People that decide they don't like you for no reason?

I think I'm a great person. I think I'm funny, nice, and caring. So, why do people seem to meet me and decide they don't like me and sabotage me? I mean, really? Its happened more than once. Its it a case of "its them not you"? I realize its just something to move on from, but when it happens more than once, what gives?

Two examples from recent times....

Okay. So, starting from current and backing up, I just got over influenza. Last weekend, I went bowling with friends on Saturday evening and they invited me over for the next morning to play cards and hang out. So I did. I felt fine, but as the day wore on, I felt cold and kept having cup after cup of hot tea. My belly hurt and I didn't want any food. I kept shivering as they afternoon turned to early evening. My friend said it was just cold. I eventually went home around 7 p.m., and took my temperature around 8, and it was 102.4! I called the dr. the next day and went to the ER the next evening for chest pain: Diagnosis: Influenza. So I just stayed in bed watching dvds and resting with lots of liquids. But now my friend I saw over the weekend is kind of avoiding me. I called her the night I was there (Sunday) and told her I had a fever and she brushed it off saying it was okay and they'd just take more vitamin C. Okay so she never said she doesn't LIKE me, as we ARE friends, but I get the feeling she's not too happy with me as she just signed out of facebook chat without saying goodbye twice now and won't give me a clear answer on how everybody is. I just want to make sure I didn't get everybody sick.

Second thing... I had a job I started two weeks ago this coming Tuesday. It was cleaning houses. I showed up with bells on. I never met the boss. I only talked with her on the phone. She called me at 10 p.m. Monday night to tell me where to show up. (Private houses) So I had already bought shoes and socks and pants for the job. And there I was got up early and showed up way earlier than I'd normally get up ready to go at a stranger's house in a strange part of town and walked into the house. These two girls in their early 20s were upstairs and said hi and got me to sweeping the bedrooms. Then they got me to scrubbing the baseboards in the entire downstairs and then the windows and the window sills. I worked my *** off! It hurt my knees something terrible, but I went above and beyond. After a few hours, we were done with that house, so we moved to house 2 of 3. Same thing. When I finished a job, we I asked them what to do next. I made beds, nicely, with corners turned down for the children, and everything. One of the clients came home to give them a check and I said hello to him and was polite in that. After that house was done, one of the girls told me, "The third house cancelled. You can go home now. You work again Thursday. I thought it sounded fishy, but what was I supposed to do? I didn't know where house 3 was, anyway. So I left. That night, the boss texted me and asked me what I thought. She had previously said it was going to be hard work. So I said, "It was about what I thought." Which it was. Hard, but do-able. I never heard from the boss all Tuesday or Wednesday about when or where to work Thursday. I left her a text and a voicemail asking. Thursday came and I got up early and went to Starbucks and waited until 7:30 and called just in case- all dressed for work- no answer. And I texted her Friday. Nothing. Just completely shut out. I don't know what those girls told her that day I was there, but doesn't that sound rediculous? What the **** did I do? I went where I was told, worked my *** off, and I get shut out? I didn't say much to do those girls except ask what to do next, either. I think they just didn't like me, lied to the boss about me, and that was that. Thoughts? I can't even get ahold of her to get paid for that day. I know the person that is across the hall from her office and he says she hasn't been in that he's seen since.

The question is, does this really happen? Is it something about my personality, or am I just seeing something that isn't there?

Oh Moose , I do not think it is you. I do think both situations happening in the same week is just pure bad luck.

First issue... the Friends you hung out with last weekend, people can and are a fickle bunch. Maybe she is just super busy? maybe she always just stops talking and signs out to everyone? maybe for whatever reason... she just isn't good friend material. Don't assume its anything you did.

Second issue: Based on all the info, this situation sounds Sketchy to say the least. I would keep calling and at least get paid for the day. I doubt you are the first person that had done work for her and treated the same way. Keep calling, if you have her name goggle it , maybe will show if she has a record at least.

Neither situation has anything to do with you being a bad person , I don't think anyone is out to get you.. Bad luck and timing.

I think she's still a friend but I don't get why she is like this on fb. Unless it translates over now?

I heard the boss has issues with keeping/getting employees. :rollseyes:

I am bad about facebook I tend to wander off when talking to someone on there. Ha! Its usually because I get involved here on PC

That's lame moose I'm sorry that sucks Hope you hear from boss soon maybe she's bp also u never know

So sorry moose. Could your friend be upset or sick from you having influenza? It doesn't sound like that job was reputable.

Job sounds sketchy, maybe there was no intention to pay you. The fact that you can't get a hold of the "boss" is the sign there not the two other workers. Even if they had said something, you should be able to get a hold of management at a reputable place.

Friend? Well maybe you're reading too much into it. Sometimes I talk to people on Facebook and don't say bye when I get distracted with other things or think a conversation is over. It's a bit like texting. No one ever texts "ttyl" much anymore. You just put the phone down and pick it up later when it is convenient.

I don't see anything not to like about you. I never have. You have always seemed like a really cool person to me. Hang in there, it's surely not you and hopefully these feelings will pass.

what anoys me is people that do it just because you like something and they don't.

for example: i know some people who won't asociate with me just because i like downton abby, they think people that don't like downton abby are uncool, un inteligent, that kind of thing.. you know judge your whole personality on 1 show, or artist you like or what ever

i knew someone once who wouldn't talk to me just because i liked top 40 music and they hated it

omg how stupid

WOW Shattered ! Just wow.

I so would not could not handle people like that ... well .... stupid.

Moose, if they are that way, then it's their problem, not you're problem. You're a nice, caring, and intelligant person. So, it's not you. That job sounds sketchy to me too. A boss like that doesn't sound like a good boss to have. As for your friend, you said you felt sick but she said it was jus cold, so if she's upset at you for being sick around her... well, she wasn't acting like you were sick when you were there, so it's not all on you. You instantly took steps to let them know you had a fever once you found out. I don't know. Hard to tell by text tone, you know?