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Being civilized, I mean. Boundaries, social pretense, independence, weakness, sensitivities, FEELINGS, most especially.
I've been told that I give the appearance of being weak and that my emotions get in the way of my thinking and that I am so sensitive--never the same thing by any one doctor, however. I've come to the conclusion that some of them may have been projecting their own problems onto their patients. (Must keep the image pristine is the social pretension.) Most of us have been reared with a smathering of social training, but it's the little child within who gets the brunt of most of it, in my view. The truth is the little child within whose basic needs are the same as the "polished" adult are to be loved, to be respected, to be cared for, to be valued. They are naturally curious, attentive, believing, and trusting. How nice to have that within us! However we look at it, it is that little one who is the most appealing of all that is within us. Why is it so hard just to give that little child what it needs? Why are we so offended by almost everything that is said? Is it that the child within is so fearful or so insecure or so weak? I really hate being offensive to anyone and I don't want to be offended, either. Maybe that's part of what socializing is meant to be. Somehow, that aspect of "being social" isn't as strong (IMHO) as the need to want social approval. It's the three basic drives that enter the equation: the need for power, for reproduction, and for social approval. Going through the process of sublimating those drives is what religion is all about. No one can do it all, but most of us try, at least, to harness the weakness in drives that hurt ourselves and others. It's just all part of life, in my view, and some are way out ahead of others. Basically, that's what this formum is supposed to be about: to support the areas of weakness in all that can be strengthened by that support. I will tell you that one psychiatrist told me that the view of protecting people is being way out ahead of many. So instead of letting the little child within suffer with guilt, pain, sorrow, etc., why shouldn't we soothe that child with the same effort we make to soothe others' little child within? That's the real winning aspect of it all, in my view. (And, to reinforce that, I would say that "whatever we do to others we also do to ourselves.") And it's not unlike part of the religious view of many religions. "Get thee in to see a psychiatrist" is a well-intentioned helpful bit of advice. I do and hope others who feel the need of it will do so also. It's strengthening for the child within, not unlike the confessions in Catholicism, or in granting of the privacy in a doctor's or lawyer's office, or in sharing of friendship or in undergoing unrestrained emotional breakdowns. What needs to be forgiven needs to be forgiven; what needs to be helped deserves it, and what needs to be sought after should be achieved. It's the drives and their misled efforts that we work on in therapist's care, I think. The child is so open and carefree about that; in other words, the ego gets in the way so @#$$%much. I have read that religious conversion is literally "a burning of the ego to the degree that one becomes conscious of"...(sic) an over-riding spiritual guidance. Hopefully, healthy inner guidance is within all. Last edited by anonymous8113; Jan 16, 2013 at 06:33 PM. |
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thats epic gen...
I agree with nearly everything except this forum...despite the 'designers'.... it's a free for all...and anything is possible and if it's supportive...then? thats a miracle you write methodical and ....it's magnificent I tend to believe this place is more like an experience...rather than an expectation |
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Lol, Dubblemonkey, but your rational thinking beats all I've ever seen.
Love it all. |
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and I'm an irrational worm pitiful dirtmuncher tiny unevolved molecular matter...
that don't matter ![]() you are surely in a good mood this day gen.... and wonderful my friend ![]() |
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Ahhhh, I begin to see the genius of humor shining through the gifted intellectual you are.
So it's a "free-for-all", huh? Lol. Nothing like a waterfall to reveal the gold hidden in the rocks; you do that so readily and so easily. Thanks. Last edited by anonymous8113; Jan 16, 2013 at 06:47 PM. |
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That sounds to me like full blown mania as well, Genetic.
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Jim G 12 years w/Bipolar I |
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It could have been, Ubusi, but I don't know about that because I've never had full-blown mania. As I recall, it was a theologian who wrote that, but I can't remember for sure.
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