[Trippin2.0]

If you opened THIS thread, after THAT title, then God bless you

My day starts at 4:30am, if you know me, you know that sleep broke up with me years ago, the sheep have a restraining order, and the Sandman thinks I'm a stalker! what I'm trying to say is, MY DAY IS LONG, LONG, LONG!! And nearly 4hrs of it is spent travelling!...
BUUTT Thats not why I'm whining, just wanted to give my whining some context.

I live with my mom, younger brother and my daughter. My mum decided that widowhood gave her the licence to not cook. Which is ok, I kinda getit, plus she does still begrudgingly fix supper some nights and cooks for 2 nights when she does make a pot of food ... My issue is this... my mom is home all day, when my brother is at college she'll cook, or fix something before he even gets home, bcos he's day is "long" and he'll be starving. When he's on vacation, like now, she blatantly refuses to cook (idk, maybe I don't starve) and he won't go near the stove unless HE WANTS TO, so I'M EXPECTED to organize supper when I walk thru the door. Why??? Coz I have to feed my daughter, so I may as well feed everyone! I didn't even cook tonight, I had no strength, just fried some eggs and burgers, was in tears before I was done bcoz I'm tired and so hungry that I'm ready to hurl Why don't I matter? I know that when Jordan and I move I'll HAVE to go thru this every night, guess I stupidly expected to be treated equally in this house. Or maybe it's not unfair at all and I'm just being emo

...dearest Ophelia....you matter to me, miles and miles away and likely never meet or what?...but you matter to me...

love the sheep thing funny girl...x

[Trippin2.0]

Thanks James

anytime Ophelia....I'm gonna go try make friends wid dem sheepies now am sleepy ...not bah bah in a weird way...

just couldn't leave you like that there all like that nope

nite nite

[Trippin2.0]

Nyt nyt James, you've been awake since forever, glad you and the sheepies are trying to make nice

You will probably find it easier to cook when it's just you and Jordan. Because you won't have to feel like you don't matter or why does mom do this for brother but but not me. Trippin I'm excited for when you and your daughter are on your own. I think it will bring you some much needed peace.

Now. Whenever someone asks me what I would do If I won the lotto, first thing I always think is hire a cook. I loathe cooking. Really I do!!!! I'd almost rather starve but because the kids need to eat I cook. And now that I'm gluten free I really do have to cook. But you know like why can't we eat like once a week and then just slow release the nutrients haha. I'm waiting for that day!!

Hope your long day goes better. I've been sleeping like 2-3 hours a night last few weeks. I'm determined not to become manic but yup long days. Four hours travelling, wow I hope you have something to entertain you durring that time.

[Trippin2.0]

I think you're right about my own place giving me some peace entertainment? I keep my phone fully charged, so I have music, mxit and PC Anika, I hate cooking too, and like you, Jordan is my motivation. I'll gladly eat a peanutbutter sandwich for dinner. LOL, Slow release nutrients? That would be friggin AWES0ME! Hope mania takes a detour and gives you a miss

[faerie_moon_x]

I'm with you and I feel your pain!

I hate cooking. I loath cooking. I'm terrible at it. I've never had a good relationship with food. We're on civil terms, I guess. I am a terrible organizer and planner, so putting together a meal is tremendously difficult for me to get everything going and working and done properly. And who is the cook at my house? Me. Who works all day? Me. Who does all the shopping? Me.

So yeah... frustration level 100

[Trippin2.0]

(((DHX))) wow, I thought I was the only 1 who feels out of their depth in the kitchen. My family doesn't understand that blindsiding me with the stove causes major panic... They think I panic cos according to them I love the drama

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

(((DHX))) wow, I thought I was the only 1 who feels out of their depth in the kitchen. My family doesn't understand that blindsiding me with the stove causes major panic... They think I panic cos according to them I love the drama

OMG... that is exactly what people say to me... one person in particular! You like to argue. You only say you don't feel well to cause drama and attention. There's nothing wrong with you. Blah blah blah....

Because anxiety and stress and panic and racing thoughts are so much fun! Why wouldn't everyone love that???

I don't know, Trippin. Life isn't fair; it really isn't.

Your mother's age has something to do with it, I suspect. And when the son isn't there, she tries to take a break.

Have you a crockpot at home? (The ceramic type!) If so, why not pick up a crockpot cookbook at a store and look up some simple recipes that you can start in the A.M. before you leave for work that will be ready for you and Jordan when you arrive home from work. Good foods fresh from the grocery the afternoon before will fill the bill for maybe two nights of meals for all of you: mother, Jordan and you.

(Mom is there to supervise if anything goes wrong, probably, although it won't likely do that if you've followed the recipe carefully.)

Another route is to go online to allrecipes.com and check out some easy ones to start you on the cooking game.

I thought about you earlier today and wondered how you were getting along with work and life living at home.

Living with your child alone would be wonderful. I hope the time comes for you when you can afford a housekeeper, a cook, and a "nana"! Probably everything would clear up!!

Or just hang a sign in the kitchen that says "This Is My Kitchen"! And watch
how fast she comes back to it!

Take care.

Genetic

[doglover5]

Your mum sounds just like mine! This same type of scenario happened so many times when I lived at "home" with my mom, her husband & my two sisters (ages 14 & 6). It was like my mother couldn't decide whether she felt I was 'always in the way' or ridiculously convenient to have around to do anything & everything she asked. I didn't even have a child, only a dog who she exiled to the garage while I lived there (that's another soap box completely), and she doesn't work, clean, or do any laundry. She takes pictures when she feels like it, but mostly just plays around on the computer all day while her maid cleans & does laundry. She very rarely ever cooked; it would just be randomly when she felt like it. (and there would be hell to pay if you didn't participate in dinner when she cooked too.) But she treated me like she worked 4 jobs, cooked 3 meals a day, washed everyone's clothes & mopped the floors every day and letting me live under "her" roof (which, not to mention, is a brand spankin new house paid for by my stepdad- again another soap box) was as huge & personal as saving my life by giving me a kidney, a lung, half a heart & an arm or something!! In other words: I'd never be able to repay her. Lol I can laugh now since I'm not living there anymore, but WHEW was it an emotional roller coaster at the time!!! Hugs to you (((((trippin))))) even though I hate the phrase, hang in there. It'll be better once you're on your own!! No one to criticize you or complain or nag after you have a long day!!

[doglover5]

Yikes I apologize for that post being so long haha

[doglover5]

Oh and I'm with Anika on the "hiring a cook if I win the lottery" wagon!! I can't tell you how many times I've gone to sleep instead of eating supper, simply bc I did not even feel like making food. I'm terrible at cooking, but somehow I still enjoy it. Problem is, after working all day & week- I NEVER have the energy to do anything in the kitchen except open food I can put straight in my mouth!

[faerie_moon_x]

Oh yeah. A cook, a maid, and a gardner.... that's my dream. All the niceness without all the hard work.

[~Christina]

Awwww Trippin ,

Im so sorry you are having not only work and travel so many hours a day BUT then to come home and have to deal with bull****.

Not being respected in your home is the worst and I can relate .

(((((( hugs ))))))

[BuggsBunny]

You can add me to the loathe cooking team. When I lived alone I ate frozen dinners with a canned vegetable. I'm no good at cooking, and am slowly learning the basics, now that I occasionally have to cook for us. But I still cook from the basic 4 - eat in, take out, frozen, or canned.