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Grand Magnate
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Dec 09, 2014 at 09:35 AM
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I always found very difficult to have relations with members of the oppossite sex. I had a father who never helped me in the understanding of males.
Now, with age, I had the opportunity to have male friends but they all cross the line. When I need a friendship, they had another agenda. I'm talking about sex. I'm very dissaponted because I believed I have friends when all said that I haven't. What's your opinión? Have you got friends of the oppossite sex? Do they really valué your friendship? |
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Dec 09, 2014 at 10:43 AM
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I initially argued this topic with my husband all the time! He maintained any straight man sees all women as potential conquests. I have come to agree with him, having experienced several episodes when I thought I was engaged in a completely platonic relationship, only to find it was something else to the 'friend' or co-worker. I wonder if as women, we are sending off a much more inviting aura than we realize, or if it's a instinctual, primitive mechanism men have to insure survival of the human race
 At any rate...now that I'm much older and not much wiser,  the situation rarely presents itself, so hang in there Azul <3
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 09, 2014 at 11:48 AM
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Yeah, i also wonder if it's my guilty.
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Dec 09, 2014 at 06:44 PM
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I have a lot of male friendships. I'm female. Sure, there's been the odd time where they wanted something else - but it was usually brought up fairly quickly. But some of my best friends? Are male, and they've been some of my longest-running friends too.
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Dec 10, 2014 at 11:07 AM
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I've had two men friends that didn't have an agenda, but one I don't count because he liked younger women, I don't fit his MO, but we have stayed friends for a long time now. The other one was an old lover but I screwed that friendship up with one of my manic episodes.
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