[~Christina]

Yes ! Tough week ahead.

My husband and I are making a trip to Georgia to see his youngest son graduate from Boot camp, leaving at 2am tuesday driving there spending the day at the military base. Then the next few days will be a blur. So big lack of sleep and I'm certain I will have increased pain to cope with ( always happens when we travel)

We are also taking his middle son with us ( more stress)

His oldest son and his nonstop talking girlfriend "might" come and stay with us for a few days after the graduation. Did I mention the girlfriend Never. Shuts. Up. ? I mean NEVER.

My husband has hurt my feelings many times over the last few weeks ( he is very stressed out ! and has reason to be) I am aware I am feeling overly sensitive but still. Ugh!

***Sigh***

[Victoria'smom]

I'm sorry your husband is hurting your feelings. I hope he's less stressed soon. Hopefully your trip will be better than you expect. Suggest to your son that everyone bring a book and personal music player because it's a long trip. So then there will be a bit more piece and quiet if his girlfriend comes.

Then there's always duct tape... Or maybe the car could be set up with one of those sound-proof booths like on the game shows...
It does sound quite intense and I hope it all goes more smoothly than can currently be imagined.
Sending lots of calm thoughts your way.

[~Christina]

Thanks MiguelisMom... Thanks .. yeah the girlfriend does not know how to shut up.. seriously at all .. Last time they were here my husband asked her to quiet down some and she kept right on talking.. about an hour later I asked her very nicely .. Her reply was " I always talk like this and I wont change" ....... Yep nice hu?

Innerzone ... hehehe Yeah I have thought about duct tape

[hamster-bamster]

I bet you can filter out the gf, not following everything she says. She probably would not even notice.

I am sorry that this trip means a flare-up of pain!

[bluemountains]

How many hours in the car is it? Can you download a couple of good books or music and put headphones on to drown it all out? This is my technique on long trips with my children. I love them dearly, but 4 children in a car for a long time creates arguments!
Congratulations to your stepson!
Bluemountains

Cotton in your ears, maybe?

[~Christina]

The unrelenting noise will happen after the trip when they (The oldest son and his nonstop talking girlfriend) come and stay with us for a couple days.

The middle son (age 25) is Ok .. Its just tough being in the car with him for hours.

Will take 7-8 hours to get there.

Fibro effects your central nervous system.. It causes you to feel like your in "fight or flight "mode all the time. Your senses are always on high alert. Add noise ,crowds and the stress of traveling. Yep my pain increases..

Maybe I'll have a mini meltdown and just blame it on being Bipolar

Or maybe taking a personal music player for yourself and listening to soothing music or meditative cds-- would help at home,too, while she's there. (If the girl sees you're wearing earphones, maybe she'll realize she can't talk over that.)

I'm not kidding; her behavior can be very disruptive of mental processing. Just excuse
yourself from her presence if necessary, imho.

I feel sorry for the son whose girlfriend she is. She has an ego problem not to be able
to control it for others' sake.

[~Christina]

I am sure I will have to hide out in my bedroom a lot more than I should have too !
I should not whine about it honestly, I just know what this travel and situation will do to the amount of balance I have been enjoying. I hate knowing I'm going to backslide a bit.

Such is life

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by morethingswrong

I am sure I will have to hide out in my bedroom a lot more than I should have too !
I should not whine about it honestly, I just know what this travel and situation will do to the amount of balance I have been enjoying. I hate knowing I'm going to backslide a bit.

Such is life

lmao about the duct tape. humor is such a good stress relief.

i am glad you will have a bedroom to hide out in if needed!

You are not whining I see you just preparing yourself for what will be mentally and physically taxing. I think you are handling it the best way possible.

And I hope you don't backslide at all, but if you do, you know it'll be just a bit, and you will get back to your balance soon.

[Anika.]

Aww, I am sorry. Husbands...

A music player and earbphones is a good idea. And trying to tune out the exxesive talking if you can. I hooe you have a safe trip. Or sneak off for a little quiet time when you can. I hope it's not going to be too rough.

If you backslide, like others said, it doesnt have to be a lot, and you can get back on top after it's all over.

will be thinking of you. Can you bring a laptop?

[purpledaisy]

I'd say to hide (from the gf) in your room or another part of the house, but -- dang it -- it's YOUR house, not hers. Make her hide. Ha!

Hang in there. At least she's not moving in for good.

[~Christina]

Yeah I will have my laptop ! Ill be able to come on here and that will be a huge help

I have been just going over my game plan for coping with the situation. Not sure how I will be able to take it easy while we are on the military base and all that running around... Probably will have to just suck it up and handle it.

[~Christina]

12 hours into this mess and I'm ready to flip out ! Drive here ..Painful as expected ! Step sons loud a ss girlfriend .. Yep louder than normal ! The step son with the loud a ss girlfriend.. neither one has acknowledged I am here .. Yes I said hello and played nice.. no idea why they are treating me this way , nor do I give a damn at this point.. Good thing I'm just the crazy Bipolar B,itch there father married ..

Sorry had to vent/ rant/ rage..

[Trippin2.0]

Vent, rant away Christina! So what if you're the crazy bipolar*****? Aleast you have manners!!
Do u have earphones? Since putting duct tape on Miss verbal diarrhea's mouth is inappropriate, I think you should just go ahead and get lost in music. If anybody asks you about it, you say 'I always have earphones on and I will not change for anyone'. I cant believe you havent told that rude girl to STFU, I wouldnt WANT to resist... Sending you soothing hugs my sister from another mister you'll be ok

[~Christina]

Thanks Trippin !

It's best I just shut the hell up, suck it up and cope with my real life personal hell. Considering I am here on PC, instead of in jail with no bond makes me think I am doing pretty damn good

[Cocosurviving]

You'll be in my thoughts. I agree abt filtering the gf out. Ignore her and find busy work to go. Once things calm don't it might be good to tell ur husband he hurt ur feelings and how. Maybe in the future he can think of ways to not let so many stress causing things get him at once.

[~Christina]

There has always been issues with his "sons"in regardes to me .. and I am just shutting up and not blowing up over it.. This is a talk that we need us in couples therapy I guess. Im just hurt sad pissed off and bone weary and in super pain .. Just took all my sleep meds and added a few extras will be passed out sleeping in peace

Thanks for the understanding .. It really really helps me

[hamster-bamster]

Sweet dreams!

[~Christina]

Got myself some decent much needed sleep. Today is step sons graduation from Bootcamp ! Proud of him ! Then a full repeat of yesterday .. Go me . I have all my coping skills primed and ready. If I got through yesterday, I can get through another round.

please be ok dearest Christina...
my heart is with you every little and big step ..and even more for the tricky ones

[Trippin2.0]

You can do this, no doubt in my mind hun

Yea ! Good thing you remembered to pack your kit of coping skills! Good luck!

[hamster-bamster]

Luckily, this, too, shall pass.