Relatives who don't accept or respect your AvPD

For the most part, I have made my peace with having Avoidant Personality Disorder. But what really grinds my gears, is when relatives (or loved ones for some of you) just don't get it!

I'm talking about those who just cannot accept a NO for an answer. They just keep asking and pushing for things that I don't want to do.

"Want to go out to eat at this nice place? Come on, the food is really good. You shouldn't lock yourself in all the time! Are you sure you don't want to go?"

I'm full aware they are just trying to help. What's fun for them must be fun for everyone, right? Wrong!
It isn't helpful in any way, and it only make me avoid them even more. It makes me want to lash out at them, yelling "leave me the f*** alone!"
But unlike them, I'm more considerable about hurting their feelings.

My fear of social interactions won't suddenly change over night. Not unless I'm high on anti anxiety drugs like alcohol.

I guess my question is: How did you guys train your close ones to finally accept your condition?

It probably didn't help that they are the ones who wanted me to get therapy, thinking it's something that can be easily fixed by a professional.
Maybe if they spent more time trying to understand me instead of thinking I'm different and need to be changed would have been better.

i dont have AvPD, but i may as well. i have agoraphobia, social anxiety and dont ever want to go anywhere. i totally identify with what you are saying here. my daughter was just lecturing me yesterday about going outside and getting in touch with nature, even asking me why my t isnt making me do that. that if i cater to my agoraphobia it is only going to get worse......

i just am blunt with people about...i have this diagnosis and it prevents me from doing what you ask me to do......it typically makes people uncomfortable enough that they drop the topic....lol

I might as well have a mild form of agoraphobia unless it's hypochondria. Doesn't really matter what the diagnosis is, in the end we're all suffering. Although a diagnosis can be used as an effective counter argument not to go outside.

Since you're a legendary wise elder, may I ask you to what extend therapy has helped you so far? I could really use a proof that therapy is actually helping someone for once.

Hi, my therapist once told me "'No'" is a complete sentence." (I have a tendency to say yes to many requests of others even if it isn't best for me.)

Just say "No." Or, " no thank you."

I moved 700 km away from all my relatives

I get the guilts from my relatives for missing events.