Living With Someone Who's Living With Bipolar Disorder: A Practical Guide for Family,

Forgive77 · Jun 04, 2011 at 12:13 PM

I finished reading the book. What an eye opener I think this is the best information I've ever read. What a great explanation of both sides. Us, and those that live with us. Highly recommend for anyone. Thanks for sharing this book with me!!!

Miss Laura · Jun 04, 2011 at 06:14 PM

Hey Forgive77,

I too have read this book on numerous occassions. I found it very insightful. I gave it to my family and I really don't think they have "got it" ye they read it but don't think they have took it on board. We shall see. Good book though and highly recommended

Forgive77 · Jun 04, 2011 at 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss Laura

Hey Forgive77,

I too have read this book on numerous occassions. I found it very insightful. I gave it to my family and I really don't think they have "got it" ye they read it but don't think they have took it on board. We shall see. Good book though and highly recommended

Same here....my mom said like five minutes ago literally, "Is that what you have? I don't know when I'll get a chance to read it." That's about right.

Miss Laura · Jun 04, 2011 at 06:53 PM

Oh dear!!!

I know it's hard on our families especially our parents but we need them to understand it/us so they can help us. I think that is why I can't talk to my folks as I know they haven't "gotten" it yet. I have also gave them booklets of information but still nothing

Cole Thornton · Jun 08, 2011 at 01:47 PM

Unfortunately, there are parents out there who are not supportive. My wife was diagnosed in 2007 with rapid cycling BPD II. She takes her meds and sees her doctor. Last week, her mom- who has never taken the time to understand the disease- told her there is no such thing as BPD and she just needs to grow up!

Jun 08, 2011 at 02:32 PM

Wow that's sad

I'm fully grown and am a parent now, but my mom still isn't very there for me when it comes to BPD. I'm single mom with three kids and am not able to participate in the work force. I was hospitalized for a few weeks and I didn't get as much a a phone call or anything. Recovering while having kids to take care of on my own and such was pretty difficult.

I think with parents, sometimes they want to think their children are healthy and are in a bit of denial, or sometimes maybe feel a lot of guilt. And other parents maybe just need to really umm grow up haha.

Never read the book, but I think I'll try to find a copy.

mokie · Jun 14, 2011 at 09:21 PM

Awesome book. This is one that has helped me come to terms that I do have this illness. The examples I can relate to. Now I have to try and summerize it for my husband since he has a short attention spand when it comes to reading but I know it is going to be affective to helping us grow old together. Do you all know of any other book that you can reccommend?

blueoctober · Jun 14, 2011 at 09:30 PM

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Do you all know of any other book that you can reccommend?

That book is my fav, but I've also read Julie Fast's book "Loving someone with bipolar disorder"

http://www.amazon.ca/Loving-Someone-...8104862&sr=8-1

mokie · Jul 10, 2011 at 06:55 AM

OMG! I am so out of it. I just now found out that I did not read this book at all. LOL and read the other Loving someone with bipolar disorder.

I feel so embarrased now. Well at least now I have something else to start reading in my hypomania state/or mixed it keeps changing lately. Thanks.

widgets · Jul 10, 2011 at 09:17 AM

I was just thinking.
I know there are millions of reasons why someone has bipolar, and i'm not actually sure whether its more of a nature or a nurture thing.
But maybe some people are more prone to having Bipolar because we have unsupportive parents.
My mum doesnt really want to hear about it, she was the sort of mum when i was younger she would say, "you only cry when there is blood!"
Her mum is the same, and her sister has emotional problems, i think when you have those sort of parents, you either turn into that sort of person or you go the other way!
i dont know, what do you guys think?:

Forgive77 · Jul 10, 2011 at 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by widgets

I was just thinking.
I know there are millions of reasons why someone has bipolar, and i'm not actually sure whether its more of a nature or a nurture thing.
But maybe some people are more prone to having Bipolar because we have unsupportive parents.
My mum doesnt really want to hear about it, she was the sort of mum when i was younger she would say, "you only cry when there is blood!"
Her mum is the same, and her sister has emotional problems, i think when you have those sort of parents, you either turn into that sort of person or you go the other way!
i dont know, what do you guys think?:

