[perpetuallysad]

Nevermind. Thanks Lynn for responding before I deleted this. I appreciate your kindness.

[lynn P.]

((((perpetuallysad))) - I saw this post earlier but didn't know quite the right things to say - I don't want to appear like I'm minimizing things. I think you're very over whelmed at the moment.

To be honest it would bother me a great deal, if I felt I had to take care of the kids next door without the parents being grateful. Your sister having cancer is a huge deal and I'm sorry she's sick. What her prognosis? Regarding your son's school - if I were you I would just let it go for now - the changes really aren't that bad and I suspect he'll adjust. If you don't indicate you're unhappy he might back up a bit. Really all the kids have it much better than we were kids. Personally I was proud to wear my uniform but that's me.

This is what I suggest when people are over whelmed. Make a list with 2 columns - one side problems you have control over - but there's a catch - ask yourself...is it really worth worrying about - the old saying "don't sweat the small stuff" is so true. The next column are things you don't have control over.

The next step is - how you respond to a problem. I sense you wish you could handle things a little better since your husband seems to be sheltering you some what. This doesn't mean you need to deny your feelings - but just ask yourself when a problem comes up "do I need to put my whole heart and soul into this"? Visualize how you would prefer to respond. When something happens(unless it's an emergency), take some slow deep breaths, think about it and then respond.

I think you've taken it upon yourself to be the problem solver but you don't always have to be. I agree though getting hit by lighting would be something to tell you about lol. You're going to laugh about this years down the road. I agree he shouldn't hide things but I think his motives are out of kindness. In a way it's good he doesn't get worked up -imagine the chaos lol. His hours are crazy too - poor guy.

It sounds like you need a break and you need to take time for yourself. Set aside 15-30 min to relax and do slow deep breathing exercises. Make sure its quiet and no disturbances. Set aside some time for you and hubby too - just the two of you and no discussing problems at this time. Go for a nice walk and hold hands.

When things feel heavy, this is a sign to take of yourself. The problems that need fixing will always be there tomorrow. Put them on a shelf in the closet for now. I hope you feel better.

[perpetuallysad]

Thank you Lynn.

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by perpetuallysad

Thank you Lynn.

You're welcome ((perpetually sad)) I hope you didn't delete due to anything I said. Don't be discouraged from the lack of replies...Saturdays are slow or maybe it was my long winded post IDK. I hope you feel a little better and tomorrow will be a better day.

[perpetuallysad]

Nah, I just felt a little too vulnerable with all that stuff written out.

Originally Posted by perpetuallysad

Nah, I just felt a little too vulnerable with all that stuff written out.

Hear you. Happens sometimes. It's ok.