I guess I love fantasies... and normal people cannot give that to me

venusss · Aug 29, 2012 at 02:22 PM

Not sure if it belong here... but so it be........

Been talking to my friend recently about how I "don't do relationships". I talked about a Palestinian guy I met (it's very important he's a Palestinian. After all I test people with asking them for difference between Fatah and Hamas and I pride myself in knowing a lot about I/P conflict). We met in club. Both were drunk. He massaged my hand and talked about his hometown and family ("Allah doesn't care I drink and party, but parents sure would kill me"). I lost him in a crowd at some point and then went home from summer. Tried to look for him, but never met him again (maybe he moved?). I am sure I didn't make him up .

So many years and I still think of him. Not intensly, but I do.

I guess it's part of my fantasies. After all, I fantazised about Libyan rebels (don't ask. But they say warriors make best lovers. And Czech guys are boring and would never die for their ideals).

I am not interested in real guy at the moment. Maybe cause none of them are freedom fighters or cynical but idealist humanitarian workers who consider Afghanistan their second home.

I know, I know, hard to meet these. Maybe I should write a polical soap about revolutionaires and then settle for normal guy. Maybe if I met my freedom fighter, I would turn them down because I would be sure they'd tie me down, try to change me and save me...

Maybe I am just scared a bit of real life. Who knows?

creativelight · Aug 29, 2012 at 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by VenusHalley

Not sure if it belong here... but so it be........

Been talking to my friend recently about how I "don't do relationships". I talked about a Palestinian guy I met (it's very important he's a Palestinian. After all I test people with asking them for difference between Fatah and Hamas and I pride myself in knowing a lot about I/P conflict). We met in club. Both were drunk. He massaged my hand and talked about his hometown and family ("Allah doesn't care I drink and party, but parents sure would kill me"). I lost him in a crowd at some point and then went home from summer. Tried to look for him, but never met him again (maybe he moved?). I am sure I didn't make him up .

So many years and I still think of him. Not intensly, but I do.

I guess it's part of my fantasies. After all, I fantazised about Libyan rebels (don't ask. But they say warriors make best lovers. And Czech guys are boring and would never die for their ideals).

I am not interested in real guy at the moment. Maybe cause none of them are freedom fighters or cynical but idealist humanitarian workers who consider Afghanistan their second home.

I know, I know, hard to meet these. Maybe I should write a polical soap about revolutionaires and then settle for normal guy. Maybe if I met my freedom fighter, I would turn them down because I would be sure they'd tie me down, try to change me and save me...

Maybe I am just scared a bit of real life. Who knows?

That's pretty cool. I'm sure Allah wanted you to meet him.. maybe your ideal guy he won't be a humanitarian but perhaps someone with high ideals. I don't know. I would say be open to opportunities, there's always a lesson to learn!

venusss · Aug 30, 2012 at 11:20 AM

I don't know. Maybe I should be more open or something.

faerie_moon_x · Aug 30, 2012 at 04:27 PM

Well, you never know where you're going to meet someone with high ideals who actually does something about them, (and not just talk.) But, you should be more open also. Maybe you won't meet any actual freedom fighters, but someone with that type of passion? I think that's what you need, is someone who has passion in what they do.

Perhaps you should join an organization that holds the similar ideals that you already have? I mean, people who have like minds usually find ways to gether together, right? That's usually the best way to meet someone with your interests and values.

Confusedinomicon · Aug 30, 2012 at 04:54 PM

Maybe you don't want to "settle" and you feel that a boyfriend would represent that? Or many men in your area are traditional in the sense that they want children with marriage?

I think you'd have to meet another free spirit. The Palestinian guy seems like your cup of tea because he went against standards built around Muslim tradition/the core family.

BlueInanna · Aug 30, 2012 at 06:47 PM

A friend once told me that some of her best relationships lasted one night or one day. I've found it to be true.
But I'm also a hopeless romantic and think that someone can come along anytime and totally amaze you. I wish for you Venus to find someone who blows your mind, mentally, sexually, the whole bit.

venusss · Sep 01, 2012 at 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by dark_heart_x

Well, you never know where you're going to meet someone with high ideals who actually does something about them, (and not just talk.) But, you should be more open also. Maybe you won't meet any actual freedom fighters, but someone with that type of passion? I think that's what you need, is someone who has passion in what they do.

Perhaps you should join an organization that holds the similar ideals that you already have? I mean, people who have like minds usually find ways to gether together, right? That's usually the best way to meet someone with your interests and values.

I actually do volunteering, but sadly most of volunteers are female. (and one Italiano I had short affair with lol, but he don't do relationships either). I had actually two big crushes on female volunteers... I am friends with both of them. I suspect Kim "from the good Korea" did like me too...

(again, lol, I do stay on the fantasy level with some spice. Maybe I need just to keep on searching. Or maybe all do-gooders are phobic of commitments and of what would parents say...).

venusss · Sep 01, 2012 at 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

Maybe you don't want to "settle" and you feel that a boyfriend would represent that? Or many men in your area are traditional in the sense that they want children with marriage?

I think you'd have to meet another free spirit. The Palestinian guy seems like your cup of tea because he went against standards built around Muslim tradition/the core family.

You have a valid point. I feel that not having commitments mean... I can do whatever I want and it's my thing.

and yeah... he was symbollic. At times I wonder if I didn't make it up

venusss · Sep 01, 2012 at 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by BlueInanna

A friend once told me that some of her best relationships lasted one night or one day. I've found it to be true.
But I'm also a hopeless romantic and think that someone can come along anytime and totally amaze you. I wish for you Venus to find someone who blows your mind, mentally, sexually, the whole bit.

I do hope so too... thanks. Or at least I can be happy with what I get and don't need to feel shallow for not having "long" relationships. Depth is what counts, right?

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