[BuggsBunny]

Had a crisis today and desperately needed to go out and share with a friend, then came to the realization that there was nowhere to go except Walmart, and no one to go with except the people I live with. And the only one of them I'd hang out with is my younger sister, and she was the problem. So I sat in my room feeling totally trapped.

I have no friends in the area (just my brother in law's family) and I'm not likely to vent with any of them. I know a bunch of other homeschooling moms, but have no close relationships with any of them. The only place I can make friends around here is church, since it's a farming community and there aren't any real solo/meet people activities in the area, and we are in the middle of changing churches.

So here I sit, feeling trapped in a situation I can't control, and having no one I can call up and say Meet me at ... for coffee?

Like a lot of other posts have asked, where do you meet people to make friends when you don't have any place to go to meet people?

[Trippin2.0]

I don't have an answer, but I really do empathize. I'm sending lots of love and understanding hugs your way

[BlackPup]

Sorry to hear that you're feeling trapped. It's horrible living in a place where you have few close friends. Hope you sort out your differences with your sister.

[ManicDad]

I'm sorry to hear about all of this. I don't have many close friends either. I used to, but over the years, we all kind of drifted apart. I know how lonely it can feel.

I'm a huge extrovert, so I have no trouble meeting people. Now, whether these people become friends or not is a whole other issue. A song lyric I really like says "there's people been friendly, but they'd never be your friend." it's sad but true. Finding a true friend is so challenging.

I wish I had more to offer you, but know I know how you feel and I wish nothing but good things for you. If you ever wanna talk, PM me.

[BipolarBug]

When we moved here three years ago, I had no friends or family in this area. My husband grew up in this area and this is where his family is and he had several friends. It took me almost 2 years before I really met anyone to be friends with because I stayed at home the majority of the time. Finally, I have a very close friend here that I can rely on for anything.

Church is a good place to meet people (if that coincides with your beliefs). Getting out an volunteering can do wonders for your self-esteem and is also a good place to meet people. Getting out and going shopping, the salon, tanning beds...

Sorry you are feeling this way. I've been there and it's not easy.

[BuggsBunny]

Thanks everyone! I'm doing better today, and had a nice social time with some new moms at my homeschool co-op. I'm trying to make friends there, but we are all busy moms (or in my case, aunts) and it's hard to find someone to socialize with. I did clear the air with my sis, and I think I may actually attend church on Sunday. There's a new church in the area, more casual, and much closer than the hour away one I never get to now. I think that may be a good, healthy place to start hunting for friends of my own.

My sister did offer me her friend to vent with, when I explained how absolutely furious I was at her yesterday, LOL. Might be kind of awkward, tho.

[BlackPup]

Good luck with your new church. I hope you find some great friends there. If you need to vent then keep posting. We are here to listen
Good that your sister is at least a little understanding about how you ae feeling but it would be awkward!

[moremi]

Yay!!! Let us know how church goes today. Thinking of you buggs your an awesome person. If we lived closer we could go hang out and have fun. You always crack me up, Im sure with your wining personality you will make many new friends. Good luck :-)

[BuggsBunny]

Church really went well. It was so informal, some of the people were running around in socks and bare feet! Now that's my kind of group! Instead of a sermon we had a Sunday school like session, where I actually got a chance to answer questions on the lesson (I caught on quick) and feel more relaxed than I ever did at my old churches. I'm really looking forward to going back next week, and for me, that is a total First.

Time will tell how I do making friends, but already I have met three new people that I will remember next week.

@moremi - thanks for the compliments
@Blackpup - It's going to be a challenging week, as I will be alone with both kids for three straight days, so I may very well be back to vent on trying to teach two kids at once, get the laundry done, and still feed them three meals a day. And feed the dog, too, cause that's my bro-in-law's job, so I usually don't even think about it. I'm still wondering why I agreed to let both my sister and her husband go to the conference at the same time

Hugs to all!

Oh dang, I just wrote out a big reply and I accidentally hit something and deleted it.

I'm really glad church went well and that it was a good fit for you. Buggs I agree with Moremi, you have a great personality, you are warm, smart and funny, shouldnt take too long before you are having to turn people away.

With a church that informal I think it would make it a little easier to socialize and make friends. I'm really happy it turned out so well. I dreaded switching churches as a child, i was so shy and every church was so different. Hopefully this week will go just as smoothly too. Of course come back to vent if those kids give you a hard time.

[Secretum]

I'm happy that church went well. Church is a great place to make friends; most of my friends I met at church.
I hope that things go well for you in your endeavor to meet new friends. I know what it is like to be lonely...it really sucks.

[Hobbes75]

I know where you are coming from. I don't have many friends, if any. It's hard to meet people in general. I'm glad to hear you are doing better!

[BuggsBunny]

Doing a yo-yo dance today. Church was great, but I can't go back. There was a meeting after church and I found out after I posted earlier. The proposed new pastor is not going to pastor the church, and there are some serious differences in my beliefs and the current leaders. I'm not going to go into the details, because that would open up a whole can of worms on who believes what about whom. I'm not sure the mods would appreciate that one. It's more important to me to stay within my Christian beliefs than to be able to kick off my shoes and be laid back.

Anyway, after crying about it, I came to the conclusion that it's the small teaching atmosphere that I liked, and I really want to continue that the most, so I can always forgo my sleep (sigh) drive the hour into the town where our current church is, and go to Sunday School. (I'm trying to be positive about this.) If I want to make friends bad enough, and I believe I do, then I will need to go to the lengths necessary to do it. It just royally sux that I can't do it at the church 5 miles away!

I have not given up. I will not give up.

***This is a test of the emergency friendship system. This is only a test. In the event of an actual friendship, you will be advised when and where to go.***