[looking for help]

I have been with the same guy for 10 years, don't cheer yet it is not great he is so abusive to me . The physical abuse has not happened in months but verbal and emiontional abuse is everyday Every since we have benn together he has cheated on me and i always catchis him and he tells me that it will never happen again. of course it does. I have been faithful to him always not because i could not find nobody else just that i love him so much. He tells me everyday that he does not want to be with me that i make him sick but at the end of the day he winds up putting the key in this door. I've tried everything to leave him police, walking out but i don't have no where to go and i have a son. What do i do I reaslly need help.

[VickiesPath]

Originally Posted by looking for help

I have been with the same guy for 10 years, don't cheer yet it is not great he is so abusive to me . The physical abuse has not happened in months but verbal and emiontional abuse is everyday Every since we have benn together he has cheated on me and i always catchis him and he tells me that it will never happen again. of course it does. I have been faithful to him always not because i could not find nobody else just that i love him so much. He tells me everyday that he does not want to be with me that i make him sick but at the end of the day he winds up putting the key in this door. I've tried everything to leave him police, walking out but i don't have no where to go and i have a son. What do i do I reaslly need help.

Hi Looking For Help and welcome to PC,

I am truly sorry that you find yourself in this situation. You are not alone, there are many women out there in the same situation. Is the son his? If he is the father of your son, it will make things a little more complicated down the road but nothing you can't deal with.

Something I would suggest that you do is find out if there is a women's shelter in your town. You can do this by talking to the police. Do not call 911, unless he abuses you physically. Call the administrative number in the phone book. Ask them if there is somewhere you and your son can go in order to leave this domestic situation. The shelter people will be able to hook you up with other people who might be able to help you get a job and other resources if you are serious about getting out of this situation.

Do you have any close relatives nearby? Or is there somewhere else, like a friend's house, where you could go for a while? Chances are that no matter what you do, you are going to have to do it secretly because he has hit you in the past and there is no reason to believe he won't do it again.

Please keep posting here. We want to know how you are doing. If you have any concerns or just need someone to talk to, ask us. There are lots of caring and concerned people on PC.

[Berries]

Welcome to PC, Looking!

I understand your situation. I was in a similar one once. I would do exactly what Vickie said to do.

I got out of my abusive relationship and you can too.

Please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing.
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