[mojave_rose8]

So, this is more of a rant than anything …

I moved to a new city a few months ago. I knew no one, at all. In general, it’s hard for me to make friends, but about a month after I had been here, I met an older (than me!) woman who reached out to me, and seemed very friendly. We seemed to have a lot in common, and she invited me to lunch. I was very excited about having lunch with her, because 1. At the time, I still didn’t have any friends and 2. She seemed like an awesome person.

She sent me some emails, which seemed pretty enthusiastic about getting together (in the near future). Well, after a day or two, I emailed her back, trying to set something up. Nothing. No response. This was over a month ago. I emailed her again a few weeks ago in case she hadn’t received my initial email. Again – nothing. Every time I check my email, I feel disappointed, waiting for a reply that never comes.

Since then, I have made friends, so it’s not like I was completely dependent on her for companionship, but even so, I am very hurt. I don’t know why or even if she is ignoring me – something could have come up in her life, for example. But, in any event, the summer is almost over, and I don’t think she will have time to hang out this fall (given her schedule), and … well, it just sucks.

I wish I could stop hoping that she will magically contact me, because I don’t think it’s gonna happen.

[BlueInanna]

That's so lame
Maybe she has adhd like me or something... I only yesterday responded to an email from my old T from a month ago
But a new lady in town, agreeing to meet up for lunch, I would have made sure to respond. Glad you found other new friends.

Do you live in LA?
***
I stopped trying to make sense of other people's wacky behavior. Especially people that I really dont know. I just dont care anymore. I realized how much energy it takes up to be frustrated, disappointed or hurt. I have enough on my plate. You did nothing wrong, and I can completely understand how you could feel disappointed. You put in the effort and were counting on someone to follow through. She struck you as trustworthy and then left you hanging. Ugh.

Frankly, people are just busy, forgetful, have their own set of problems. They can be neglectful and selfish...even forget their manners or be plain rude. It is no reflection on you xx

I am glad you have others that you can hang out with and rely on

Hugs to you.

[cocoabeans]

Maybe she's bipolar

I've totally done things like that, met people, started friendships and my mood changed and then I just don't want to be near others. I'm awesome so, people probably feel bad but...

The friends I keep around though, they tolerate my dropping off the face of the earth for months!

[mojave_rose8]

Originally Posted by Rose Panachée

Do you live in LA?
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I stopped trying to make sense of other people's wacky behavior. Especially people that I really dont know. I just dont care anymore. I realized how much energy it takes up to be frustrated, disappointed or hurt. I have enough on my plate. You did nothing wrong, and I can completely understand how you could feel disappointed. You put in the effort and were counting on someone to follow through. She struck you as trustworthy and then left you hanging. Ugh.

Frankly, people are just busy, forgetful, have their own set of problems. They can be neglectful and selfish...even forget their manners or be plain rude. It is no reflection on you xx

I am glad you have others that you can hang out with and rely on

Hugs to you.

Yes -- that is what bothers me -- she struck me as trustworthy, and she seemed really enthuatistic about hanging out.

I can be flaky at times, I admit, but I usually get back to people within a couple of weeks. It just makes me think something is wrong with *me*, you know? Many times, I can know something with the intellectual part of my brain, but the emotional side is much harder to convince.

Originally Posted by mojave_rose8

So, this is more of a rant than anything …

I moved to a new city a few months ago. I knew no one, at all. In general, it’s hard for me to make friends, but about a month after I had been here, I met an older (than me!) woman who reached out to me, and seemed very friendly. We seemed to have a lot in common, and she invited me to lunch. I was very excited about having lunch with her, because 1. At the time, I still didn’t have any friends and 2. She seemed like an awesome person.

She sent me some emails, which seemed pretty enthusiastic about getting together (in the near future). Well, after a day or two, I emailed her back, trying to set something up. Nothing. No response. This was over a month ago. I emailed her again a few weeks ago in case she hadn’t received my initial email. Again – nothing. Every time I check my email, I feel disappointed, waiting for a reply that never comes.

Since then, I have made friends, so it’s not like I was completely dependent on her for companionship, but even so, I am very hurt. I don’t know why or even if she is ignoring me – something could have come up in her life, for example. But, in any event, the summer is almost over, and I don’t think she will have time to hang out this fall (given her schedule), and … well, it just sucks.

I wish I could stop hoping that she will magically contact me, because I don’t think it’s gonna happen.

....twist this a little if I may?

lets say perhaps?....just allow that I am disappointed with others?...who will know who will care will anybody make my life better because of this?

...so why ....do they....use me as leverage to enhance their self esteem...?

no fair!

I ..ME..."YOU"...must never need not ever again rely on the opinions of others no matter what

....it's so unfair while 'they' SEEM to make no mistakes ....

you are emotionally complete and have reasons for your pain as we all do.


....the only imbalance is that 'these others' have not been introduced to the idea and more that 'they' are disappointing to us at times if not more often yes indeed...

Originally Posted by mojave_rose8

Yes -- that is what bothers me -- she struck me as trustworthy, and she seemed really enthuatistic about hanging out.

I can be flaky at times, I admit, but I usually get back to people within a couple of weeks. It just makes me think something is wrong with *me*, you know? Many times, I can know something with the intellectual part of my brain, but the emotional side is much harder to convince.

I understand xx it still hurts.
It took me a really long time and a lot of hard work...

You will get there as your self confidence grows.
R

[hamster-bamster]

I understand you completely. I would feel the same way.