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Jul 05, 2012 at 02:23 PM
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A while ago (like 3 months) I had sleep problems and constantly thought about sex, off course hubby didn't complain but then as suddenly as it started it ended. Hubby was confused as to why it went from VERY frequently to almost non existent. So the mood has just started again yesterday and I can't wait to see hubby (was working out, he will be home tomorrow morning) because I missed him and obviously for other reasons... I am now worried that I will want it again sooooo much and then be kinda repulsed shortly after. Needless to say this is confusing for hubby and even myself. We had some problems but we are finally at a stage where we communicate again and I think I'm falling in love again (major Whoo hoo). Any advice on how to tackle this serious (for me) and sensitive issue. (For hubby sex is like the holy grail- and when it's non existent he immediately thinks something major is wrong or I don't love him) His ex wife cheated so he has some minor trust issues-working on those and it's going great. Any help would be appreciated.
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Jul 05, 2012 at 02:51 PM
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Hi, Chihuahua. Although I'm male, I have gone through this. I've been married for 13 years, and my sexual desires have come and gone at different times, probably some with medication changes. However, I always noticed that when I got a little hypomanic, my sex drive increased. So along with moments of euphoria, agitation, restlessness, etc., I also got an increased sex drive. Once my mood evened out, my drive returned to normal. Do you feel your mood swinging when this happens? Just a thought...
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Jul 05, 2012 at 03:04 PM
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Yes definitely, irritated like crazy! No real appetite. It comes with the mood swings etc. I'm glad someone else has experienced this (now I know I'm not crazy and a sex addict)- felt like one was really weird!
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Jul 05, 2012 at 03:57 PM
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This is exactly how my sex drive is. When manic my sex drive is insane and the woman I am with couldn't be happier. When I am down, it's rare that I want to even try. At first it was very confusing for her (and even a little to me) until I finally had a bipolar dx and then it made all the sense in the world.
Medications can also really effect sex drive (SSRI's just kill mine) but it sounds like your's is a mood issue where it comes and goes. That's exactly what it is for me. What my girlfriend has said is that now that she understands the ups and downs (which I hope to level with meds soon, I am currently not medicated) she knows that she will just enjoy when my drive is increased and not hold the lack of drive against me when I am down. I think understanding that this is probably a mood thing which I bet a lot of BP people deal with should help it to make sense to you. In turn, you can reassure your husband it's not him and maybe he can understand better as well. __________________ ‘Cause when I’m dead and I’m gone / Just burn me up to the sun I got a couple more years here / I want nothing but you, dear Yeah, when I stare at the ceiling / Five o’clock in the morning I got one thing that’s on my mind / Got so much to do before we die, if I survive So live it up, live it real good / As you should We both know, we could be gone tomorrow So tell me what keeps you up at night / Keeps you from closing your eyes, Keeps you alive |
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Jul 05, 2012 at 04:47 PM
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Happens to me too.
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Jul 05, 2012 at 05:20 PM
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Hey Chihuahua, I just went through this and it was because I was going hypomanic. It does feel like you become a sex addict. I felt like a rabbit in heat and nothing could cure it. As soon as I was finished I wanted more and more and more. It is sad when it goes away because like your husband my husband feels the same way. It's like you become one with your partner and are totally in sync on that aspect of the relationship. Mine hasn't abruptly stopped but I feel it dwindling away.
I was open with my hubby about what I was going through. He just smiled as I talked because I went from not wanting it AT ALL to that, he wasn't going to complain. So long as you keep it in the relationship tell him to just enjoy himself while it lasts, you too. I was stupid and decided one man wasn't enough and it got me into some trouble at home, so best advice is to be completely open, unashamed and go with it 
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Jul 05, 2012 at 08:00 PM
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when im manic or hypomanic my sex drive rockets! but mostly i am depressed and off sex which is fustrating for both me and my partner. luckily he's sympathetic i dont know what id do without him and know for sure no other man could put up with me!
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