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Oct 22, 2010, 07:59 PM
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My friend who was in the hospital last week is home now, but has gone into crisis again. I have been talking with her on Facebook and she told me a couple of things that makes me think that she might not make it through the night.
Normally, I would hop in the car and go to a friend who is in crisis, but my husband is out of town, and my parents have my oldest son at a birthday party so I am home with my youngest and don't have anyone to watch him. I gave her a few phone numbers of local crisis teams and she had already talked to the hospital which referred her out to another crisis team as they were full. She seems to want to go into the hospital, but also indicated that it would be the thing that might send her over the edge and she said that she would "make sure to find a way to die" if she had to go in again. I asked her if she would come over to my house but she said she was going to "over-medicate a little" and go to bed. I am afraid that she might fatally overdose or fatally cut herself. She really has given up on life right now. I haven't heard from her for about an hour. She lives in her own apartment in her parents' house so I hope that they are keeping watch over her tonight. I am afraid that they might not be taking her seriously because she says that they threatened to kick her out if she loses her job over being hospitalized again. I think I have done all I can do at this point without overstepping my bounds. I have only known her since April, but we have become close over the things we share in our illnesses. We haven't been to each other's houses or met each other's families, we have just met at restaurants or coffee shops over the last couple of months. Have I done enough? I pray she gets through the night. |
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#2
Oct 22, 2010, 08:15 PM
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there is only so much you can do for someone in this popsition and your child comes first even though a friend is in need. You can only do what you are capable of and no one can ask anymore. I hope your friend is ok, take care of you too! Hugs and good thoughts to you
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#3
Oct 22, 2010, 09:59 PM
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I know you haven't met each others' families, but by chance do you have her parents' phone number? If you do, you might call them to let them know it might be a good idea to keep an eye on her tonight or at least check in? (they do sound rather reactionary, but still...). That's really the only other possible thing I can see. It is a hard position to be in BNLsMOM. When you say that you have done all you can do w/o overstepping your bounds, you know that this is true. You are a caring person and you *do* know that balance.
Best wishes on you all tonight... |
| BNLsMOM, lonegael
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Oct 23, 2010, 05:06 AM
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I agree with Innezone. As it seems to be getting close to morning there, perhaps you can find someone to watch you son while you check on your firend, now? Or call? Bless you, hon, as if you didn't have enough on your plate already! HUGGSSSS
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| BNLsMOM
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Oct 23, 2010, 06:11 AM
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You have listened to her and prayed for her. You have done very well indeed.
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| BNLsMOM
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Oct 23, 2010, 07:34 AM
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It has been about 12 hours since I have heard from her. I am going to check FB to see if she has been online.
I have no one to watch the kids until late this afternoon, and although it sounds horrible to me to say this, I have to take my kids to soccer, swimming, etc. I can't drop everything. I may have her cell phone number somewhere and I will try to call her today if I don't hear from her. I don't have her parents' number. |
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#7
Oct 23, 2010, 09:30 AM
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She made it through the night and has plans to call her T today.
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| lonegael
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#8
Oct 23, 2010, 09:36 AM
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Quote:
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Glory to heroes!
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Oct 23, 2010, 10:32 AM
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Oh thank goodness!!! Glad that you will now be able to relax, BNLsMOM...
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Oct 23, 2010, 12:35 PM
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u're a good friend to care.
the only thing i could add is you always need to keep in reserve enough so you can also take good care of yourself. sometimes this type of anxiety can whip lash us later.so glad your friend is calling her T.
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Oct 23, 2010, 01:40 PM
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Good for you for sticking by her BNLsMom. Now take a deep breath, hon, and take some care of yourself, OK? HUGGGGGGSSSSS to a good friend in need.
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Oct 23, 2010, 08:45 PM
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Thank you. She still isn't doing well, but she has set up a phone check in with a mental health worker at a nearby clinic. She will check in every day until she sees her T.
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| lonegael
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Oct 25, 2010, 12:26 PM
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My friend is back in the hospital. I called her cell phone when I got the message and told her that i was happ that she was going to be safe, and I told her that I care about her and will be thinking of her.
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| lonegael
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Oct 25, 2010, 03:37 PM
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Perfect. That will sure be a help in setting your mind at ease as well....
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