk a little bit and meet again 4 weeks later..lol
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Grand Magnate
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Perhaps you give the real you in the first contacts. It's possible that you feel less anxiety because you don't have to compare yourself with anyone, neither with yourself. All is new. I knew someone is gonna choose -groups- for interactions. I'm curious. When you see yourself in a group and you realized of the fact that the rest of the people interact really well ones with the others except you, don't you feel the urgente of running away. This is why I feel so uncomfortable in a group. Don't you compare yourself with the others? |
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Either/or. I learned how to be very good at small talk, so I don't have much problem with it. I get more uncomfortable if conversations get to be more about me and not as superficial (I've got a lot of superficial bits about myself that I'm fine talking about). This never happens until after I've known someone for quite a while.
Group interactions are hit and miss. Sometimes I like it because I feel like no one is pressured into talking to me. But sometimes I end up not really socializing much, and then I feel like people will be judging that. haha. __________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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'To finish with the topic about interations', I agree with you.
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