From what I've read it is biological. But having insensitive, or unhelpful, or abusive parents can make you a little on the borderline side. My understanding is borderline is usually made. I came up on the spectrum for borderline personality disorder. But I think being bipolar makes us more prone to it. Just my two cents.

widgets · Jul 10, 2011 at 09:32 AM

I have lot of Borderline traits as well and BP2, although my doctors and care workers havent ever mentioned anything about borderline to me, probably because i only have those symptoms HALF the time. I dont think i'd have any BPD traits if i didnt have Bipolar, so i think you're probably right.
Her dad has Bipolar, but she has had nothing to do with him, does it skip generations like being ginger?

Forgive77 · Jul 10, 2011 at 09:39 AM

In my family it's been passed down every generation. It has mostly been all men, except for me. I'm also the only one dealing with it. The rest of them think it's a normal part of life...and in my own opinion...I think it's a little easier to go unoticed in men in men because they are allowed to lose it more that women are, and women have typicaly got to handel the children and keeping up the house. So it seems to me it would be a little less evident depending on how sevear the case is. I'm BPII, and under extreme stress show signs of BPI, so they don't want to label me. But, most of the men on my father's side show signs of BPII. Just enough to come off as too mocho and really obnoxious.

widgets · Jul 10, 2011 at 09:50 AM

No one in my family, (the family i see) have bipolar or any signs of it, my little brother has Autism, my other little brother is naughty, loud, manipulative but also very socially clever, then my youngest brother who is 6 has severe anger problems, speech problems, but is actually emotionally clever, my aunty is just very emotional, and the rest of the men are just selfish and dependant, the rest of the women are independent and straight forward, strong, but emotionally black!
i did the BPD screening test a while back when i was depressed and the score was the highest it could be, i didnt it today, i thought it would be a lot less but it wasnt. I know the tests aren't brilliant indications, but i was surprised it was high when i am feeling really good at the moment.

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Forgive77 Grand Member Member Since May 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 907 12 181 hugs given	Jun 04, 2011 at 12:13 PM #1 I finished reading the book. What an eye opener I think this is the best information I've ever read. What a great explanation of both sides. Us, and those that live with us. Highly recommend for anyone. Thanks for sharing this book with me!!!
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Miss Laura Elder Member Since Sep 2008 Location: Scotland, UK Posts: 5,256 15 85 hugs given	Jun 04, 2011 at 06:14 PM #2 Hey Forgive77, I too have read this book on numerous occassions. I found it very insightful. I gave it to my family and I really don't think they have "got it" ye they read it but don't think they have took it on board. We shall see. Good book though and highly recommended
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Miss Laura Elder Member Since Sep 2008 Location: Scotland, UK Posts: 5,256 15 85 hugs given	Jun 04, 2011 at 06:53 PM #4 Oh dear!!! I know it's hard on our families especially our parents but we need them to understand it/us so they can help us. I think that is why I can't talk to my folks as I know they haven't "gotten" it yet. I have also gave them booklets of information but still nothing
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Cole Thornton Member Member Since Jun 2011 Posts: 64 12	Jun 08, 2011 at 01:47 PM #5 Unfortunately, there are parents out there who are not supportive. My wife was diagnosed in 2007 with rapid cycling BPD II. She takes her meds and sees her doctor. Last week, her mom- who has never taken the time to understand the disease- told her there is no such thing as BPD and she just needs to grow up!
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mokie Member Member Since May 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 252 12	Jun 14, 2011 at 09:21 PM #7 Awesome book. This is one that has helped me come to terms that I do have this illness. The examples I can relate to. Now I have to try and summerize it for my husband since he has a short attention spand when it comes to reading but I know it is going to be affective to helping us grow old together. Do you all know of any other book that you can reccommend?
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mokie Member Member Since May 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 252 12	Jul 10, 2011 at 06:55 AM #9 OMG! I am so out of it. I just now found out that I did not read this book at all. LOL and read the other Loving someone with bipolar disorder. I feel so embarrased now. Well at least now I have something else to start reading in my hypomania state/or mixed it keeps changing lately. Thanks.
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