[Moose72]

My friend- who admitted to me that bipolar scares her but her brother is- read my blog. And then she sends me links on how to cure bp without drugs. Then she asked me have I taken steps to fix my life! **** her! Just walk in and criticize me. :angry:

[Moose72]

I hate being treated like I have a personality flaw or I am just weak and need some new age remedy to relax with.

[Anika.]

Aww Moose, I might believe in no meds and stuff but not for every one, But I never assume people never tried, I know they tried, we all tried. I know you try!

Some people like that don't think, they read and speak. Or something like that. But ya Sometimes there are things people just won't understand. I got a whole boat load of misunderstood that I carry around.

But you got love here, and understanding with us.

[Moose72]

I also had a recurring dream again last night: I miscarried late. Very vivid in feeling and visual.

[Moose72]

The discussion with her is making me very anxious.

[Anika.]

Don't discuss with her then moose, end the conversation, shut it down. Because it isn't doing anything for you, and i can't see what she will benefit from it anyhow.

[Victoria'smom]

You know your doing the right thing for yourself. Say thank-you and ask how she's doing.

[Moose72]

I just ignored her because I can't take it and now she's texting about where did I go. I should lie and say I fell asleep.

[Moose72]

I do like having a good friend but I don't feel entirely understood with the new agey links. And the easy answer and made to feel like a fool for taking meds for my obviously BRAIN-related illness!

[Anika.]

Yeah tell her you fell asleep, or whatever you want. But don't worry about it too much Moose. She might mean well, and people just don't get each other sometimes.

[unaluna]

man what is with people.

[Moose72]

Originally Posted by hankster

man what is with people.

Got me they try to help but they don't.

[Faraway tree]

Ahhhhh I hate that. I have a really close friend who "overcame her depression through therapy" and thinks I just need to "sit down and sort through my issues".

Her childhood was awful. Mine was awesome. I don't have issues other than rampant bipolar, which I don't think you can talk your way out of, or "resolve".

Totally get why your mad, I guess pepz just can't know until they walk a mile in your shoes . And why would they get it? I would never have believed a mood disorder could muck me up so much until I'd had it for seven years...

I think people who have had no depression don't get it at all.
People who have get what helped depression, but bipolar depression doesn't respond to cbt etc the same way.

Bipolar is a naughty little beast.

[Moose72]

Now I'm feeling guilty for my life sucking.

[Moose72]

Yes bipolar is a naughty little beast.

[Faraway tree]

Don't feel guilty for your live sucking.

I felt that way yesterday, then realised i try my hardest, you can't feel guilty about that

[Moose72]

I just can't figure a way to live on my own. :/ it's a major issue for me. MAJOR. And to be told simplistic solutions by people who are being supported by their husband doesn't sit well!

[Faraway tree]

It's not easy is it? I share a use with a few people and can JUST keep my head above water eating, sleeping, all those things people do.

There is no easy solution, but you'll get there.

As for your friend, she obviusly doesn't have a clue.

[canacrip]

I once walked out of a church service because the pastor was pontificating about the evils of psych drugs. People are stupid. People suck. At least we know we are flawed.

[BlueInanna]

aw Moose can you talk to this chick like, "I really enjoy our friendship, but please don't offer me non-med cures for bp. I've been dealing with this illness for a long time and I'm just not interested in all the so-called cures out there on the internet. Sorry, hope you understand?"

Originally Posted by Moose72

Now I'm feeling guilty for my life sucking.

life sux all by itself moosey

it's also "out of this world"....even while it's in it!

I feel guilty too....cos I'm part of the universal organic soup!

[Seaswept]

People do suck.
I have/had a friend, who thinks its all about god. If you go to church, pray enough and be a good little catholic like her (it'll go away???wtf)....blah blah blah. She just didn't get the whole brain chemistry problem and its not like she wasn't stupid very much a holy roller.
No offence to anyone here who may be very religious...she was just way over the top.

[Seaswept]

....And yeah I feel guilty too over my sucky situation. I don't feel as though my life sucks as I have a loving family and an ok job...but feel like I could be so much more. But am oppressed by this bipolar madness.

[LiveThroughThis]

I've gone through and continue to go through the same thing---well-meaning family members, etc., saying, "You just need to set some goals and start working toward them. You have to tell yourself you can put it mind over matter." Mmmm, that works amazingly when you're in the middle of a severe panic attack or depression so low it's almost painful to move.

As I tell them--and as I tell people on here too--this is MY damn life. I have to live in this skin. That is not to say I find something that gels and stick with it forever whether it's still helping or not. I'm always trying to figure out new/better ways to cope, improve, etc. Right now part of that is meds. Ppl can naysay all they want to. I say, F--ck off. I have worked way too hard and come too far, crawling all the way, to accept the stuff others "know" to be true.

[Eliza Jane]

I'm fortunate to have friends who "get it". I don't know how I got so lucky. My fam was a little skeptical and critical about all the meds and therapy, until I tried to stop my meds. When they saw how I deteriorated, they were saying things like, "Wow. I never realized how much medication helps you!" and started encouraging me to get back on them.

You know what's best for you and going to work for you. I'm sorry you aren't surrounded by people who are more understanding.

Best,
EJ