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Grand Magnate
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Dec 15, 2015 at 07:30 PM
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Anyone else here have trouble spending time with friends? I don't want to plan to be with them, I hope they cancel when the date nears, but then I enjoy the time with them. Makes no sense.
I only have 2 friends, but I value their friendships. I'm confused. |
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Dec 15, 2015 at 08:23 PM
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yup. i do the same thing.
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 18, 2015 at 11:09 AM
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The only thing I can tell you is that you won't die if you plan doing things with them and there are many posibilities that you enjoyed the time. Sorry, I can't be of much help. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 18, 2015 at 07:10 PM
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"you won't die if you plan doing things with them"
Lol. Great point. |
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 19, 2015 at 01:03 AM
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My social life is pretty reduced but I know I have to keep a grade of socialization to mantain my health. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 26, 2015 at 08:41 PM
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I have trouble with plans. I always feel like they're just going along with a plan if I initiate due to feeling obligated. Then I want to cancel, but I can't because I made the plans. But then I worry that it'll be disasterous. If I do cancel then I worry about being a flake and that they'll never agree to spend time with me again.
If they make the plan and I agree then I feel like I absolutely have to or they'll never invite me again -I also say yes even when I know I don't actually want to. If I cancel then I worry that they will be angry (I find it's easier to cancel if it's a group thing.) I usually have a good time once I'm out - especially if it's 1:1. Most of the time people who have gotten to know me somewhat,well, they can often figure out it's best to invite me at the last minute - I'm more likely to go "Ok I'll get ready now" and don't have the time to worry too much and cancel. lol. __________________ "The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Dec 27, 2015 at 01:33 AM
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 28, 2015 at 09:03 PM
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