To give your T* a hug? I'm not even a huggy kind of person (IRL), but I'm dreading our last session BECAUSE it will be the last session.
I'm guessing the answer may be "it depends". You can be assured that it is not for any kind of wrong reason. It's simply that she has been invaluable in keeping me (relatively) sane and I will miss her horribly. Nay, nearly unbearably. I sob uncontrollably whenever I think about it, and I think about it a lot because it is fast approaching, and I don't even know when exactly. All I do know is that I will be a sobbing mess. I want to let her know that despite all my walls and getting-by face, how much this has meant to me. Words fail.

(She is a very easy-going person, so I'm not talking about tackling some distant and formal sort of person(!))

Synopsis and recap: I had moved here over a year ago with world turned upside down in good and in bad ways. Looking for work hit me harder mentally even more than I could have imagined. Looking for psych stuff was even worse. It was soul-crushing. Rejection after rejection (and this was working with a stack of lists, notes and recommendations easily 1/2'' thick!!!). Add to this no insurance and nearly exhausted savings. Even now I can't find a word to describe how I felt. It was beyond desperate, worthless and hopeless. Then finally, I found her. And clicked!

What happened to follow in my life outside of there was very serious trouble, surreal in a bad way. It was just one thing after another. If it were not for meds and being able to talk to her, I might well not have made it.

So, believe it or not, we (BF and myself) are moving again. (3,000 miles). After all that it took, I will be on the search again. After just 9 months. (with the T) We were just starting to get into some of my other (non-BP) stuff (I have a lot of walls and with all the chaos of the preceeding months... there were other issues, you know?)

So, is it ok, or is it always wrong?

(Actually, she is a PMHNP, so does both meds and talk. I just think in the context of this question, the T part is what people will understand better. Though in the context of the recap, the meds part shows its relevancy.)

(This question should probably go in the psychotherapy forum, but this one is my "home", you know? I tried searching the other forum to no avail. Something like this is probably there, I just can't find it.)

[Omers]

Ask first. I hug my T at the end of every session... actually have had many Ts and have hugged most of them at the end of each session. IMO it is very appropriate for a last session.

[Direction]

Originally Posted by Omers

Ask first.

I agree...I'm not much of a hugger but if asked most times I enjoy the hug...I also appreciate being asked