[Tsunamisurfer]

I used to be very direct. I would search people's gaze, make eye contact with everyone in a shopping mall. Most strangers seem to be uncomfortable with this in a big city - at least where I live.

But lately I have found myself avoiding eye contact with people who are my friends - people who have shown me they care. Since I started sensing people's thoughts and feelings without even seeing their faces, (people sitting in front of me with their backs to me) I have felt stark naked. People can see straight into me, and their thoughts are not nice. How can I look them in the eyes?! One or two in a closed room maybe, but in a crowd? I feel stripped of every defence, and need to hide from their searching senses.

Does anyone here understand what is going on? Does anyone experience the same thing? My pdoc has no idea that my social fears have these experiences behind them. I can't tell her.

[Broken Angel]

Before being depressed and being a bipolar, I used to look into everyone's eyes without bothering about anything..
But nowadays all I do in a crowd is just to look down and keep my hands tied. I asked some people about it and they were like this maybe because you are not feeling comfortable or just being scared of what would people judge you through their eyes.
But whenever I tell to myself that I don't care about what people might judge me about, looking through people's eyes got a little bit easier.
Hope it helps

[stevelord]

I have always felt uncomfortable looking someone in the eye, probably tied in with a gereral discomfort with intamacy. I also cant think when looking someone in the eye, I get self conscious. So tsunami can you do any other types of paranormal stuff other than read thoughts, like psychic or channeling? Ido have several abilities in that area. One is if I check a woman's figure out, even at fifty yards , even if her back is turned she will hike up her britches or bathing suit immediately or pull downher shirt to cover more of her or her bikini top, if thats where I was looking. This does NOT work if I am conscious that I am doing so in order to cause that response. Im trying to determine if there is money in this. Ha ha.

Steve Lord

[Tsunamisurfer]

Originally Posted by stevelord

... do any other types of paranormal stuff other than read thoughts, like psychic or channeling?

I don't think so, Steve. I suspect I may not truly be reading thoughts, but the feeling at the time is extremely compelling. I don't see it as an ability, but just plain nerve racking. That seems to be why it is so unsettling. If I was sure it was just a crazy thought, I could fob it off as nothing relevant. If I was absolutely certain it was true, I would no doubt have acted on it. But I'm stuck somewhere in between, and I'm too terrified to do anything. So I avoid people to get out of the conflict I feel.

Originally Posted by stevelord

Im trying to determine if there is money in this. Ha ha.

LOL. Ever the opportunist

[thickntired]

I am very self-conscious about eye contact. I always feel like ppl think I'm coming on to them in a sexual way from too much or that I'm ignoring them from not enough. Damn it's easier to just text lol.

TnT

[dillpickle1983]

I used to be very direct and affirming when it came to talking to another person, now I notice I try to not make eye contact. I feel insecure when I make eye contact. I don't know why...

[BlueInanna]

(((tsunami))) this makes me sad that you think people are thinking bad things about you. sounds like you are reasoning through it, and perhaps this is why you don't want to tell pdoc? but rationally, it is not really possible for all these people especially if they don't know you, to be thinking bad things about you. you know... they all out there are actually usually more concerned about what you and everyone else thinks about them. and also, rationally, if someone were to think something bad about you, it doesn't make it true.

Originally Posted by stevelord

I check a woman's figure out, even at fifty yards , even if her back is turned she will hike up her britches or bathing suit immediately or pull downher shirt to cover more of her or her bikini top, if thats where I was looking. This does NOT work if I am conscious that I am doing so in order to cause that response. Im trying to determine if there is money in this. Ha ha.
Steve Lord

Steve, bless your heart, but this is not your ability. This is a woman's ability to know she's being perved on. Women also have a keen ability to say to our girlfriend without barely moving our lips, don't look now but there is some guy over there staring at you. Who likes to be stared at?

[Clinte89]

I have never looked people in the eye. I just have never been very confident, probably because my parents or at least my dad was never very comforting and I feel like they always looked down on me. Oh well though so the simple answer is yes I avoid eye contact.

[Miss Melancholy]

I've always found eye contact very difficult, unless I've had a drink of course!

[BlueInanna]

sorry tsunami i forgot to answer the question. i do like eye contact, when i'm speaking with someone. but not so much in crowds of strangers.

[Faraway tree]

If I feel good I look people in the eye, if I feel bad I look away because I'm scared they will be able to tell I'm feeling bad or I might cry... Ironically looking away is the biggest giveaway something is wrong anyway.

"Do you avoid looking people in the eye?"

Sometimes if I can't tell which eye is looking at me.

You have nothing to fear; it can be just shyness, especially if you are a young person.

Genetic

[Tsunamisurfer]

Originally Posted by Faraway tree

... Ironically looking away is the biggest giveaway something is wrong anyway.

Yes. That is possibly why I find it easier to stay away from people when I'm feeling that way. Then there is nothing they can get offended by (directly).

I was highly agitated in hospital last week, and the nurses were eyeing me out. The more they stared, the more I avoided them. Eventually they descended on me like a swarm of bees.

[bamagirl35967]

Originally Posted by Broken Angel

Before being depressed and being a bipolar, I used to look into everyone's eyes without bothering about anything..
But nowadays all I do in a crowd is just to look down and keep my hands tied. I asked some people about it and they were like this maybe because you are not feeling comfortable or just being scared of what would people judge you through their eyes.
But whenever I tell to myself that I don't care about what people might judge me about, looking through people's eyes got a little bit easier.
Hope it helps

how do you get to the point you dont care? my husband tells me he is all the support i need but i just dont see it. i feel like everyone is judging me and that no matter what i do its always wrong.