 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
 |
|
advertisement
Forums Index
|
| Reply |
| Thread Tools | Display Modes |
|
|
Forums Index
|
| Reply |
| Thread Tools | Display Modes |
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
10 1,758 hugs
given 
|
May 09, 2015 at 04:12 PM
#1
I had a request to speak on the phone by an English native speaker.
I really need to improve my English but how am I going to be able to communicate myself in English when I barely can't communicate with people in Spanish. I had to say, sorry I can't fo it. It tasted me so bad. It's another lost opportunity. The story of my life. In another ocassion, I was invited to participate in a group in my city with English native speakers and I never dared to attend. I went to Ireland and on the fourth day I felt like a lost child and had to quit. It's not only my avoidance but also bc of a complex I always had about not being intelligent enough. I'm so tired of this. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
|
 Reply With Quote
|
 Anonymous37868, avlady, BreakForTheLight, Crazy Hitch
|
|
ɘvlovƎ
Member Since Nov 2013
Location: Australia
Posts: 19,196
(SuperPoster!)
11 14.9k hugs
given
|
May 10, 2015 at 01:26 AM
#2
Hang in there Azul,
I found this article you may wish to read: 5 Tips to Increase Your Assertiveness | Psych Central |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
 AzulOscuro
|
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
May 10, 2015 at 01:41 AM
#3
I have the same complex about not being intelligent enough....
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
| AzulOscuro
|
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jan 2015
Location: Europe
Posts: 852
9 211 hugs
given
|
May 10, 2015 at 03:21 AM
#4
It's okay to miss oppertunities. Other oppertunities will come along.
If this is about something you do want to do in the future, you can start working on it now, preparing for the next oppertunity. Just don't put too much pressure on yourself! You can work on it in two ways: practice your English speaking more with other people, people you trust who won't laugh at you. And I would also suggest, next time you get an oppertunity you don't want to miss but you feel you might avoid - sit down and write down all your negative thoughts, reasons why you wouldn't do it, and then try to come up with a counter argument. Ask us for help with this if you need it. It's difficult, but something you have to do if you don't want to keep missing oppertunities. |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
AzulOscuro
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
10 1,758 hugs
given
|
May 10, 2015 at 06:52 AM
#5
Break, good advices.
I can't take out the idea that I'm gonna bother people with my presence. I mean, there are much better without me. I have only one face to face close friend. He is the only friend I am comfortable with. I feel I can be myself and he is not going to judge me. And there is a reason, he was the one who came close to me first. Out of that, I don't give myself many opportunities to meet people. I get on well with my coworkers. They seem to accept me. I feel accepted but I try to avoid them as much as I can. I don't wanna mess their good moments. Who am I? __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2015
Location: USA
Posts: 36
9 2 hugs
given |
May 14, 2015 at 06:13 AM
#6
As one who avoided opportunites or wasted them all my life I urge you not to as I have so many regrets that it weighs me down. Please dont do what I did. I didnt go to college out of fear of failure, twice with scholorships and so many other instances as well. Please dont go down the path that I did.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
| AzulOscuro
|
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2014
Location: Spain ( the land of flowers and gladness, lol!)
Posts: 3,825
10 1,758 hugs
given
|
May 14, 2015 at 04:46 PM
#7
Bill, noone is more for going to school. My grandma always regreted that she had to work instead of going to school bc they were many siblibgs, but I think she was one of the most interesting person I ever meet. I understand what you say though.
Bill, can I ask you? Are you doing some kind of therapy? Never it's late. There's only one life and you, and only YOU, can do that tomorrow being a different day, a better day. We are here to give you a push. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2015
Location: USA
Posts: 36
9 2 hugs
given |
May 16, 2015 at 12:58 PM
#8
Quote:
|
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
