How can I get better?

AceRimmer · Apr 19, 2020 at 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Whereto52

This sounds familiar. It either that or its being bullied.
I never really seemed to fit in at my last workplace. In my defense it was a work place for rather extroverted or at least for people who open up a bit.

A lot of times you can get by being the quiet guy who does a lot of the mundane tasks that no one else wants to do. At my current job I did that for several years by washing the glassware. After 6 years of doing that I managed to get the duty assigned to someone else.

Fuzzybear · Nov 05, 2020 at 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Whereto52

Hey, I was recently diagnosed with AvPD and dysthymia. My whole life has been a real struggle when being around people. I was in a relationship once but even there I felt wrong and disgustong sometimes and there were also moments were I couldn't bear to be touched or be close to him in general.
Since 5 years now I'm going through therapy. The first therapist I saw for 4-5 years was nice but never really figured out what was wrong with because I showed so many traits of different clusters.
The new one has worked out the hypothesis that it is possibly AvPD with a light case of social anxiety.
Now the problem is that I don't know what to do to get better. I suck at conversations so I already tried working on that by working in a small shop. But after one year of working there it still doesn't work and my small talk skills havent improved the slightest.
Appearantly it takes 2 years to cause remission in symptoms with behavioural and cognitive therapy but in my country Country therapist will only be covering 24h of sessions with a patient. That means I'm ****ed, doesnt it?
We passed the 13th session last week and we still havent gotten anywhere which is just frustrating.And my therapist isnt helpfull at all because last time he said that he doesnt know what to do with me.
So I've hoped that someone in this forum might have an idea on how to work on all this..

Hi,
I can relate somewhat to some of what you said. I am hopeful that my reply is somewhat helpful. If not please free to ignore and/or discard anything that is not helpful

I am in a good relationship but certain .. aspects... I have realised recently feel ''wrong and disgusting'' somehow

I'm sorry your therapist said he does not know what to do with you.

I am not as knowledgeable as other members on this forum (despite having been dxd with this disorder) but I hope that you have found a better therapist now. And/or that things are better for you (your authentic self and healing and general well being) than when you posted this message. Either way, people here are willing to listen and offer support.

I think there may also be other forums for Avpd also on the web. I do not know if you have checked them out. Or there were. I used to be on a ''social anxiety'' forum briefly. I did not find the people friendly. This was probably ''my fault''

I only mention this since this forum currently seems rather quiet (which is of course ''the nature of the disorder''.... although the clinical psychologist, psychotherapist and 2 shrinks wanted to put me in a box, I am probably ''atypical''... I am grateful that you started this thread as I think it might be of interest to others. (but what do I know. My parental units had said (multiple times, and acted on that multiple times) that I was always wrong and unloveable. I have rejected that ''wisdom'' but possibly a part of me still holds that sting. I am working on removing that.

Respectful regards

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