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Jan 14, 2012, 02:00 PM
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I SO want to scream!
My brother (who's on vacation from Spain) came home today after spending a week at my sister's and brought my nephew with him, btw he's 2, and we just met... I don't even know where to start!  My nephew, knows NO bounds, he REFUSES to listen when you say 'no' as he's never heard this word prior to coming to SA. He talks LOUDLY ALL the fricken time, sometimes it's just gibberish. Or if he's not doing that, he's making sound effects. I gave up trying to watch tv, he's climbing on me, pinching and biting my daughter or jumping on the bed (not caring where he falls or who he jumps on) He's always provoking Jordan, pushing her off me, grabbing her toys, and doing  if you dare try to curb him.EVERYBODY must pay attention to him ALL the time or he does something destructive  He's father, my brother, is stoned ALL the time, and EVERYTHING my nephew does is friggn CUTE he's philosophy is 'if he's not crying, everythings ok' so no matter what you say or do, he DOESN'T reprimand him!My nephew's a baby, and I love him, but he's driving me NUTS! In order to put this in perspective, my daughter's always been low maintainance, low key (perfect huh) she occupies herself, with books, toys or watches some tv, if she makes herself heard, it's singing her favourite tune... So I am N0T used to the likes of my nephew...   I feel so guilty for posting this. |
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#2
Jan 14, 2012, 02:18 PM
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Ugh, sounds like a spoiled brat! You shouldn't be feeling guilty for being frustrated with that. 2yo kids are always rambunctious, but even kids at that age shouldn't be allowed to run wild. It just creates more problems later. Not that someone without kids should criticize, but my guess is that some parents don't understand that kids really do need limits, structure, and appropriate discipline from a very young age - before 2 for sure.
A lot of adults find toddlers' behavior frustrating, even when they're the parents. I'm continually surprised at how often I see posts in the ADD/ADHD forum asking if their 2yo - 4yo kid might be ADHD but the "symptoms" they describe are completely normal behavior for kids that age! I'm really proud of my brother for the way he's raising his son - he's a really devoted father and has always wanted to be the dad he never had (unlike me!) Little guy gets to be an energetic, playful, joyful kid, but he knows the rules and when he's out of line, I just say, "do you want me to tell your daddy what you're doing?" and he straightens right up!
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Jan 14, 2012, 02:21 PM
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You shouldn't have to be in charge of a 2 year old. You weren't asked and while a lot of your nephews actions are normal, they do know how to take advantage! Sounds like your brother has found instant free babysitters so he can get high. I'd have a talk with him. It's not fair to the 2 year old either.
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Jan 14, 2012, 02:36 PM
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THAT'S THE M0ST RETARDED THING I'VE EVER HEARD!
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Jan 14, 2012, 02:41 PM
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Jan 14, 2012, 02:47 PM
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If he's checked out on marijuana then he's essentially left you to babysit.
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Jan 14, 2012, 02:51 PM
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Problem is, he's good at acting present. But ALL he does is say how cute the baby is. And ask 'what is the baby doing?' Apparently he's distracting my nephew... But its ANNOYING, put a leash on your kid already!
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Jan 14, 2012, 05:21 PM
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I always (in regards to parents with this philosophy) say, "You want to be a deluded doormat and put yourself through this ****, fine, but don't subject me to it, because I didn't sign up to be a martyr!" Anyone with half an ounce of observational skill can see that it doesn't work! Not now. Not later. I do see this as babysitting. Do you have a moment to yourself or are you having to watch said child every minute? If I'm watching someone else's child, to me, that's babysitting. Even if the child's parents are right in the room. Btw, I have major problems with people who think if they are in a group, they can just kick back assuming every single person with a uterus will automatically watch their child. Guess again. Ok, before I go off into major league rant (which, on this topic could go on for pages)  ... It is YOUR space. It is NOT cute. He needs to either step up (which, due to his philosophy, won't happen), or go somewhere else and find someone else to take advantage of. You don't have to put up with being subjected to this and he needs to be made fully aware of that. Behavior in one's own space is not necessarily appropriate when in the company of others, let alone as a guest in their home.
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Jan 14, 2012, 05:36 PM
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We know we should say something (myself ,m0m and siblings) but really at this stage we just grin and bare it. Bcos: 1) my brother will be gone in a week :2) he's a hothead. Always has been. And what's worse than a hothead? A hothead who is NEVER wrong...
AAAAAND the kicker is? This is the 1st time we've seen my brother since '08, which means he couldn't even attend dad and eldest brother's funerals. And n0w he's getting divorced again... So we just want to keep the peace, for everyone's sake if the circumstances were different i wouldn't have dreamt of holding my tongue, and neither anybody else in our family. But it is what it is, and that's the reason I turned to you guys... |
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Jan 14, 2012, 05:55 PM
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Sounds like a tough spot. I can understand why you feel that way.
Sounds like the little imp needs to be physically wore out. Can anyone take the little guy out and run his tail off for a couple of hours. Then the little savage might listen a bit better.
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Jan 14, 2012, 05:58 PM
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Hey Rosie, it's 1am now, he went to bed about an hour ago. So I can breath until morning. Hoping his dad takes him to the beach tomorrow...
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Jan 14, 2012, 06:11 PM
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 Yeah, I get that. I have a really hard time when big situational stuff is involved too, it can make me really waffle-y. Apologies if I came off too harshly. I've got a situation like that (in dynamic) and if someone else was describing it, I'd think what to do would be pretty obvious. Except it's not.Enjoy your quiet hours! 
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Jan 14, 2012, 07:03 PM
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I couldn't handle that Trippin. Seriously. May the force be with you...
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Jan 14, 2012, 08:39 PM
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Trippin ... bless you hun !
My daughter is now almost 21 years old ,,BUT even at 2 years old she knew how to behave for the most part one day she asked me when she was about 5 years old while they were in my home "Mommy ... why does uncle rick let his son act like a animal?" Hahahahaha .......My brother and his wife hated to reprimand there kid,, they now have 3 and they eventually learned... But I would actively avoid being around them because it made me absolutly BONKERS to be around them... Maybe you could take your daughter somewhere tomorrow ALONE just the 2 of you for a while just to give yourself a break . Good luck and sending you warm fuzzies of hope 
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Jan 15, 2012, 02:10 AM
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Thank you so much guys for listening,your support and letting me vent. IZ I never percieve anything you say as harsh
 Here's to hoping my sanity stays intact 
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Jan 15, 2012, 09:29 AM
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Hope it gets better - what a frustrating situation!
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Jan 15, 2012, 09:34 AM
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Naps? No way! Think I saw him nap for an hour once. He puts up a hellava fight if you mention the word sleep...
Been locked in my room most of the day, and the times I do interact, I realize I'm still irritable... |
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