[kj44]

I've been separated for 2 months, in the hospital for first 7 days. I was married 19 yrs.. I can't stop crying, I've prayed and begged for strength, and I'm just not getting any relief. I'm taking my meds, I've lost 35lbs, the only good thing, but still can't see even a dim light at the end of the tunnel. It makes me feel like maybe this is it for me, I don't understand why I made it through my last episode with the hospital. Why can't I be strong, why am I being tortured? I hate being a cry baby, but, apparently, I am. When does the pain stop?

[BusyMomma2]

I really dont know or have advice. Day by day. Hour by hour. I hope someone has some helpful insight.

Hugs.

Call your minister in to talk to you if you have one. You will be okay in time, but it's
going to take time for the strength to build. Allow yourself to cry all you wish; it's a healthy way to deal with what feels like defeat.

You are not defeated and there will be light at the end of the tunnel. This is a time for you to vent here as much as you need to, and keep in mind that day by day things will begin to improve.

One day you will look back on this as a time of changing your life for what will be
best for you. That's what I believe has been planned for all of us, and I think your
minister will be able to give you some assurance of that with his discussion with you.

Talking with a psychiatrist is fine, but I always felt greater relief and help from
spiritual advice, whether it was from a minister, reading the Bible or talking to one
of my own faith.

Please continue to post and keep in touch with your psychiatrist.

Try to eat some healthy food along the way now to start building the physical strength, too.

A prayer is going up for you now that strength will return over the days and weeks ahead.

Genetic

[Victoria'smom]

It depends on so many things. It took one friend 6-8 months to get divorced but another one has been going through divorce for about 2 yrs. Do you have any supportive friends to visit?

[kj44]

Originally Posted by genetic

Call your minister in to talk to you if you have one. You will be okay in time, but it's
going to take time for the strength to build. Allow yourself to cry all you wish; it's a healthy way to deal with what feels like defeat.

You are not defeated and there will be light at the end of the tunnel. This is a time for you to vent here as much as you need to, and keep in mind that day by day things will begin to improve.

One day you will look back on this as a time of changing your life for what will be
best for you. That's what I believe has been planned for all of us, and I think your
minister will be able to give you some assurance of that with his discussion with you.

Talking with a psychiatrist is fine, but I always felt greater relief and help from
spiritual advice, whether it was from a minister, reading the Bible or talking to one
of my own faith.

Please continue to post and keep in touch with your psychiatrist.

Try to eat some healthy food along the way now to start building the physical strength, too.

A prayer is going up for you now that strength will return over the days and weeks ahead.

Genetic

Thank you, that is sweet wonderful advice. Unfortunately, my faith is just me and God, I don't attend church. Really do appreciate the kind advice.

[Clinte89]

I think surrounding yourself with good friends is what you need now more than ever. Call on them and your family keep your support system close and hang in there. I can imagine that its hard to deal with right now but keep in mind that with time things get better.

[kj44]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

It depends on so many things. It took one friend 6-8 months to get divorced but another one has been going through divorce for about 2 yrs. Do you have any supportive friends to visit?

My friends don't really get it, they are different then me. They didn't have any problems telling they're exes to hit the road. I just have issues, but, thank you forl listening!

[kj44]

Originally Posted by Clinte89

I think surrounding yourself with good friends is what you need now more than ever. Call on them and your family keep your support system close and hang in there. I can imagine that its hard to deal with right now but keep in mind that with time things get better.

Thanks, love your signature! Gave me a boost!

[~Christina]

Kj

I can understand how your feeling. I went thru a divorce and at times I felt the same way your feeling .. How did I get thru it? Each day I thought of one thing that I was going to be able do with just ME and my needs met. I cooked foods that my soon to be Ex hated ! ( made me grin)

I also walked around my house sometimes singing as loud as i wanted .. I also talked or more often yelled as if my ex was standing in front of me.. that honestly helped me the most,,,, I was able to *itch him out and tell "him" every single thing i disliked about him in great great detail.. I guess it was getting things off my chest.. maybe sounds silly But.... we bipolars tend to watch ourselves and make sure we try to blend in with everyone else ..

My wish for you is that you find whatever outlet you need to realize you are going to get thru all this and you will be feeling better... everything hurts the most in the begining.... Time does help lessen the pain.. Depend on your faith and friends .. you need and deserve happiness .. The saying sometimes feels " cheesy" but when one door shut another one opens ...

Be kind to yourself