[dayton52]

My 15 year old daughter is being treated for the condition (seroquil and lithium at this point). Most days she does well, but then bursts out into a rage at the slightest provocation/frustration. We're not sure how to help her (yelling, screaming, throwing things, treating to hurt herself--her main goal seems to be to make me and my wife feel as bad as she does). Any advide out there on how best to help my kid when she's in these states, what helped you if you went through them or helped with you had to help someone else?

Thanks.

[venusss]

could you sign her up for a yoga class? It really helps with learning to calm the mind down... and also with learning to separate feelings from behaviour.

[Nemo39122]

Or similar to what Venus said, martial arts could also help. It's an outlet for rage (literally kicking things for an hour sometimes lol) and teaches alot of self control, physical and mental.
Good luck

[RRU96]

Personally had a very bad weekend dealing with the rage. Unfortunatly, the one thing that I noticed is that I feed off of a reaction. Something to fuel that rage.

If my wife screams back or anything like that..... all it does is make me sicker. That is where Bipolar because so nasty. I scream at my wife, completely out of character and the last thing I would ever want to do is hurt her. But when these outbursts happen, it seems to be the only thing that happens.

I unfortunately only can go on what I feel and not how my wife feels. It's terrible. I mean, at the time it seems right, the way I feel, saying what I want to get out. But in the end I realize that all I did was hurt people and break things.

This is where Bipolar can really hurt those we love. What we say, is not necessarily what we feel. It's just the first thing that comes to mind.

The advice that I can give is to:
- continue to love her....
- don't scream back.... that will only make her sicker
- pay attention to your daughter and her behaviors. By doing so, you may be able to find out what is causing her to get triggered and may find ways to help avoid those circumstances
- educate yourself on her illness the best you can, so that when she needs help; that rock to cling to, you can help give her the answers to set her back on course

Wish you luck and come back whenever there are questions.

[LaraLynn]

My daughter has rage issues and is doing well in a martial arts class offered through her school. You could tell a HUGE difference over Christmas break when she didn't have that daily outlet - that she really needed it. Now that she is back to school she is doing better controlling her outbursts.

[Kymaro]

I have rage issues with my BP. Can snap at any given moment and it's like I don't care who is in my pathway. My husband has set up a "special place" where I can go to Let out the rage. Lots of things to break there (my favorite..hehe). But most importantly your daughter needs to learn how to channel this rage in a productive or safe mannar. Lots of great advise has already been offered so not much left for me to add....all are great ideas. Make sure you "remind yourself" that it's the "condition she has" and not her that is striking out.