[annege42]

I joined this site almost 2 weeks ago and made various posts but for some reason none have showed up. I'm feeling like I'm being ignored and that really angers and frustrates me because that's the story of my life---that's what has caused me to be this desparate to seek out an online forum for some kind of support and I have not even got a droplet of support yet. I even wrote to docjon and he has not replied. Does anyone read this post and moderate it. What is going on here? I came here for help and I'm not getting any. It's like I'm reliving my miserable childhood where I was neglected, rejected and ignored. As a result I am bipolar and an addict and a failure. So I'm hoping someone responds.

[Yoda]

How many posts do you estimate you wrote? In which forums?

I can see seven posts written by you prior to this one.

Welcome to psychcentral. Psychcentral has about 1000 new posts each day so the moderators can't read every post but if you have a question or concern you can PM them. I hope you find this site helpful.

[Mac Murphy]

Annege, I haven't seen any previous posts from you either. I will go and look for them to see what you had to say. I'm sorry if you feel you have been ignored. Believe me that it is not a conscious thought from anyone to ignore you or anyone else. We are all here for help of one sort or another and sometimes people aren't in a place in their own struggles to offer help and sometimes those who are in a place to respond and offer support may not see your post. Please don't go away angry. People here, myself included, do care about what you have to say. You may have some great insights that will help me or others and I would hate for you to just go away without giving people a real chance. I will go look for your previous notes now. If you get this, please repost what is going on and I'm sure others will respond.
Peace,
Mac

[SunReach]

Hello Annege,

I also had a look for your other posts but they are at different forums so I'm guessing that's why people from the bipolar forum didn't see them. I find PsychCentral very chaotic sometimes so I only ever check this forum. But please don't give up on us, you can get support here, and offering your advice can make you feel better as well

Welcome!

[SunReach]

p.s. Did you mean you have posted more on the bipolar forum and haven't shown?? (Too early, brain isn't working at its best) If so, I think it must have been some sort of technological failure.

Hello

It happens to me too. I typed out a thread and then no one really answers it. Like I posted a new post and no one has replied to it. I think some people don't answer people's posts because they try to avoid it or they're just too lazy. I feel like I've been ignored before too. I read somewhere someone or some people don't reply to threads because they feel like it might trigger them or they have enough things to be dealing with rather than answering people's post. I'm sorry to hear about it. I do hope people answer your posts.

[venusss]

The first few posts are screened to avoid spammers. It is in the rules.

And people don't answer the posts instantly because some aren't here 24/7 or they cannot give advice to that particular issue. Only few posts go totally unanswered here.

[blueoctober]

Welcome annege.

[mgran]

Hi Annege.
I originally joined this forum quite some time ago, and I remember there was a period when your posts don't come up as soon as you submit them, because admin have to check it's not someone spamming the site. It was frustrating to me then.

But I think you're out of that zone now, so hopefully people should see your posts more quickly.

Also, I've noticed some forums are more busy than others. For example, I find when I post something in bipolar it gets answered sooner than if I post the same thread in schizoaffective. And there have been some threads that I've had to avoid because I find them "triggering", that is they bring up emotions and memories that I'm not able to deal with, and that can "send me off on one." It's nothing personal.

Anyhow, I know that feeling ignored is likely to trigger some upsetting emotions, and I'm sorry this has been your initial experience of this forum. I'm certain that things will get better... and that people will be supportive and listen to you. That's been my experience anyway.

I'll keep an eye out for you, and see you around.

[PT52]

Hi, annege42, sorry you're having problems. Honestly, no one is trying to shut you out. I'm one of those that sticks to the BP forum - I have a hard enough time staying up with that. And don't be upset if your post isn't answered right away - everyone tries to participate as much as they can, but it can be hit and miss.

Stick with us and I guarantee you'll be glad you did!

[annege42]

Thanks for responding, but I must confess that after I posted my "pissed off" message, I stumbled upon my introductory post a minute after. Now I feel a little silly. Patience has never been my strong suit. So I apologize for that. Thanks to those of you who responded and offered me advice and support. I truly appreciate it. I do like this forum and feel hopeful that this can become a support system for me.

[venusss]

I admit that I hid the new members forum in my settings... I am socially akward and typing "hi, welcome to PC" all over again seems bit dishonest and weird to me. So I am one less response in that area.

[Kymaro]

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

I admit that I hid the new members forum in my settings... I am socially akward and typing "hi, welcome to PC" all over again seems bit dishonest and weird to me. So I am one less response in that area.

Im with ya on the repeated "hi, welcome........." I'm not so good at that one either. I try every now and then, but it reminds me of those "old fashion" therapy groups when everyone sits in a circle and someone stand up and says "HI, my name is kymaro, and I'm here beause I have BP" and everyone together respondes in unison "Welcome kymaro, we are glad your here"...and around the circle it goes.

[Omers]

Another thing is that it seems to be all or nothing a lot of the time. Many of us "surf" the new threads tab. Every time someone replies to your thread it gets bumped higher on the "new posts" section... the higher it is the more likely people are to see it... the more replies. So... If you get a couple replies at just the right time the thread gets more attention on the new thread tab and more people see it. It isn't personal to you or even what you need help with just a downside to how forums work (and it seems to be true across systems). If a post hits when no one is looking (some times literally in that second) the post gets buried and hard for people to find.
I have been on here a while, have lots of friends here... and still I have posts that go unanswered because they were posted at an off time. Usually if I am not getting support on a post I PM someone I know. Then they get a message and know I am there. I can also ask them to take a look at my post... sometimes it just takes one reply to get the ball rolling.
In the end... It is all hit or miss... but the more often you post and reply the better known you are... so keep postin!
Oh, one other thing... don't forget to look at how many times your post has been viewed. A lot of people discount that number... But... Those are people who are quietly listening... which is what most of us really want anyway, someone to listen. You can use the search tab to search lurkers... there is a really good thread going about why some people read but don't reply... and if you check it out you will discover it is about them not about the post... they care, are listening and some are even praying... they just don't write back... So don't discount that number