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Trig Aug 06, 2021 at 06:54 PM
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Its exactly how it sounds
Can't orgasm on Lexapro and husband is upset
Its exactly how it sounds
I've been on Lexapro for going on 2 months now. It recently got doubled to 20mg and I love this drug ok. It literally stops me from killing myself so thats awsomesauce. However the 1 side effect I have is the inability to orgasm. I usually have no issues at all with my husband of 11 years and so the sudden shift has caught him (and I) off guard. The first time i couldn't finish due to the meds he took it really personally-like maybe even offended-
Possible trigger:
Any attempt since then has been the same.. Now its been about 2 months and I've given up masturbating. My husband keeps trying when we have sex and I just say I'm sorry but I can't and he gets offended. Ive tried to explain to him its the meds and not him but he doesn't get it.
So last night we have sex
Possible trigger:
Can't orgasm on Lexapro and husband is upset and so that stops *any* progress i had made and said im sorry I can't. He pulls out hella quick and sighs and says "its me! I know its me" and I was frustrated so I snapped "no! Its not you. Its so frustrating that you keep making this about *yourself*. I've been on these meds for months and I told you its my meds, and you haven't even looked them up or anything. Its not you, I love you." He hugged me and left the room. I went on Google to find any article explaining the issue and sent it to him with this text "Please read this. And *actually read* it, the whole thing please. It's exactly the issue and I need you to understand and not take it personally "
It's now the next day and he hasn't read it which makes me grr but I'm so frustrated. How do you all do it? How do I get him to stop taking it personally and see that its actually my problem to live with? Im so worried he will stray because of it. (There's history. Im married to a narcissist. He has a very BIG but fragile ego and if he feels somethings missing he will fill it elsewhere eventually). I dont want to get off Lexapro nor do I want to leave so please no "leave hims" lol

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Default Aug 07, 2021 at 10:18 PM
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I'm not the person to have any answers but I wanted to welcome you to the boards. Someone with answers will come along.

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Default Aug 08, 2021 at 09:24 AM
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Hi DandelionLadybird. Welcome to this forum!

I think that a good next step would be for you to talk to your psychiatrist about this issue. Maybe even consider inviting your husband to join you to talk to your psychiatrist, unless he is unwilling. Either way, you should bring it up. There could be some solution to alleviate this issue.

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I agree with Soupe. It would be excellent if your husband would join you in speaking with your pdoc.

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Default Aug 08, 2021 at 02:24 PM
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So Sorry for what is going on! Please Do not give up! Hugs. i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about talking to your pdoc about this and perhaps even bringing your Husband along. Hopefully he will Understand that it is simply a meds issue and maybe you will also be able to find a solution also. Please do update us if Possible if you want to. Love. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @DandelionLadybird, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Default Aug 12, 2021 at 06:21 PM
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Perhaps read about or talk to your pdoc about Wellbutrin or bupropion (generic) to see if it interests you.
It is an antidepressant that doesn't have that side effect.
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Do you mind me asking how old you are?

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Its exactly how it sounds
Can't orgasm on Lexapro and husband is upset
Its exactly how it sounds
I've been on Lexapro for going on 2 months now. It recently got doubled to 20mg and I love this drug ok. It literally stops me from killing myself so thats awsomesauce. However the 1 side effect I have is the inability to orgasm. I usually have no issues at all with my husband of 11 years and so the sudden shift has caught him (and I) off guard. The first time i couldn't finish due to the meds he took it really personally-like maybe even offended-
Possible trigger:
Any attempt since then has been the same.. Now its been about 2 months and I've given up masturbating. My husband keeps trying when we have sex and I just say I'm sorry but I can't and he gets offended. Ive tried to explain to him its the meds and not him but he doesn't get it.
So last night we have sex
Possible trigger:
Can't orgasm on Lexapro and husband is upset and so that stops *any* progress i had made and said im sorry I can't. He pulls out hella quick and sighs and says "its me! I know its me" and I was frustrated so I snapped "no! Its not you. Its so frustrating that you keep making this about *yourself*. I've been on these meds for months and I told you its my meds, and you haven't even looked them up or anything. Its not you, I love you." He hugged me and left the room. I went on Google to find any article explaining the issue and sent it to him with this text "Please read this. And *actually read* it, the whole thing please. It's exactly the issue and I need you to understand and not take it personally "
It's now the next day and he hasn't read it which makes me grr but I'm so frustrated. How do you all do it? How do I get him to stop taking it personally and see that its actually my problem to live with? Im so worried he will stray because of it. (There's history. Im married to a narcissist. He has a very BIG but fragile ego and if he feels somethings missing he will fill it elsewhere eventually). I dont want to get off Lexapro nor do I want to leave so please no "leave hims" lol

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Do you mind me asking how old you are?


I'm 33 F

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Default Aug 16, 2021 at 05:10 PM
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Wellbutrin helped me at the time when I was on an SSRI and had that problem,. The doc used it as an add-on. I can't take either anymore due to mania, but it worked as far as sexual side effects go.

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